The Heavyweight Podcast
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The Heavyweight Podcast
Big Purr
This week, we get into what sacrifice really looks like in relationships—and how to know when you’re giving too much. From deleting numbers and career moves to choosing boundaries over guilt, we talk about the decisions that define connection, trust, and identity.
We also get real about cheating, forgiveness, and the kind of communication that helps repair—not just patch—what’s been broken. Add in some major health wins and a mindset that prioritizes progress over opinion, and this episode brings clarity for anyone balancing love and self-worth.
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Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
SPEAKER_03:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can we can weigh in some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation.
SPEAKER_04:You a hating ass nigga. It's very odd to me that my biggest hater will be a nigga, but I mean, hey, I get it.
SPEAKER_02:I'm your biggest hater? If I'm your biggest hater, you ain't got no haters, because I don't hate on you.
SPEAKER_04:You definitely want nigga. That's a lie, nigga. We can take that's gonna be the question of the week. Do y'all think this nigga be hating on me? Because nigga, I'm telling you right now the poll finna go off because you definitely be hating on the nigga. I don't hate on you. Nigga, you hate on me constantly. You always talking shit. Give me three examples. You always talking shit. You always trying to make fun of my goddamn clothes. You always got some smart ass motherfucking shit to say. You never shut the fuck up. But that's love. That ain't love. That's harassment.
SPEAKER_01:Harassment? This is harassment.
SPEAKER_04:Okay, harassment. Then you pull this nigga in. I don't know why he's hating on me. I don't this this one. He's not hating on me. Hold on. Hold on. Cause then here come yo ass with a goddamn joke. I don't know what you niggas is won from a bitch. Wait, what? What you niggas won from a bitch. Somebody let me know. When did I start hating?
SPEAKER_02:Wait, do you guys recall a couple months ago when I didn't say nothing to her? And I was she's like, What's wrong? Is everything okay?
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, because I'm so used to the fucking abuse that when you're not abusive, I don't know what to do.
SPEAKER_01:What do they call that? Stockholm? I got Stockholm syndrome. Battered wife syndrome.
SPEAKER_04:Listen, I'm trying to fucking tell y'all. No, he's so great. You know, my motherfucker. I know you're not laughing at battered wife. I know that was wrong. I apologize.
SPEAKER_03:Make that a clip and this. See how funny. Battered wife, huh? I'm afraid to I'm afraid to sneeze.
SPEAKER_02:I take that a different way because when I heard battered wives, I thought like when you you batter them up. Oh, you're talking about like pancake batteries.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah. So great. A little syrup. Surp a little honey. Go to work. You did the right thing.
SPEAKER_02:Mum's the word. Patty cake. Patty cake.
SPEAKER_04:You're fucking disgusting, bro. Why am I disgusting? And don't you sit your ass over here quiet the whole goddamn episode? It'd be funny when the nigga be fucking with me, then I fuck with you, and then you're like, I'm not gonna sing anything. Hey, can't miss that. I'm just gonna be quiet. I'm not don't don't do that. What's wrong with the uh I'm gonna just do not why am I disgusting? Do that because nigga, you every episode, shh every episode what? Every episode you have something crazy.
SPEAKER_02:Is it crazy that I want to batter my wife up? Play patty cake?
SPEAKER_01:A little, a little bit.
SPEAKER_04:It's a little excessive. Like you know I'm fucking with you, right?
SPEAKER_01:Buy pancake. What happened?
SPEAKER_04:I do not care if you sit there quiet the whole time. On public record, I was only fucking with me for because I know because you got so many fucking goddamn haters, I do not need you making no goddamn video next week. Don't you do that?
SPEAKER_02:It's gonna be a it's gonna be a bar. Oh, yeah. It was like colleague.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, stop.
SPEAKER_01:Oh shit. So you just be like, she's so great.
SPEAKER_04:And Ian?
SPEAKER_03:McFly blinking.
SPEAKER_04:I'm just talking shit.
SPEAKER_03:McFly blink twice if you if you feel in danger for your life.
SPEAKER_04:I don't even I don't even have the purse that you need to be blinking. I got the regular bag today. It ain't even my you need to blink bag. You gotta stop telegraphing that. I don't give a fuck. Nigga shit. They know what it is already. Do you see who the fuck I beat? Okay. I was hoping you had like fall colors on your nails. It's the vibe's not giving. I don't have fall colors on my nails right now because I did the red bottoms. You know what I mean? I'm always giving, baby, because I did the red bottoms. Thank you very much. It's giving. Okay, it's giving, it's giving style in class. Lack of coordination. No, I never have lack of coordination. Do you see what I'm saying? You just proved my point. Hater. Hating on it. How you hating on my nails? You a nigga. Worry about what color your wife's nails is. What color is your wife's nails right now?
SPEAKER_02:Oh, she don't do them right now because she's lifting.
SPEAKER_04:Okay, so get the fuck out of my goddamn business.
SPEAKER_02:She don't want to break her nails anymore.
SPEAKER_04:Put your nails off so he can stay out of my business. God damn.
SPEAKER_02:You okay? You feel better now?
SPEAKER_01:Why are you looking at me? I ain't saying nothing.
SPEAKER_02:You feel better in the gut sense. You feel better now? Now she talked all this shit. Then she tried to have Dominican.
SPEAKER_04:What episode number? I rode with Dominica. Matter of fact, I'll be seeing her as soon as I get done here. You need us to pull up at Bobo? Pull up. Because we will. I will welcome her in with open arms. Because we will, because she came right to that goddamn post, and I didn't even have to tell her. She was like, the fucking nerve. Why is he talking about my sister?
SPEAKER_01:I don't think I need to go to sleep after this. That's why.
SPEAKER_04:We're at 219. Thank you. Yeah. Thank you.
SPEAKER_01:Thank you.
SPEAKER_04:Uh, one topic.
SPEAKER_01:Wait, wait, hold on. You still mad about the edges? I shouldn't have said that on recording.
SPEAKER_04:Oh no, I wasn't mad about the edges because I hit you back with the code de sack and then niggas was like, Why the fuck would you tell that dead man he got a goddamn code de sack online? Like then I was like, because you I see niggas talking about they didn't see that meme you sent me with that soul glow, nigga. That shit helped me fucking that shit helped me make because I couldn't even come back with that.
SPEAKER_02:I know I've rocked, I've I've rocked my Jefferson proud before. You didn't do it again.
SPEAKER_04:You didn't make me mad neither.
SPEAKER_02:I just I can't do it again because every time I'm out here, my wife's like, yeah, you didn't make me mad.
SPEAKER_04:You keep on my toes because uh you keep the jokes flowing, but that's okay. See? But she called it hate. I'm it is hanging her for life. You you are hating on me.
SPEAKER_01:You should pull the Jefferson one more time.
SPEAKER_02:Don't come up out here looking like no goddamn Jefferson. That shit go play. If I don't shave from now to Halloween, I can be Jefferson for Halloween. That's dope. Okay. No, ma'am. No, ma'am.
SPEAKER_04:Hey, what's the problem, Devs? You got an issue? One thing that I personally think is is overlooked in in marriages prior to getting married is sacrifice. How much sacrifice you're willing to make for your spouse?
SPEAKER_02:Not one.
SPEAKER_04:Today we're gonna talk about that. We're gonna dive deep on sacrifice. We are, nigga. We're gonna dive deep on sacrifice and what that means to you in a relationship and in a marriage. This is episode 219 of the Heavyweight Podcast. I'm your host, Des The Motherfucking Diva. Back again with these three amazing black men. Introduce yourselves, brother.
SPEAKER_02:I'm amazing. Look at this shit.
SPEAKER_04:You are amazing. You a good husband to your wife, you a good father to your child. You are honestly a good friend. We talk a lot of shit, but you still really are a good friend. You're doing a great job on your weight loss journey. You're starting to get a little broke up, and that's kind of dope. And you know, you are a good man. You all I could say something positive and amazing about all of you. You still get on my motherfucking nerve. Like it's a brother I did not fucking ask for because I already got two annoying ass brothers, too. Stop.
SPEAKER_02:No. Trying.
SPEAKER_04:Ain't nobody trying to fuck you, man. I'm not gonna play with you. Mick Fly over here, sleep. Yeah, you put him to sleep. You put him to sleep. If I put McFly to bed, you know. Let's go ahead and go to the introductions. Thank you.
SPEAKER_01:Derek Penny. Derek Penny? Yeah. Thank you. Why? You know, we'll be running niggas over just one sense at a time.
SPEAKER_04:Derek Penny.
SPEAKER_02:I'm tired. It's your boy Molito.
SPEAKER_01:You don't know Derek Henney?
SPEAKER_03:Um flow batter and uh Stutter McNasty, if you ask him.
SPEAKER_04:Yes, that is.
SPEAKER_01:Are we talking about the batter we were talking earlier? Oh shit.
SPEAKER_04:How were your weeks, Jenny? I don't care which one of y'all go first. How were your weeks?
SPEAKER_01:My week's been good. Actually, it was really good. It was really uneventful. That's good. Okay, okay. I like that. I survived. Well, what was so eventful? Why was that? So lucky. Because it was uneventful. You like I like when it's quiet because the checks stay in the bank.
SPEAKER_02:I survived. That's my week. I survived. Oh, I took my we went to Harvey last night, so she had fun. You went where? Harvest Harvest Festival. Fuck is that? It's like the school version of the pumpkin patch. I was mad about it because I wanted to go to the actual pumpkin patch, but that's cute.
SPEAKER_04:She had a good time.
SPEAKER_02:She won the hula hoop contest.
SPEAKER_04:Okay, period.
SPEAKER_02:Turned up. I said, she kind of cheating because you're a gymnast and your your your balance is top tier. So you're kind of cheating.
SPEAKER_04:That's not cheating. That's not cheating. Them kids better practice next time. When they see her coming, they better practice next time.
SPEAKER_02:She didn't train for the hula hoop. She just good at it. She rest these kids suck. She won a lot of candy last night that uh she will never see.
SPEAKER_03:So, what would you call stuffed curry at a carnival shooting? Cheating. That's cheating? Yes, cheating.
SPEAKER_02:Motherfucker got every stuffed animal there.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, that's smart. Motherfucker got every stuffed animal there. He should go to the well, I guess he's got enough money to not be at the fit.
SPEAKER_04:How was your week, McFly? I wasn't done. Oh god, you still had more week. My bad.
SPEAKER_02:You know, midweek, the diva is coming for me online. So I had to, you know, I had to snap back.
SPEAKER_04:This nigga came for me. Oh Lord. And I will and I will screenshot and post the receipts later on today. Because this nigga came for me. Well that, yeah. The thing about it is you be forgetting when you come for me that I'm like lightweight funny. So I'm gonna snap back at your ass every motherfucking time. That'd be the problem.
SPEAKER_02:You definitely were gonna respond because you're a woman. You don't know how to shut up.
SPEAKER_04:You gonna respond, nigga, because you don't know how to shut up. Exactly. Thank you for saying that. I'm supposed to be the emotional one, thus you don't know how to shut your ass out. Really? Because I laugh. Anyway, nigga. How was your week? Because I don't give a fuck what happened on the rest of the Molitos week.
SPEAKER_03:Uh I had to deal with nosy neighbors. Damn. And yeah, that's it.
SPEAKER_01:Like looking over the wall? Or in the house? More than that. Like looking inside.
SPEAKER_04:What they was doing.
SPEAKER_01:Oh no.
unknown:Oh no.
SPEAKER_01:You gonna pull up Delves?
SPEAKER_02:Why are you? She gonna turn her hole off.
SPEAKER_04:She done turned her hole by. What they do to you?
SPEAKER_03:We have one of those over here. Essentially they called uh the uh the the animal control, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:You got an animal?
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I have two dogs.
SPEAKER_04:Shit, I didn't even know that. What kind of dog you got?
SPEAKER_03:Two huskies.
SPEAKER_02:That's because you're not friends.
SPEAKER_04:Well, that's it. Wait, you got an animal?
SPEAKER_02:It's because they're not friends.
SPEAKER_04:No, that's okay.
SPEAKER_02:Hold on. Nigga, stop lying.
SPEAKER_04:I I I like this nigga more than I like you, and I knew your ass had a motherfucking dog, and I do love dogs. I have two.
SPEAKER_01:No. Hold on, hold on. September and setting. Hold on, hold on. Let me time out. She came to that show and there was a dog there, and she was like, I was finna die. Did you see that nigga?
SPEAKER_04:Because did you not see that dog? That dog, let me tell you something. That dog was trained to get that dog was trained to get niggas. Because did you not see that dog get up and get under my legs and was all in my space? Go get your wife. Because she had to, I almost knocked her ass down trying to get the dog up off me.
SPEAKER_01:No, he probably was trying to get up on you. He probably was trying to I didn't want that dog on me. Because there was a whole bunch, whole bunch of white ladies in there, and he only Yeah, he said this that went past all the white people.
SPEAKER_04:That dog went past all the fucking white people and came right to my lap. Nigga, get up, cuz I the no ma'am.
SPEAKER_02:I was gonna say you don't like dogs because the way you be young this uh September.
SPEAKER_04:You don't be here in September barking. You ain't gotta yell her like that. Dog's your ass out. Cause September be tripping. What you want the dog to do? Talk? She said I mean that's what we're doing, yeah. Like, low key, I wanted to say something baby because September be.
SPEAKER_02:I'm like, poor dog, she cussing down. Dog got dog in there, like, bitch.
SPEAKER_04:I'm trying to tell you somebody outside, and you cussing me out. No, because September barks when she hears your voice, because she thinks you're in my house. So she barking, she be looking for you. Girl, he ain't in here gone sit down. Ugh. But I would like to see your huskies. I do like dogs. Are they are they babies or are they big dogs?
SPEAKER_01:They're big dogs. They might be babies, but they they swinging.
SPEAKER_04:What do you be dealing with this? This is your best friend.
SPEAKER_03:Huh?
SPEAKER_04:How do you deal with this nigga? This is your best friend.
SPEAKER_03:I just I I survive. I just survive life. That's that's what I do.
SPEAKER_02:Nigga, ask the questions, nigga.
SPEAKER_04:I had a the the fuck I was your week.
SPEAKER_02:Thank you. Her week was great because I was I was giving her engagement on her post by the.
SPEAKER_04:I was gonna get engagement regardless because your girl is funny. And I don't know why you trolling her. Nigga, I don't okay.
SPEAKER_02:Every time I troll you, you you get more views. I know it's that. I'm gonna start, I'm gonna start sending you invoices.
SPEAKER_04:Nigga, no, nigga, I was gonna get views regardless because your girl is funny. I'm I okay. I ain't gotta try to explain to you what it is, nigga, because you see what it is and you hate those nigga, and that's okay. You ain't the first one, and you won't be the last. My week was fine. I start school next week. I'm excited to go to my psych class so I can understand what the fuck is wrong with Mo.
SPEAKER_01:Oh shit, you're gonna be in here just analyzing us now.
SPEAKER_04:I be analyzing you now, so it don't even matter. It's my second psych class. I be analyzing niggas now. I know I know what's tea with everybody. I literally'll be on a date and looking at a nigga like, oh, Jesus.
SPEAKER_02:I see what's going on there. She can she see everybody's problems but her own.
SPEAKER_04:I see the fuck what's going on with me. I know what's going on with me, which that's why I'm in therapy.
SPEAKER_03:So niggas, don't take one as a therapist. Do not take me on because you will need three or four therapists.
SPEAKER_04:I got one. It's cool.
SPEAKER_03:And you know, smoking cigarettes needed.
SPEAKER_04:I'll be right in there rolling the weed. I'll be right in there rolling the weed. I don't get it.
SPEAKER_03:This nigga here got issues. You're like, God damn. Like come right on. Like, Kevin, switch me seats.
SPEAKER_04:This nigga's come right on. So just so you know, two things here for you, Molita. One, I'm very self-aware, which is amazing. That's important. I'm very self-aware. Yes, nigga. So I know exactly what the fuck be going on with me because I'm very self-aware. I think I see a lot of self-aware things on here. Number two, nigga. Thank you. Thank you. I agree.
SPEAKER_03:That shit is important.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, I'm I'm extremely self-aware. So, and then second of all, nigga, I'm funny as fuck. So it really don't matter if you get out of there with the engagement or not. This bitch right here was gonna get some motherfucking views. Period.
SPEAKER_03:I period. Was it two episodes ago? I wasn't going to laugh. But when you said the whole uh the is it the the Baldy lock in the three?
SPEAKER_04:That shit was funny.
SPEAKER_03:When you laughed, it made me laugh. So it wasn't even the statement, it was how you chuckled at it because you laughed at it and it was like it was funny to you. If it was funny to you and it happened to you, that shit was funny.
SPEAKER_02:Because I initially uh pictured her with the toy story here.
SPEAKER_04:I I got a picture. It's difficult to make jokes about me because I will tell you my own shit.
SPEAKER_03:But uh as it's dope and it's uh empowering in itself just to see that you were able to kind of laugh at it because a lot of people have trauma like that. They wouldn't they wouldn't have responded the way you did when that made me laugh because I saw that it didn't phase you.
SPEAKER_04:Thank you. And to the people at home, it's literally because I go to therapy, but it was dope.
SPEAKER_03:That made me feel good, and that's what if you look at the the back, I was laughing only because you started laughing about it. I didn't I wouldn't have laughed at it because I've dealt with trauma myself. So when you laughed, I was like, Oh, she said it in phaser. That's what she's doing.
SPEAKER_04:No, yeah, yeah, thank you.
SPEAKER_02:To the people at home, I do be lifting this nigga up. She just be acting like I don't.
SPEAKER_04:I said it on the last episode. I said this nigga has been so supportive. You said you said I ain't I I ain't did nothing. I ain't the fuck y'all.
SPEAKER_03:16 to be specific.
SPEAKER_02:Hold on, hold on, thank you. She falls for it. She falls for it every time, Kevin, but she's self-aware.
SPEAKER_04:I am self-aware, nigga. I'm just making sure I'm making sure you're aware. Okay. This this next section here, I'm gonna ask you guys five rapid questions because I'm not finna play with not now. Where are you going?
SPEAKER_00:We'll just keep going.
SPEAKER_04:I'm not finna play with now now. Not now, one of you niggas.
SPEAKER_03:I damn sure got lower. Yeah, I'm gonna wanna be.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, yeah, oh yeah, we gotta change chairs. We gotta change chairs. Uh-uh, okay. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:This gotta work. We potted.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, don't fuck with the tequila. Oh damn.
SPEAKER_04:How the fuck was oh damn a pulse?
SPEAKER_03:The wood fell. The wood did fall. Hey, shout out to Matt.
SPEAKER_04:Who the fuck is Matt?
SPEAKER_03:Matt, the dude that we had on that talker shit, the jujitsu dude. Yeah. The bluff guy. Yeah. So we were at at uh at the paladin at work, and um, it was me, him, and Mitch. And um I can't remember how they end up getting into it, but another guy came up and he was like, Oh yeah, you you probably got a small dick or something, right? And he goes, Yeah, that's okay though. At least my dick, I don't have to, you know, hold my dick up when I got when I go to the bathroom. I have to worry about my dick touching the water. I said, that is the most optimistic outlook I've ever heard on that stuff. Just flipped it. He just flipped it. I was like, I've never seen somebody with that such of a positive statement in that regard. Like, oh yeah, at least I ain't gotta worry about my dick touching the water in the toilet. I said, What the fuck? Yeah, he's gonna be able to do it.
SPEAKER_01:I ain't got everybody's ass in the room.
SPEAKER_03:He's like, I could whoop everybody's ass in this room right now. But I said that's the most optimistic view I've ever heard on that statement. I said, shout out to you.
SPEAKER_04:Close your mouth, Dan's. Because what the fuck? Nigga. Uh oh my God. Uh I'm like, why are you on such an aw? Why the fuck would you but you know what? He's self-aware.
SPEAKER_01:That's called uh, yeah. Okay, he's self-aware.
SPEAKER_04:For this next section, I'm gonna ask you guys five questions. Give me the first answer that comes to your mind. Okay, okay. We're gonna start on McFly's side of the room since we always start on this side.
SPEAKER_02:Wait, wait, are we all each are we each of us answering the same question? Are we getting five different questions?
SPEAKER_04:You guys are each gonna answer the same question. Would you quit McFly, would you quit your dream job for your partner's career move?
SPEAKER_03:Uh if it meant the betterment of the family uh in a heartbeat. If I knew, like if we would waited and I knew it was the for the betterment of the family and we still end up gaining more than we lose, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:I love that.
SPEAKER_03:I'll put on a damn uh apron that said uh stay at home dad.
SPEAKER_04:Okay, I heard that. I heard that. And let me let me before we before I answer any of these questions, let me just be clear. I'm I'm biased right now, y'all, because I don't like my husband. So let's just let me just my answer. I mean, so then you gotta answer honestly. My answer might be crazy. My answer may be crazy. Variety. That's good. I like it. Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02:I mean, mine's obviously the same thing. Yeah, absolutely. My answer is no. Are you serious? Because my dream job is no job, so I wouldn't have shit to quit.
SPEAKER_04:I heard I like that.
SPEAKER_02:I like that.
SPEAKER_04:I heard the fuck out of that.
SPEAKER_01:Uh so I guess, yeah, because we oh nigga, we got a dad who's a stay-at-home dad who be driving through, and all the dads be like, yo, yeah, I fuck with it. Yo, that's the guy.
SPEAKER_03:I'm gonna take it a step further. I'll I'll wake up and wear curlers and shit. Oh. A bonnet and walk outside.
SPEAKER_04:Do not put no motherfucking curlers in your head, you're looking like a skinny big perm.
SPEAKER_01:You're gonna look like a skinny.
SPEAKER_04:That's wild. Yeah, you're gonna look like a skinny big perm. Do not be outside with no fucking rollers.
SPEAKER_02:That's what they're talking about. That was niggas over there.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. Watch them. Watch them niggas over there. I'll be the nosy neighbor. Shit.
SPEAKER_02:Hey, hey, if I wasn't working, I'd be that nigga gonna block though everything. Yeah, there they get home by five. This nigga ain't cut his grass in three weeks.
SPEAKER_04:Uh, you know what?
SPEAKER_02:This bitch cut me off on the pickup line.
SPEAKER_04:I work from home and I'm I'm actually, I know what all my neighbors are doing, and I work from home. The police came cheating.
SPEAKER_01:Uh well, you can't put that on camera. You still neighbors.
SPEAKER_04:The lady that lived across the way from me, she was cheating. And she had her new nigga come and move all our shit out. And her old nigga moved that shit right back in that motherfucker later on that day. Oh. So yeah, I know who cheated and she rotating. The police came to their house too. Then the police came to the house next door to me the other day because they own a store and that shit got robbed. So the police came to do the police report. Uh my nosy ass opened the door, and as soon as I opened the door, the fucking backup cop was in front of my door. He was like, Man, you good close to them.
SPEAKER_01:No, you're like, No, I'm just wanting to. I crashed over here. I got a ring camera, nigga. I watch all this shit on ring camera. I'm invested.
SPEAKER_04:I'm trying to figure out shit.
SPEAKER_01:You ain't ducking this. I see you trying to duck it.
SPEAKER_04:Oh no, I'm not gonna quit my dream job for nobody's motherfucking career. And I'm gonna tell you why. Because I I in this particular situation, I'm not gonna quit my dream job. Why?
SPEAKER_02:I think you would quit your job. I think there's certain circumstances you would.
SPEAKER_04:I've not met a man yet that I feel so this I do, because this is about a partnership and in a relationship. I've not met a partner yet that I feel so entwined with that I would sacrifice my dream job for this.
SPEAKER_02:Christopher Maurice Brown. Told you not to work.
SPEAKER_04:I've not met Christopher Maurice Brown, but if Christopher Maurice Brown came and he said, hey, he I know you're about to become the head lead such and such, but it's over. All he gotta do is tell me, come give me hell, come in. And baby. So you coming.
SPEAKER_01:I'm gonna be my that's a double, right? Double entendre. I love it.
SPEAKER_04:I'm not pausing else. Don't pause that. Because I said what I said. Yeah, uh no. So in all in all honesty, no, I wouldn't quit my job for my current marriage just because I feel like uh now, I will tell you this. Had this been in the beginning of our marriage, when I was like all in, I probably would have. But right now that I've seen that I'm gonna pour into somebody that doesn't pour back into me, there's absolutely no way I would sacrifice anything for his well-being right now.
SPEAKER_03:He's gonna have to figure it the fuck out the next at the gym with the shirt that says stay-at-home husband with my Stanley Cup.
SPEAKER_01:And uh Oh, I'm not going to rock mama. I'm gonna use all of her money to build a home gym at home. We need it.
SPEAKER_03:I gotta be like the woman I see with the trying to keep it up.
SPEAKER_02:You gotta go to the gym for the social hour.
SPEAKER_03:I have a social done. I gotta see what it's about. I gotta keep up this body to make sure that she's happy when she comes home.
SPEAKER_01:You finna start the gym? I got a goal I set, so I gotta I've been walking. I started walking. I don't know about the gym. I'm not good with people's shit. It sounds weird to say. I stayed on myself.
SPEAKER_03:You think I talk to niggas?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Niggas are gonna start talking to you. That's the problem.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I'm there.
SPEAKER_04:I gotta gym every game good motherfucker done.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, try this. I got a plan of fitness. You said what?
SPEAKER_03:I did the Manny, the the dude, the Manny Pacquiao dude that walked up to me and I thought he wanted to smoke, and he actually gave me a compliment.
SPEAKER_01:That's funny as fuck. You was on on guard. You was in a fight in his year. No, he just cut because he's do you fight?
SPEAKER_03:I don't, I'm not that guy.
SPEAKER_01:We are grown as fuck. Like, we don't just be out here.
SPEAKER_04:I don't know why you saying we. I said, do you fight? I dare shit. I don't fight.
SPEAKER_03:I'm just gonna let you yeah, I'm not looking for smoke. I don't duck. I got shit to lose. But we don't duck.
SPEAKER_04:I don't I wouldn't say that I fight, I but I will defend myself.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, that's different. Yeah, that's different.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, but the look to go look for a fight, no.
SPEAKER_04:Whom did you see me fighting? Exactly. I will defend myself.
SPEAKER_02:You were fighting September last time I talked to you.
SPEAKER_04:And that's my baby too. I love September.
SPEAKER_01:Well, you're playing is your defense like offense?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, yeah, that's probably what's exactly what it is, Cap.
SPEAKER_04:Shut up. She turned her shit off. Don't even look over there for nothing to press. Press none of them goddamn buttons. Would you fuck? Next question. Would you delete your ex's number if your partner asked you to? Who?
SPEAKER_01:Why?
SPEAKER_04:Why?
SPEAKER_01:Why do I have it?
SPEAKER_04:Oh shit.
SPEAKER_02:I mean, 23 years. I don't know. Like, what is my number for 23 years now?
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:You how many phones I done had since I had an ex? Yes.
SPEAKER_03:I don't know numbers.
SPEAKER_04:Did you have an ex because your wife is? Exactly. That's my point. Yeah, you you you good.
SPEAKER_03:I don't know numbers.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I feel like I'm not sure.
SPEAKER_02:I believe you're like, I believe. Like math?
SPEAKER_03:Like, I don't know. Like numbers. Like, I don't know. Like if it's if it's in my phone, it's usually because it was supposed to be like for a contact or whatever. But if someone were to tell me, you know, you have this number, I was like, I don't.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Because it's usually safe from iCloud or whatever. I have shit from 2008 or 2007, and it's like, you know, this number's still in your contacts because it transferred from Google or some shit.
SPEAKER_01:And I'm like, I don't I got a gang of phone numbers in there where I'm like, I haven't called this number in years.
SPEAKER_03:You know what the one that made me realize that I've come far is I have Sal the Pizza Man.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Sal the Pizza Man was a place in Moval that was only there for like two months. And it was saved on my phone. And what the last time I called it, they said, Hey, Andy, right? Same usual. I said, Yeah, I'm fat. Oh man. That's crazy. And I was so let down when I found out they were in business no more. And I said, Yeah, it's time for a change.
SPEAKER_04:That is crazy. It's extremely visual.
SPEAKER_01:That shit is crazy. The usual at the pizza place.
SPEAKER_02:No, no, so so in package, there was a king taco on my package ball, right? So when I go, then I could be like, so uh a side of tacos? I said, yeah, yeah, yeah. Three? Yeah. Three. Like, I come here too much.
SPEAKER_03:I was I was very close to the hey, what's up, Andy? How you doing? How's it been?
SPEAKER_04:Oh man. Up close to personal issue. I kept that goddamn bakery in business.
SPEAKER_01:I looked at that shit. You're like, damn, I'm talking this nigga about personal shit.
SPEAKER_02:That's how it is with my daughter's school. Everybody always knows me because I pick up early. It's like Phoenix, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:So what are you guys doing today? Don't worry about it.
SPEAKER_04:Aww. Um, yeah, I would delete a number if I was in a solid relationship with somebody, but right now niggas finna be Roddy, Bobby, Ricky, and Mike all through the damn phone. Because hey.
SPEAKER_01:What's that mean? You could you're gonna do it backwards? I ain't deleting shit. You gotta add new numbers.
SPEAKER_04:I ain't deleting shit and I'm adding numbers.
SPEAKER_03:Are you gonna start a whole face?
SPEAKER_01:Are you allowed to ask that? Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Like that? Like straight up. I'm a I'm I don't big brother. I don't think so. I know, but I mean like that's uh love.
SPEAKER_01:I need to know what you gonna do. You go start it. Oh, you want to know like if you see it better, you're like this nigga, we gotta shake hands with him about our new edition shit.
SPEAKER_04:I don't think I'm gonna start a whole phase. I don't have the intentions on starting the whole phase.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, hell yeah. I mean she's doing it.
SPEAKER_04:Uh yeah. I don't have the intentions on the phone. Usually when you say that, uh if the if the uh if the hoes come to you.
SPEAKER_01:If the niggas knocking.
SPEAKER_04:I mean I mean, I mean, I mean, no, it's kidding. No, I don't I'm not gonna do that. Um I'm too old to have a whole face.
SPEAKER_01:I don't want to I don't wanna be like I'm not being mean because we we the same age, no car sex.
SPEAKER_04:No, yes, car sex. Why? We too old for that.
SPEAKER_01:Well, fuck your backup. We too old for that. Why not? I it's different, it's different, it ain't the same.
SPEAKER_04:I'm still don't let the size fool you. I'm still limber. I didn't say nothing about no size, Joe. And things like that. It's the crap I'm worried about catching up.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, shit about no sex. It ain't about being limber, it's about how you gonna spend the next day from being in that position with two months.
SPEAKER_04:I I feel fine.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, hey, nigga, do you?
SPEAKER_04:Okay, I feel fine. I thought the same thing until we tried to do the minivan shit, and then I was like, Be mindful that I was recently pregnant, and and that's where the baby was conceived, and I'm I'm I feel fine the next day. I felt I wanted to do it again.
SPEAKER_03:Self-aware.
SPEAKER_04:Oh wow. Okay, hey, so but no whole face, so it's not a whole face. A whole face, that's it.
SPEAKER_02:I just said you're not you said you're not doing a whole face. But that was what that was one particular person. Get you a sugar daddy, get you a nigga that's like and you ain't lying. So I'm like, come on, put some on your dresser.
SPEAKER_04:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, them niggas is funny.
SPEAKER_04:More than 40, though, because I more than 40.
SPEAKER_02:But when you when you get them, let me need them so I can talk to them.
SPEAKER_03:No, it's hilarious. My brain took that somewhere else when you saw them put some on your dresser. I was like, what, nigga, dentures?
SPEAKER_04:Oh, right right next to the 100 out bill. I'm through. I'm through. Would you move far away for love?
SPEAKER_03:Uh yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:What kind of love?
SPEAKER_04:Of your life, nigga. I don't know.
SPEAKER_02:I mean, if it made sense.
SPEAKER_04:Yes. I moved to Virginia for a girl that I that I loved at that time. Was she bad? Yeah, she was bad as well. So she kicked up. I never not had a bad bitch. Now I had a few weird ass niggas and a few niggas and a few all my bitches was back. Let me see if it's I never had I'll find her. I never had a not bad bitch. I always had a follower nigga here and there. I don't even follow her. I got a nigga here and there. Why you need a follower? Nigga, follow your wife. I didn't follow your wife, okay?
SPEAKER_01:I gotta finish the day.
SPEAKER_04:Would you move for love?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I was gonna leave the country.
SPEAKER_04:Really? Where you was calling?
SPEAKER_01:Out of the country.
SPEAKER_04:To where? To bread. To where?
SPEAKER_01:Very discreet.
SPEAKER_04:When you tell me off the camera, I'm curious.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it was it's the UK. I was thinking. I was like, you know what? You gonna eat beans and bread? Yeah, the food was not.
SPEAKER_04:What the fuck is beans and bread?
SPEAKER_01:That's what they eat. That's what they eat. The niggas' breakfast is beans, a slice of tomato, a ham, a little bacon, blood sausage. Blood sausage, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:What the fuck is blood sausage?
SPEAKER_01:You don't want to eat that shit. You don't want to eat that. It's a blood sausage. It's a sausage plate. You go.
SPEAKER_02:If I move to UK, I gotta move to the gotta move to where the Africans and the Jamaicans are in UK where they have spices.
SPEAKER_01:I could it was more in the it was yeah. I just look for an excuse to say it, isn't it? Get the old rusty. I'm gonna ask this question starting on this side. Well, I'll did we all say it? Do they traditional food like that? Yeah, I'm tripping.
SPEAKER_04:I'm gonna start on this side of the room with this question. Would you forgive somebody if they cheated on you if you feel like they really changed?
SPEAKER_03:Forgive or forget? You can't forget what already happened. It's just forgive.
SPEAKER_02:What kind of cheating are we talking about?
SPEAKER_04:Nigga cheating. Any type of cheating. Fucking, sucking, rolling, don't. I don't know, nigga, whatever the fuck.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. I mean, if you fucking, I ain't forgiving.
SPEAKER_04:Really?
SPEAKER_02:I could.
SPEAKER_03:I can forgive. I could probably just probably be like, oh, I forgive you. We're cool, but as far as like continuing a relationship, I can't.
SPEAKER_02:You know what hurt me more than the fucking heart? When she eat my food. That's number one, then fucking is number two.
SPEAKER_04:I would forgive somebody. And the reason why is because I do, I would. And the reason why it but now once, nigga, you can't keep doing it over and over and over again. But the reason why is because no, and the reason why is because I'm a firm believer, especially because I know how I operate, that in most cases, not all cases, you know if you date somebody, that's a hoe. But in most cases, when people cheat, it's because they're missing something.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I was gonna say it depends on circumstance because there's some greedy ass niggas too.
SPEAKER_04:I would immediately start to try to if I knew that we were we were missing something in the bond, I would immediately start to try to figure out what was missing on my part um to make you want to.
SPEAKER_01:You don't think it's circumstance in that two though? Because what if it's just like greedy shit? She shouldn't have to figure it out if she's self-aware.
SPEAKER_04:I am self-aware, but that's still circumstance. That's still circumstantial because because what what I think somebody needs may not be what they honestly need. I'm just lie.
SPEAKER_01:You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_04:Some niggas do lie, but I know when I'm fucking with a liar, when I'm not fucking a liar. I'll let a liar come do what he's gonna do for a couple of little little little rounds, and then I'm nigga, I can't fuck with you no more good rounds. Because I've been knew you was lying.
SPEAKER_03:So with someone that that's sexes, do you consider it the same when she if they cheat? If it was both with men and women, do you consider it the same when they cheat? Or do you look at it like it's a little bit more severe because of why they cheat? As far as like a lot of times they'll say men are like lustful and this, and women usually form like emotional connections. So do you look at it like it's still the same, or do you look at it like you need to know like in depth before you even when as soon as you hear cheating, you're like, oh, it was probably an emotional one, or would you look at it and be like, that nigga was probably just trying to get his dick wet?
SPEAKER_04:No, I look at the individual person, right? And um, and so for example, my husband doesn't cheat. I know this for a fact. But if he cheated, I would know that it was something emotional connected. Right. Because he's not a dog ass nigga. He we don't we don't get along on a just on other levels that marriages should get along, but is he a dog ass nigga? No. So I know that if he fucks with somebody else, it's on an emotional level. It's not that he just trying to fuck and do whatever because he's not that guy. Other niggas that I've dated, I know if they fucking, they they fucking because they just want to, you know, it just depends on you know who you lay next to. So it just depends on who that individual is and what led up to it.
SPEAKER_01:I I I'm that that I'm I think that'll be easier to forgive is the fucking. If it's just fucking, like with the emotional shit, it's like, damn, like that's hard for I think.
SPEAKER_03:Only because my I'm a very visual person, so the thought of them fucking after the fact, and I was like, Yeah, you had her bent up like this, or you probably like it, it would fuck with me more. I think.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, but I mean, either way, they gotta do it.
SPEAKER_02:I get what's Kevin, because if you just fucking, you just like what you saw. If you fucking emotionally, I was like, you like who they were, you like them. Yeah, what'd you say to that nigga about it was something them, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, fucking yeah. I also date women.
SPEAKER_04:So when men cheat. Did you let them put it in your ass? So I also date women. So when men cheat on me, it don't make sense to me. Because you could have literally just said, Hey, I saw this little thing at the job, she looking good, what you think about her, and then I'll probably be like, Yeah, or no, I ain't feeling her. So that's stupid as shit to me when niggas cheat on me, because nigga, uh, the fuck, nigga, I could have had the bitch too. So I think I'd be mad about that sometimes. Like, nigga, how dare you, nigga? You couldn't have just told me what tea was. I could have got the bitch, you could have got the bitch, we could have had the bitch together, sent her ass home.
SPEAKER_02:Could have clocked it, huh?
SPEAKER_04:We'd clock it, nigga, with a breakfast sandwich in the morning, I'm gonna scrap a little bitch some eggs and send her on her fucking way.
SPEAKER_03:Just no toast with beans. Very nice. Yeah, no.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, little bitch. Can't sit the bitch, can't drain the bitch energy and not send her out with something to fill her back.
SPEAKER_01:Well, I think she should be.
SPEAKER_03:That works in two levels.
SPEAKER_01:It's possible. I don't know if that's supposed. I don't know if that's resume.
SPEAKER_04:Y'all be killing me. But no, yeah, that's that's my logic behind it. I I don't know. Would you give up a lifelong friendship if your partner was uncomfortable with it? Oh, I have oh, I have an answer.
SPEAKER_01:Uncomfortable with what?
SPEAKER_04:The friendship.
SPEAKER_01:As in it depends on, I guess, why, but probably, I don't know. Probably not. It depends on why. I don't think my wife would ask me, but I can do that. It would have to be some shit where you're like, oh, I didn't see that.
SPEAKER_02:She has her opinions about my friends, but she wouldn't, she never tells me to stop being a friend to my friends.
SPEAKER_04:Do you have female friends? Yeah. I'm just curious.
SPEAKER_02:Do I talk to them daily? No. Do I hang out by themselves? No. But I mean, I mean there's people females are well, and I can't say females. I got two female friends. There's you one of them.
SPEAKER_04:Well, it's really Dominique, but I think we come as a package, dude. It's me and Dominique.
SPEAKER_02:As I say always.
SPEAKER_04:I you know, I I would. I would, I, I would. And the reason why is because I had a friend and she was no good for me, and this dude that I dated, that I honestly feel like I was the fucking problem in the relationship. I will be honest and said, I'm not the problem in every relationship. I was the problem in that relationship. And I've been in karma ever since.
SPEAKER_03:Is it circumstantial based then?
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, yeah, definitely. Because I should are you the halfway house through that? I swear to God, that should have you like, oh my God, he's seen through me. Because baby, I think this is the halfway house. I'm trying to rehabilitate niggas to get right and send them on a motherfucking way because what the hell? But um, but I should have listened to him because he he gave me um knowledge on things I wasn't seeing about this woman.
SPEAKER_03:So he was looking out for you.
SPEAKER_04:He was looking out for me, and I thought he was just being mean or whatever. But also, I was real, I was real mentally immature at that time, so I can definitely see where I went wrong. But he was really just trying to put me in position to engage with people that would help me grow, and she had no intentions on growing. On the flip side, I had a bet a male best friend and I pissed his wife off, and she doesn't she told him he could talk to me no more. I commend him for that because he did exactly what he was supposed to do. He stood by his wife. Uh, do I still love him? Absolutely. I still love her. I just don't fuck with her decision. Well, I don't fuck with what she did leading up to that to make me react the way I did. But I respect him for choosing his wife because baby, I tell you, my husband is not choosing me for no motherfucking body. I'm choosing me. And now feeling feeling how that feels to not be chosen by your spouse in a in a in an instance where you're right and their people are wrong and they still don't choose you, I would never put nobody through that. Never. So yeah, I would definitely excuse myself from anything that was hindering my relationship if I was in a relationship with somebody that I felt was worth it. What about you, Mick Fly?
SPEAKER_03:What was the question?
SPEAKER_04:Um, would you give up a lifelong friend um for your spouse?
SPEAKER_03:I think it would have to be circumstantial based. Like if if it's somebody that I knew and for a fact that they're not doing anything towards said spouse, and it was more or less just on a um They just don't like them as opposed to like say like like what Kevin was saying, like if you found out that they were doing something, you're like, oh, I didn't know about that, it that would change the the reasoning. So but if it was something like I just don't like them, you're like, okay, you give me some more.
SPEAKER_01:I just won't bring the nigga around.
SPEAKER_03:But if it's more like, oh, they did this, no, oh, they did that, oh, I didn't know about that. That that would change, like, yeah, then then yeah, I'll cut ties. But if it was something where it was like, I just don't like them, it's like I need more than that. I've known this motherfucker my entire life. Like it, it has to be more than just I just don't like them. But if it's oh, you don't see how they treat you or do this towards you, and you're like, and they're putting you on, like you said, they put you on game and they're actually trying to help you and look out for you, then that's different. So then then that you you you weigh it and you're like, yeah, then it might be best to cut ties then.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. And I was thinking, I do have female friends, but all my female friends are from my either my college years or females or like other couples that we're friends with.
SPEAKER_04:That's good. That's good that you guys have a couple friends because I think that's important in the marriage too. So you gotta have a couple friends.
SPEAKER_03:You said college years, and I thought I gave you the Zach Morris.
SPEAKER_02:It's been that way, it's been a long time.
SPEAKER_03:That was a good series. And I saw you with the blonde hair. We're supposed to go out with that. You saw him with hair? They always booked. Yeah, I'm a visual person. I saw him with hair when he said college years. Oh, he said it. Yeah. He looked like Zach Morris, but black.
unknown:Mr.
SPEAKER_02:Ellis, do you have anything to say about my statement? What do you mean? I said we were supposed to hang out with the Ellis', but they're always booked.
SPEAKER_01:Did you oh you wanted a response out of me? Oh, my bad. Let me know.
SPEAKER_03:So he was he was Morris or Maurice.
SPEAKER_04:Oh, Jesus. And your po wife, every time I see her at something that's not this, and then she'd be like, Where's your husband, baby? He's not coming, ma'am. I'm trying to get rid of your wife. She always be like, Where's your husband? Oh. Baby, I've been on this podcast a whole year, baby. Has it been a year? A little over a year. We're going on two.
SPEAKER_02:A year plus time served, feel like 20.
SPEAKER_03:Kynesha Kowalski.
SPEAKER_04:That was a perfect day for her. She's so cute. I love Kynesha. But yeah, no, your wife cracks me up asking me where John. One good time. I think she your wife, she is she's cute to me. She's fine as fuck. I'm not finna call your wife fine as fuck, but she is very cute to me. Like, right. She's very cute to me. She's very stylish. Her body T. I shared her picture the other day. I shared her picture the other day because her body tea. Get out here, baby. Inspire somebody. She's cute as fuck.
SPEAKER_03:So that would make you Maurice Morris.
SPEAKER_02:Said a couple. Said a couple, not booty boy.
SPEAKER_04:Ain't nobody trying to Okay. What does sacrifice look like to you in a relationship? I don't give a damn which one of y'all answer first. Somebody answer.
SPEAKER_03:You said what does sacrifice look like?
SPEAKER_02:Like, what does it look like to you in a relationship? Clocking in for work every day at noon and coming home at midnight.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Compromise or something. Yeah, compromise.
SPEAKER_03:A lot of compromise and knowing that you're doing it for the betterment of the whole pause, uh, as opposed to yourself. Like you're set you want to.
SPEAKER_04:Two different fucking ones. You didn't even have to pause that.
SPEAKER_03:I don't think it would be. But I'm my brain takes it there. Um But yeah, it's just one of the things where you understand that you have to sacrifice everything to make sure that you guys achieve better. So yeah, that it's knowing and being selfless in that moment and knowing how this is what this is what works best for us as a whole.
SPEAKER_04:Or like uh on the next episode, we're gonna get down to the bottom of to why the fuck you always got some nasty shit on your body.
SPEAKER_03:You just literally said that I was Stutter McNasty, and now I can't I can't stare into that. Man, be who you want to be, nigga.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, okay.
SPEAKER_03:Here you go, cheerleading. My lady still hurt from that walk.
SPEAKER_01:Well, whoa. I love his link.
SPEAKER_02:Whoa. Um shout out to my with her fine ass. She's fine as hell.
SPEAKER_03:She's only 46, really? Beautiful.
SPEAKER_02:She's beautiful. Fine as.
SPEAKER_03:I don't give a fuck how old.
SPEAKER_01:Six years older, though. I'm trying to get in that shit. No, you ain't. Oh, yeah. You just trying to be on the on the song. I'm talking about in it. Yeah, she's fine as hell. Um, yeah, sacrifices, like you said, it's for the betterment. Like, even little stupid shit that you don't want to do. Like, I don't want to go to this motherfucking thing, but it's for the family. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_03:So that was me last night, Kevin. Uh uh. Example shout out. See, this is this is why I like the Tucker shit. I saw Will at Target.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Oh, nice.
SPEAKER_03:And he was buying feminine products for his wife. But he looked at me and said, Don't judge me. I said, nigga, we've all been there. Like you understand that you don't want to be in that circumstance, but you do it because it's it's making things easier. We've all got that call on your way home. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:It's not like you just get the us thing too. Yeah. Because when you go to the register, don't nobody nobody cares. The navy guy that was here, Dave.
SPEAKER_04:The Navy guy. Yeah. The Buff guy.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, yes. Yes. I call him Buff Mo.
SPEAKER_04:Yes. I remember. That's why I did remember because I remember Buff Moe.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. Well, he said, don't judge me. So I'm not going to judge you. We've all been there. What are you talking about? Like, that's not like, but I do agree.
SPEAKER_01:You should probably make a jump to him though and be like, uh, Navy, huh?
SPEAKER_02:I can do you one better. I've been in a situation where I picked up feminine products, little girl panties at the same time. And no one's gonna look at you and go, and I'm just they're gonna go, we get it.
SPEAKER_01:Good job. Yeah, if she's single at the registry, like, damn. I think this is what it's supposed to be like.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, um, as for my answer, I don't know what sacrifice looks like in a healthy relationship because I I I've not ever had anybody sacrifice for me. And I think I've been overplaying my part.
SPEAKER_01:Over sacrifice.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, so I don't know what what a healthy sacrifice looks like. Hopefully, in the next relationship, I mean I can learn those things. Um, but I'm not there yet. I'm still learning how to properly balance the sacrifices I make for myself. So that was very dope. That's dope. That's where I'm at right now.
SPEAKER_02:That's I'm very proud of you, Phil.
SPEAKER_03:That's self-aware. Yeah, it's the truth. The first time she showed it today.
SPEAKER_01:That's not true. That's not true.
SPEAKER_03:I'm just proud of her.
SPEAKER_01:I'm on her side right now. You hating. Thank you. Hey, it is what it is. You got your hater girls on. I just want her to be better.
SPEAKER_03:I think that's keep the um the the I got her brain. Malibu most wanted uh sound bite on there, and every time he does, I just click it. Don't be hating.
SPEAKER_04:Okay. Okay, and that movie's so goddamn. I don't know if that if I love that movie or hate it. It's so corny. It's both.
SPEAKER_03:It's both.
SPEAKER_04:It's so corny, but then I'll just be chuckling because who told this white man to say this?
SPEAKER_03:That's not even the standout to me. It was Tay Diggs. I said, This seems like this is on the part is real life. That's who that nigga is. He's like, oh, I'm not acting. Where is my inspiration for this character? Like, yes, I see Tay Diggs being that one.
SPEAKER_04:So, how do you know when sacrifice is coming from love or if it's coming from guilt or fear?
SPEAKER_03:I think it's the after.
SPEAKER_02:I think it's come from love. You you hear no complaints.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah, it won't be mentioned.
SPEAKER_02:Won't be mentioned. Yeah. It feels like when it when it's coming from fear, they're gonna let you know I'm doing this because so you won't do this type shit.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, and then it starts to feel like it's tally as opposed to um sacrifice. Yeah, like, oh yeah, I did all this for you. And it's like, so you didn't want to okay. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Don't bring this up now.
SPEAKER_04:That's another one I'm still working on learning. I I learned recently with my therapist that I'm so used to sacrificing that I can't even do like small things without trying to make sure everybody's okay. So I'll like buy myself something and then call. We're in the same boat and see wildly enough. Yeah, like it's very, you know, and it's just I'm so used to it, I feel a level of guilt when I do something for me and not make sure everybody else is good. And apparently it's not normal. Yeah, I know. Well, I know that's why my therapist mentioned it, but I know that it's it's not a normal thing.
SPEAKER_01:So I'm supposed to feel this way.
SPEAKER_04:And I'm like, oh shit.
SPEAKER_01:What is normal? Shit, right. I'm I'm there. I want to know. We've haven't got to that. I was like, oh, okay.
SPEAKER_02:Normal, normal, you should you shouldn't you shouldn't feel guilty for reading uh feeding it to yourself. That's normal.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, definitely didn't even poke the head out.
SPEAKER_02:My therapists don't the same thing, yeah. You gotta feed it to yourself.
SPEAKER_03:I hate therapy, nigga.
SPEAKER_01:I because I do you gonna be the different therapists?
SPEAKER_03:I I I've been to therapy, I haven't been to therapy in a while. But the the fact that he said didn't even poke his head out, my brain went somewhere else.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, I was like, I know where this nigga's talking. With you, this is this is on topic, but I'm just curious. With you having a it and there's a reason I'm asking this, with you having such a quick transition in your body, do you think that therapy will help you balance the new you? Cause you're because you you have you're a totally you a different person, you're more open, you're more um vocal. I see you down my goddamn timeline a lot more. And are you are you balancing that in a healthy way, or do you think therapy would help you balance that in a I think therapy will help me in a lot of things that have nothing to do with social media.
SPEAKER_03:I think that the reason why I do that now on social media is usually it's I'm a rebellious person by nature.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_03:Um, so every time someone's told me I'm not supposed to do something, I do it. I kind of overpost. Well played. What's funny is I was gonna give them the uh uh a debt. I was gonna be like, here, figure it out for me. Anyway, like, but no, um, I just I do I over-post on social media because people throughout the years, when I would kind of post, would have something to say about me kind of posting. Wow. So I would have, man, you you to take a lot of selfies, and I was like, I take like one or two in a week or whatever, but then it would be like, if you're responding to me taking a couple selfies, when I see people take selfies all every day, all day, every day, but it it seems to be only an issue when I do it, it makes me then be like, like I said in one of the the captions is I do this because people said I wasn't supposed to. But that I that's where I I need to, I feel like go to therapy because I have a very rebellious nature. When it when you tell me I'm not supposed to, I'm gonna do it just because you said I wasn't supposed to do it.
SPEAKER_04:Because that could work out in your that could work out in your benefit, though, to be honest with you. I asked you that because in in me losing weight, I always am curious as to how I'm gonna be mentally because I'm so used to being a chubby girl and being like in that space that I don't I don't know if I'm gonna act the fuck up when I get small or if I'm gonna be like if I'm gonna go in a shell.
SPEAKER_02:You might you might act the fucked up in per and private and and be in a shell publicly.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, I'm I'm curious about that because and I hear a lot of people speak about things like body dysmorphia where they like really don't like they they think it's gonna be one way smaller, but then it's like a different way. And so I'm just curious how that is for you mentally.
SPEAKER_03:And you know what's interesting is you were you were sharing memories, and I was sharing memories from last year. You're significantly smaller than you were last year. So when you say like big, I was like, I get that you you feel like you still haven't reached your goal. She's small. Like I looked, I was like, didn't she? I never thought that was that big.
SPEAKER_04:I was 320 pounds when I started on the podcast. I'm 269 pounds right now.
SPEAKER_03:When I saw the post, I was like, she's she keeps saying she's the big. I was like, but you you're on this weight loss journey with us because you I was bigger shit.
SPEAKER_04:My face was big, big, big when I started.
SPEAKER_03:I was big. Look at the video because she shared a video and I shared a video and I was like, wow, like you can see the difference clearly. Yeah, she just don't put the difference. Yeah, she just don't put she don't she ain't posting like I'm posting about it, but like she's still she's doing the work. Because I'm proud of you.
SPEAKER_04:I don't think you I don't I don't feel um like anything towards you know us having this conversation, but when sometimes when certain people say, like, wow, you look you look better, you're smaller, it should make me panic. So I don't even talk about I don't know. I don't be wanting that shit. So I don't know.
SPEAKER_03:But I'm saying the progress is there. So when I like I hear you say, Oh, I need to get on, it's like, but you're doing it, you're putting in the work. Hold on, hold on.
SPEAKER_02:Thank you. I'm gonna tell you the same thing I tell this nigga all the time. Fuck them niggas.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, he says it every day. Um who gives a fuck what they think? But the progress is and it's shown and it's there, and I think it's it's uh it has to be commended. And I I feel like what I hope to do when I post so frequently is to make everyone around me feel like it's enabled for them to be able to say, you know, yeah, let me be myself too, and not feel like I'm in a bubble. Because I had a the there was a person that we work with that said that she was having a hard time uh posting about going to the gym, it was already hard for her. And then somebody anonymously did the shit where they said something to her that made her feel uncomfortable and she went back in a bubble. Stuff like that is what feels like I I kind of have to be that something. I even if I if I self-appoint myself to be so, is you can take a shot at me all you want, but at the end of the day, I feel like it's important for us to empower each other and empower ourselves to say, fuck what you have to say about me. I'm gonna keep doing what I want to fucking do because I'm proud and what I've done and I accomplished. So even when I talk about my stalker, and I I came across an old uh message that I didn't even get because that's why I was telling him that whole thing about having that verified bad shit is it has like an extra level of protection for messages. So it never got to me until I looked. And it was like, you know, I saw a partial of the message, it was like, you never look like that, you'll never look like this. And I had to sit back and analyze it and realize that I put in the work and I'm here, and you can say whatever you want about me, but at the end of the day, it's not gonna change what I'm doing, the work I put in, and who I am. And I think I just want people out there to understand that even though it's alarming how much hate and stalking is real in this world, never let someone change how you fucking operate or move. Just be you and and be happy in being you and knowing that there's a fucking community out there of people to feel the exact same way you do. Just fucking keep being you. Don't let these motherfuckers change how you move. Fuck them. Fuck them. I love that.
SPEAKER_04:Well, we are incredibly proud of you. Thank you. Definitely. I think your your stock are weird. Sorry. That nigga weird.
SPEAKER_03:My neighbors are weird. Fuck them too.
SPEAKER_04:Fuck the neighbors, nigga.
SPEAKER_02:Shit. They can say whatever they want about you, but they can't they can't deny the hustle and the progress. Cannot deny the hustle, cannot deny the progress. And that's a fact. Because if if you I don't believe you were 300 pounds, but if you said that and then you 260, I'm gonna show you the same shit about me.
SPEAKER_04:I'm gonna show you picture. I'm gonna show you a picture. I definitely was 320 pounds.
SPEAKER_02:They they the the the results are undeniable. They can say what the fuck they want to say when you're doing it.
SPEAKER_04:Thank you.
SPEAKER_02:I that's always this, and it's always a motherfucker that's 400 pounds. I got something to say about that.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, that's what I said.
SPEAKER_02:I said it's always somebody that can never do it. You about to pass out. No, bitch.
SPEAKER_04:Can you tie your shit?
SPEAKER_02:You about to pass the fuck out, tying your shit.
SPEAKER_03:You can't even get your legs over your stomach to put your pants on, bitch. Shout out to Joseph Batino because he was mad that I I revealed my progress. Your weight. Weight. Because he was like, We're supposed to wait till you got to your first goal. And I was like, I got too excited. I saw that over a hundred-pound thing and got excited. So I started at 365.
SPEAKER_02:I don't believe. And every time I tell Mo, he was like, I don't believe that shit. I don't believe that shit.
SPEAKER_03:You're over 300, I don't believe that shit. I started at 365. I am now 260. All right. So it's like Yeah, that's my credit score. No, it's not. Anyway, but it's one of the things where you just kind of like, fuck anybody that has a problem because you know anybody that does it knows how hard and it is and dedicate.
SPEAKER_02:You've already accomplished something that most people uh aspire to accomplish that will never do it because they won't do the work.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Because most niggas can't put the chips down.
SPEAKER_03:So it's easy to an honestly post behind a whatever wall that you of of security and feel like I can attack and lash out at anybody, but to put in the work and visibly show the world is way more powerful than what anybody can say behind a keyboard.
SPEAKER_04:And that's a fact, Jay. That's a fact.
SPEAKER_01:Most niggas.
SPEAKER_03:You most niggas can't put the chips down. The thing is, you you don't have necessarily have to, you can find alternatives. I eat quest chips like crack.
SPEAKER_01:We got them in here. They just the salsa verde is the problem. You gotta find the flavor you like.
SPEAKER_04:That's the I like the top.
SPEAKER_01:I just don't, I'm a big texture guy. I hate those big texts.
SPEAKER_04:We gotta know.
SPEAKER_01:Well, no, they can't. And he made me do it and tell her good too.
SPEAKER_04:Thank you, Kyle, because that was good, girl.
SPEAKER_02:No, I I eat mine with the with the salsa verde ones.
SPEAKER_03:Have you had the wild Nashville hot?
unknown:Sound good.
SPEAKER_02:Nashville, no, I can't.
SPEAKER_04:They got a Nashville hot one?
SPEAKER_03:Of the wild chip.
SPEAKER_04:Wild?
SPEAKER_01:Is that the name of the brand?
SPEAKER_03:Because it's it's a chicken-based chip. Dehydrated chicken with like chicken broth and whatever, like, and they make a chip out of it. So it's literally you're eating protein on it's not a chip potato chip, it's chicken. Where do you get that at? Target? Like it's W-I-L-D-E. Okay.
SPEAKER_04:They don't got no other flavor.
SPEAKER_03:They have they have Nashville, they have ranch, they have Buffalo, they have um chicken based. They have chicken and waffle flavor. Like, so if you like sweeter and stuff, savory.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, I might eat that one because I can't eat no buffalo.
SPEAKER_03:They have queso cheese. They have, like I said.
SPEAKER_02:I don't like syrup on my chicken. That's why I never eat chicken and waffles. No.
SPEAKER_03:But there's all these other things.
SPEAKER_02:I get that.
SPEAKER_03:Then there's the legendary that we talk about that that has like a texture of a pork rind.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, I love pork rinds. Them legendary. I love pork rinds.
SPEAKER_03:What's a legendary legendary chips? They have them at uh at Target. And uh the barbecue is the best flavor. And it tastes like you're eating a pork rind. A pork rind.
SPEAKER_04:I need to just run through Target.
SPEAKER_03:I I we know this. We for the longest time, we would I would go somewhere and I would just try some shit and be like, I'm gonna try it. Fuck it. Let's see it. And I'll like there was a shout out to that 7-Eleven off of Tippacano in um San Bardino. I they have like a a shitload of uh different uh protein things, and I would we would go there and I'm like, I'm gonna try it. I'm about to try it. I'll be like, Yeah, don't waste your time on this shit's trash. Like, but you you have to trial and error it until you find what you like. And I usually pass send game. Bar bare bells are my favorite fucking uh chocolate uh protein bar. Like it's it's like you just you gotta trial and error until you find what works for you, trial and error that shit. Okay. I know we're off topic, but nigga, I'm excited when I talk about this shit because I get it. People were like, oh, this shit's trash. I love food. Find the stuff that make that you like.
SPEAKER_04:It's okay. We're not we not necessarily.
SPEAKER_02:Also, can I just say this real quick? Yeah, go ahead. Um, if you look for something that's low carb, pussy.
SPEAKER_04:You know, uh, this has been episode 219 of the heavyweight podcast, okay? We uh accomplished so much today. We covered sacrifice and and what that looks like. We also covered a portion of Mick Fly's amazing weight loss journey. So thank you guys so much for tuning in and make sure that you uh like, share, subscribe, comment. Low carb, no carb. Buck the haters, the motherfucking haters. Be happy, be good, and get on your weight loss journey. Because in all honesty, I don't say anything about my my journey losing weight, but I feel a lot better and my A1C is intact, and I no longer have diabetes, and I no longer have high blood pressure, and that shit's amazing. You ain't got to tell me.
SPEAKER_03:So you're never gonna try the beat stuff? Do I do what? The beat stuff I sent you.
SPEAKER_04:Oh no, I am gonna try the beat stuff. I am still gonna take the beat stuff. Bye ya. Peace.
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