The Heavyweight Podcast
Welcome to *The Heavyweight Podcast*, where every week, a dynamic group of four—“this lady and these three guys”—come together to discuss a wide range of topics that both warm the heart and nourish the soul. The Heavyweight Podcast brings together four unique individuals, each with their own perspective, to engage in open and honest conversations about real-life situations. Whether you're in need of a good laugh to release some tension or you're seeking real answers to life’s tough questions, tune in to *The Heavyweight Podcast*. Whatever you're looking for, you’ll find it here.
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This week on The Heavyweight Podcast, we’re having a real conversation about identity and self-discovery. We open up about who we really are when no one is watching, what we’ve had to unlearn, and the boundaries we’ve learned to set.
It’s a vulnerable discussion about growth, survival, and becoming your authentic self—one that will have you thinking about the parts of you that rarely see the light of day.
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Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 2:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation.
Speaker 3:The reason I don't go to the gym is because I don't like being there by myself. I'd be stressed the fuck out. So would my wife. I'd be stressed the fuck out. I can't go with her because, baby, she could pick me up.
Speaker 1:Take some AI glasses and just talk to her.
Speaker 3:Baby and throw me, and you're not by yourself. That's a strong-ass lady, hey man.
Speaker 1:How are you today?
Speaker 4:Honestly, like honestly, the gym is actually safe for girls because most guys don't want to be accused.
Speaker 2:They don't want the trouble.
Speaker 4:Don't want to be accused of shit, so they avoid girls all the time. It's going to be the other girls that talk to you.
Speaker 3:I don't know what the equipment. Like some of it.
Speaker 2:Nigga, there's YouTube and TikTok. Did he say TikTok?
Speaker 3:Yeah, he did, he did, he did, he did.
Speaker 1:Yep, I'll shut down. I'll shut down, I'm done, I'm over it.
Speaker 2:Nigga said TikTok, I'm over it All right, let's go, let's roll.
Speaker 4:That's my new app.
Speaker 1:That's my new date app. This needs to be done in 15 minutes. Alright, girl, I'm over this, let's go you up with Dick Todd let's record okay, what's?
Speaker 4:wrong with Dick Todd girl?
Speaker 3:John Wayne okay what episode number is this 180? 86 okay, the most important person for you to know is yourself. Today, we are going to talk about some concepts that really will highlight things about yourself that maybe the world didn't know and you're willing to share. Today. I am Desi Diva. This is episode 210. And I'm back again with my three favorite gentlemen and one of my new faves what's up man? What's up, what's up it? Of my new faves.
Speaker 5:What's up, man? What's up, what's up? It's Pat on the building.
Speaker 3:What's up, Pat? What's up Guys? Introduce yourself. Y'all know this routine, you know the routine.
Speaker 1:Oh, my bad, I'm Screenshot Jack.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh, what is Screenshot?
Speaker 1:Hey, he said he got the receipt. Hey, screenshot jack, that's me jack got the receipt.
Speaker 4:It's your boy.
Speaker 2:Positivity, oh my god once again huh, I'm the often shy, the guy they call mcfly and, as I mentioned, I am your girl.
Speaker 3:There's a diva. How was your weeks?
Speaker 1:a smorgasbord Fuck it.
Speaker 2:Of meat Paws.
Speaker 1:That makes yourself bad.
Speaker 2:Paws makes himself bad.
Speaker 3:Oh God, okay, what about you, molito?
Speaker 1:Damn. I'm just kidding, I can't even get a real one out I went to therapy and shit, they got this therapy. You you know, but fuck it, hey, whatever I'm proud of you, kevin.
Speaker 4:Thanks, I appreciate it.
Speaker 3:I mean, it's a you might inspire somebody who out there watching that need to go to therapy I know at least two people in here I go to therapy, so the fuck are you talking about a new therapist I don't need to do therapist me and hers on the right page. You know what doing I'm in school to be a therapist. I don't need no help, leave me alone, go ahead. Next person Therapist.
Speaker 4:Therapist Piss, is that like therapy Piss? Because?
Speaker 3:all the pissed off people will be coming to me and I will be getting them right. Thank you, please go ahead.
Speaker 2:So you're in a new state.
Speaker 3:I got, I like to just say rim shot, pat, how was your week?
Speaker 5:My week was good man.
Speaker 3:Jump in there. You a regular. Now Jump in there, buddy.
Speaker 5:My week is good, man, just chilling, working. You know the drill.
Speaker 1:What are?
Speaker 5:you working on.
Speaker 1:I'm kidding, I'm kidding. They tell you what to work on Me too.
Speaker 5:PMS.
Speaker 1:I know what that means. It don't mean what you think. It means Plan maintenance.
Speaker 3:Baby, I got confused how you working on that. This nigga got research, hold on.
Speaker 2:The two semen have an inside joke.
Speaker 3:Oh man, yeah, we talking about PMS, semen talking about PMS, and when they say semen y'all, they talking about the Navy, because I didn't know, are we? I hope so Are we?
Speaker 1:I hope so. We might be talking about nut.
Speaker 3:I got a clock out. If you are, I'm going to fuck home. I am off my shift, if you are.
Speaker 4:My week was cool, just stressful getting ready for the baby girl's birthday, Yay happy birthday princess. She has a whole weekend of fun coming up.
Speaker 1:It's already spent, huh.
Speaker 4:Yeah, man, you know. And on top of that we took her to the fair. Yeah, I just hear it in your voice and uh alright once again she ate my goddamn turkey leg.
Speaker 1:I don't understand why don't you just buy two, because they're $20 a piece.
Speaker 3:So you already know when you go to the fair you need 40 extra dollars.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just put 40 aside.
Speaker 4:I look forward to the turkey. All I want is a turkey leg. Just let me eat the goddamn turkey leg. I want the smoked turkey leg.
Speaker 3:Because, oh my mama, I feel like you said she ate your turkey leg last time she did, so I feel like you know now.
Speaker 4:Every time we go to the fair, to the Halloween festival, anything she eats my goddamn turkey leg.
Speaker 2:So get to it, why not? Get to it you can go to in the rural area off of Highway 74. Catch you, a live turkey.
Speaker 4:In Paris, California.
Speaker 1:They got wild turkeys Not to drink.
Speaker 2:but Just go to the country parts of Paris off of Highway 74.
Speaker 4:Ain't turkeys mean, though I told you I got chased by a peacock. I ain't fucking with no turkey.
Speaker 1:I feel like, just the way it sounds, it should be paused I ain't pausing that.
Speaker 2:Goddamn peacocks are aggressive as shit yeah, that's why they pee so maybe you'll meet a jive turkey we ain't finna do this all morning I had a.
Speaker 3:I had a uh we ain't finna do this all morning. I had a pretty good week myself just work, you know, doing the regular old stuff. Mcfly, did you say how your week was? I think you did.
Speaker 2:I was just making puns.
Speaker 4:Were you the Punisher.
Speaker 2:You can call me the Punisher. I'm Frank Castle at this bitch.
Speaker 1:Okay, I was like you don't want to be the punisher because that's that nigga just testified so.
Speaker 3:So, in light of the fact that we we are definitely in, in my humble opinion, one of ie's best podcasts, I'm going to ask you guys to highlight some of your say that or conviction, I know, I know there's know you these niggas already know what the fuck I feel. They know the motherfucking heavyweights is coming heavy.
Speaker 2:And that's what the fuck we is. They already know there we go.
Speaker 3:How the fuck I feel about that shit. I was trying to be humble but you said bring it out. You know what? I'm definitely coming. I wish you wouldn't Not sitting next to me. You said we was coming heavy. I was with it. But what we're going to do now is we're going to highlight some of our favorites, and it could be something well known, it could be a more local podcast, but let's highlight some of our favorite podcasts and what we like about them. Okay, let's go with you. First, mcfly.
Speaker 2:I'm a big fan of the Joe Button podcast.
Speaker 3:Okay, joe, you niggas. I recently watched it and it is actually really good. I'm not even gonna hold you, joe. Good, joe, you on your shit, joe 20 mil. Go Joe. What about you?
Speaker 1:I don't know the name. There's two of them, there's Most Deaths and Dave the Midnight Shit.
Speaker 2:The Midnight shit, the Midnight, yeah, the Midnight Miracle.
Speaker 1:Quest Loves is pretty good too. Forget the name, but it's just nerd shit. Them niggas just talking music and stuff and different artists. I like that stuff.
Speaker 3:Okay, so they resonate with you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a different level of just banter, and then I watch NPR and shit like that.
Speaker 4:This week on NPR. What about you Me? It's Life After I Do.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I fuck with you. I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 4:I plug all my shit All right, you should the.
Speaker 5:Joe Budden podcast and then Carmelo's Anthony's podcast.
Speaker 4:Okay, you see that shit he do with his son who, carmelo, we had that on episode I probably did.
Speaker 5:He schooled him, he cooked him.
Speaker 4:He was like talking about his son's game and he was like Daddy, I don't know what you're talking about. He thought I'd cook you this. Nigga want the smoke.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow, yeah, yeah, that's how you get the clicks.
Speaker 4:I think the name of that podcast that lady crazy, that lady funny as shit Boy it's called. Don't Call Me White Girl.
Speaker 3:She's black, she's so funny.
Speaker 1:I think she about to be on Joe Budden's podcast.
Speaker 3:I need to see it because she's fucking hilarious. And I'm not even going to hold you, and I'm not even just saying it because the nigga is in here, but Life After. I literally wake up on Wednesday and I'm in the bed with my phone on purpose to roll over and see what song y'all are singing.
Speaker 1:Subscribe to Patreon, nigga.
Speaker 3:Yeah, subscribe nigga. I couldn't give him love without him saying something. Okay, but anyways, this podcast is dope. I definitely love it. And Heavyweight definitely my absolute favorite and it was my favorite before I was coming heavy. And definitely my absolute favorite and it was my favorite before I was Coming heavy and it was my favorite before I was sitting here.
Speaker 3:You're definitely coming, definitely. He can vouch for that. This was my favorite before I even got to be a part of it, so definitely always my favorite. So that was us just showing a little bit of love to all of you out there that are podcasting. We appreciate everybody in the space with us, because you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5:We are amongst some of the best people.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we do we?
Speaker 3:I appreciate everybody in the space with us because you either you either go learn from them one way or learn another damn way. So I appreciate everybody in our space. But, as I mentioned, we're going to be speaking about self today. So the first question let's get this going who are you when nobody's watching?
Speaker 4:I'm the nigga, I'm the one, just make sure you're keeping up.
Speaker 2:He just quoted McFly.
Speaker 3:Okay, I'll give him that. I'll give him that. Mcfly. Who are you when no one's watching? Who are you when nobody watching? Nigga.
Speaker 2:Let me turn because I want to know. I am a often uh disturbed individual dexter that, uh, I'm not gonna say that out because it's it's, it's it's expected to say I vigorously masturbate anyway. I am a disturbed individual who likes music a lot and is often annoyed by how people act and how they act in public. There you go.
Speaker 1:So you hate Walmart.
Speaker 3:You gotta hate Walmart.
Speaker 2:Walmart does irritate me. Yes.
Speaker 3:Walmart has a page called People of Walmart. Go look at it. It's some shit on there. Who are you when no one's watching? Pat?
Speaker 5:Quiet, chill, reserved, disturbed at times, but annoyed by people's actions and just sometimes being around.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you, you that nigga when people watching too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's who you is. I often like to laugh a lot too. That's the thing that I don't think people realize I love to laugh a lot I've only learned that simplest, that's the most simplistic shit that make me laugh.
Speaker 3:So I've only learned that about you in maybe like the last like six or six to eight months that I've seen you kind of like open up more and laugh more and you have a really funny personality.
Speaker 4:Well, McFly, don't be out here starting something.
Speaker 2:That nigga? Whoever's putting that old man up to do playing michael?
Speaker 3:jackson god damn who are you when nobody's watching you?
Speaker 4:uh, I am just a uh dedicated friend, husband and father, that's it and he loves me.
Speaker 3:When no one's watching, guys, he do not care he is lying I, I tolerate, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like an additional sister that he's I tolerate desire he's lying the lies only because life a dominion how the fuck you gonna tolerate me only because somebody you ain't seen the hell if she even say hi to. If she even say hi to you, it's because I said she could. That's my sister.
Speaker 4:Damn it, she the better one.
Speaker 3:And you know what? I don't deny that. I think she's the better one. Oh my god, cool.
Speaker 4:Kev, who are you when no one's watching?
Speaker 1:yeah, I'm an absolute basket case oh just crazy huh yeah, just everywhere. I like the arts. I like arts and shit history as much as I didn't think I like history.
Speaker 3:I like history and shit like that and just wanna be a history teacher no, fuck no that's great, yeah into like serial killers and shit though too so.
Speaker 4:Dexter probably closer. So you like the true crime shit? Yeah, a lot too much.
Speaker 1:I've been liking that shit for a long time though it's all the mice standing up watching unsolved mysteries. Yeah right, maybe into that shit. For a long time now it's all the mice standing up watching Unsolved Mysteries. Yeah right, maybe into that shit. Why do?
Speaker 3:you kill people. That's funny. So who are you? Me, I'm actually a really gentle person when no one's watching. When nobody's watching.
Speaker 5:I'm gentle.
Speaker 3:Stop the cat hey cuz.
Speaker 4:Let me tell you something. What happened to gentle you? I know?
Speaker 3:you said you was gentle. You Don't know me nigga.
Speaker 1:Okay, please Don't let this nigga Get you fucked up. So let's all look away, so she can be nice Please.
Speaker 3:Please don't get fucked up On this nigga behalf, because you trying to help this nigga out, we ain't looking. You supposed to be nice. Fuck nigga, I'll be on.
Speaker 5:I'll slide this way.
Speaker 3:I'll slide this way on your ass too. I'll be cool. I'm cool if you cool, but I'm cool with tripping too.
Speaker 1:You gotta stop trying to fight everybody.
Speaker 4:But she's calm and nice.
Speaker 3:But I am very nice and very calm. I am very calm. I think I'll be chilling. You niggas be gassing. I think I'd be chilling. You niggas be gassing. Do we got the Rick?
Speaker 2:James thing, y'all be fucking with me.
Speaker 3:Play the tape back, y'all be fucking with me. You say shit to trigger me, and then I get triggered, and then you be like see, oh my God, and then she's in the car. And then what's going on? You nigga, you do know.
Speaker 2:You do know so much hostility.
Speaker 3:And I'm not done yet. Don't press that fucking button, are you done? Are you done? Shit? Y'all get on my fucking nerves, okay, so excited? And what part of yourself have you had to unlearn? Nigga, I'm gonna stay talking shit, okay, till I die. Okay, might pop up off the casket real quick and say a few more damn things, then lay the fuck back down.
Speaker 2:So when you did pop out of the casket, do you then say sometimes you gotta pop out and show niggas.
Speaker 3:Okay, niggas, thank you. What part of yourself have you unlearned to become more authentic? Ooh, that's different than what I thought, surprise, I had to unlearn not giving a fuck what people thought of me. Okay, okay. What about you?
Speaker 5:Plays with more confidence than myself.
Speaker 3:Okay, friend, that's a good one Okay.
Speaker 4:Keep working, oh my.
Speaker 3:God, you're doing great. Fuck you Mo. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Let him talk, cause a minute ago you was letting him cook. Now, all of a sudden, he say something to you and then fuck you Mo, fuck you Mo go ahead, mo, I don't know.
Speaker 4:Go ahead, kevin.
Speaker 1:I think I'm working on it still too. Um, saying no doesn't mean I don't care. Oh, it means you care about you.
Speaker 4:No.
Speaker 1:I got to learn that that's not what that means either yeah it is Fuck them. Sometimes it's got to be no.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I shouldn't feel bad for no.
Speaker 3:What you got Mo.
Speaker 4:I'm just trying to be positive. I'm like a month in and this shit is rough. He's positive.
Speaker 1:Mr Positive, that's rough.
Speaker 3:Go ahead.
Speaker 2:You'll get there.
Speaker 4:I'm positive about myself. You'll get there.
Speaker 1:He didn't put that in there.
Speaker 3:You'll get there. You come a long way already.
Speaker 4:Patrick know I be fucking with him.
Speaker 3:You'll get there.
Speaker 4:If I don't mess with Patrick, he'll be like man. What's wrong with you, nigga? You ain't saying this shit.
Speaker 2:See, he's got that built into everyone, that's fair. Yeah.
Speaker 3:You almost feel like traumatized when he not talking shit.
Speaker 1:So he gaslit the fuck out of you.
Speaker 2:Did I do something wrong? Why?
Speaker 1:are you not?
Speaker 5:But that's how he introduced himself to me.
Speaker 4:I probably said something about the first time I met you. I don't remember.
Speaker 3:So being positive is yours. You're working on being positive to self.
Speaker 4:Everybody, but mostly self oh.
Speaker 1:I like it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, mostly self.
Speaker 3:Okay, so when I got here today, you didn't think about that I had to get some drugs off. You had it because you missed me. Just say it no, you missed me, you did it's okay, I missed you guys too no we didn't. Yeah, yeah, you did, it's okay we did I had my thing that I had to unlearn and relearn was that it is okay to have an unapologetic, deep love for self.
Speaker 3:Like I think, I almost felt guilty or I never lost that I think I almost felt guilty, or I felt like, um, like I wasn't loving others if I poured too too much into myself. And then I had to learn that it was okay to be unapologetically in love with self. It's okay to be selfish, yeah. So so first is never selfish. I had a friend that used to tell me that all the time, and I definitely agree with that. So that was my thing, that I had my nigga. Are you cool? I like them. Like what's up. Is you cool over here? You okay.
Speaker 2:I just wanted to see how long it take. What's that For someone to say?
Speaker 3:something I felt you doing it and I was trying to ignore you. I felt you doing it, but I couldn't. I couldn't fucking take it no more Like what can I buy Some of them.
Speaker 2:Well played.
Speaker 3:How much of who you are today is shaped on survival and how much is a choice? 95% survival.
Speaker 2:Okay, 85% survival 99%.
Speaker 1:I don't know, just flying, seated my pants. Yeah, I'm glad, 100% choice.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Survival. I guess I got these kids and shit and family.
Speaker 2:So I gotta survive and make sure that shit work. But that's right, I just popped in my head um, it's survival.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah I see somebody lying no man, don't do that. This is drake's time.
Speaker 2:It's drake's time what did I miss?
Speaker 4:yeah, let's go, let's go let's go, let's go mine is what is that?
Speaker 3:it's probably like a good I would say like 98 survival and it's really just because I'm just now starting to, in last year, to make more choices that are not completely based on survival.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, yeah, so you're getting out of the. I think I got a lot of choices. Yeah, that's what's up.
Speaker 3:I'm getting out of that, that survival and more like choice.
Speaker 1:I mean, if you would just listen to me.
Speaker 3:You know what. Don't listen.
Speaker 1:Definitely get into choices.
Speaker 3:I hear every piece of advice, advice that you give me and and you don't listen I do, I do listen and, uh, I also hear that it comes from a very loving space. Because no? It doesn't yes, it does yes one thing I learned about you one thing I learned about you is if you didn't give a fuck, you wouldn't waste your breath. So you definitely. It does come from a loving space for sure, for sure when you do this, you look like I don't. Don't do that.
Speaker 4:Hello.
Speaker 3:It's stressing me out Like a good cartoon or something. Don't do that.
Speaker 1:Shit Are you guys still selling them selfish.
Speaker 4:Y'all, you know this is random, but anybody know where I can get some good catfish?
Speaker 1:Can't you eat that place in Mova I?
Speaker 3:panicked. I literally panicked, like Jesus, please.
Speaker 1:I don't do catfish really cause most people fuck it up is that fish?
Speaker 2:and fries still there, that one place where you fry, we buy or you buy, we fry.
Speaker 1:Ralph's. The Ralph's in Canyon Crest fries it. Alright, sorry, we went on tangent my fault. Hey, you had one more Ralph's and then and Chris fries it. Nah, I'm good, all right. So we went on tangent.
Speaker 3:My fault, hey, hey, hey, you had one more Ralphs and then it was finna be done, so I was gonna loop you back in, it's okay. What do you think that you're gonna be in 10 years? And who, as opposed to who you are now? Like, where do you think you're going in 10 years? You whisper, come on, whisper.
Speaker 4:I'm gonna be one year out from being free cause she's gonna be 17. She's about to turn 18.
Speaker 5:I'm gonna be free 10 more years, hopefully, on the verge of retirement and then picking that forever spot from when me and the wife settled down alright 10 years to retirement and thinking about forever with your wife sounds perfect.
Speaker 3:I like that forever sounds dated.
Speaker 4:no, you, this, I Forever sounds dated. No, I think what you're saying I'm not saying forever spot.
Speaker 5:I'm saying the spot, the home that you choose, where you're not moving from.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm saying I want to pick more light until I'm tired of her.
Speaker 3:Your kid's going to be big as shit in 10 years. Yeah, I saw it on your face. God damn, it's going to be big as shit.
Speaker 4:In 10 19 and or shit. 20 and 18, yeah and 13 right or 12 and 12 yeah, andrea's gonna be about 6, 7, ava's gonna be about 5, 10.
Speaker 2:They already measured it'll be at least 6, 3.
Speaker 4:Ava's gonna be about 5, 10. No, uh, andrea's Ava's gonna be about 5, 10. I think Ava's gonna be about 5, 10, and then that just it's going to be about 5'10" it's like 10 years. She can't wear heels around me.
Speaker 3:She's going to tower over your ass. Sit down, uncle Shit, sit your ass down. I'm going to send her to you. Go get them.
Speaker 2:I am tokaboka'd out.
Speaker 3:Ava 10 years. Talk to me.
Speaker 2:I am tokaboka'd out.
Speaker 1:Have this shit paid off at work fuck yeah, that's the plan, man, fuck this shit. I'm sick of all this shit trying to have a lot of shit just paid off and just just relive it yeah, fuck. Yeah, we got that dumb ass timeshare too. It's not dumb cause we chose to get it, but I wanna be using that and just hopefully them niggas got their shit together oh, oh that is one thing.
Speaker 4:That's what I was in 10 years, like if I feel like she's mature enough. Where I can, I'm I am confident that she can handle herself when she leaves home.
Speaker 3:Now I feel like I've won yeah, yeah, then you already on the right path. You have a very good, good baby girl. You're on the right path, you're doing great.
Speaker 4:This girl asked me to put her pants on for her yesterday that's alright.
Speaker 3:she's a baby and when you're sharing, when you share a lot of your parenting skills, they they seem elevated to what received as children. So I really I don't think they work. I should go back to old school and just beat her ass.
Speaker 4:No, no, no you got this.
Speaker 2:No, you got this. What's that? I was just thinking it took me like two years to get in dress, to put the right shoe on the right foot.
Speaker 2:Put a sticker in the inside of their shoe and then just tell them oh he's good now they just like to test your patience, yeah they don't give a fuck, and sometimes you think they're doing it on purpose and you're like you just fucking with me on purpose, you want me to be frustrated, and then they'd start doing it by themselves and you're like oh yeah, so you know how to do this. The whole fucking time, mm-hmm, you were just the lying.
Speaker 4:yeah, yeah, see that they do some crazy shit, so she literally told me the other day that when her room gets too dirty, she gets overwhelmed and she can't clean it and I understand, I said, but you the one that made it fucking dirty so before you get to the point where you get overwhelmed. Stop and clean up the old shit before you make new shit she said it's too much.
Speaker 3:I get it pumpkin. It's okay, princess and her mama help her every time.
Speaker 4:How about you could still live in the fields? I'm not going in there. I'll close the door. Ain't my problem, huh.
Speaker 3:I don't clean shit. Well, in 10 years I hope my nonprofit is off the ground and helping millions of women.
Speaker 2:It will be Right.
Speaker 3:Thank you. Yes, millions I want to. One in four women have a miscarriage, so I'm hoping that it's off the ground and we're able to help lots and lots of women. Why not a billion? We could do a billion. I want to be able to be global at some point, so I'm hoping that in 10 years we're at least on the path of being able to be global. I hope I've had a child by then. Just one, because I really don't want all them kids living in my house. It's something about a bunch of kids living in my house just to be the fuck out. I can probably do one or two, but two is the tap off. Two, two is the tap off. So hopefully I've had children by then. And um, yeah, that's about it.
Speaker 4:I want to travel and just be if you want to travel, don't handle that them kids. I want to travel with my kids because I was something about my I want to, I want to travel with my kids, because I want to travel with my kids and that's something that I wish. I would have never had to carry four suitcases at one time.
Speaker 3:I don't know about none of that, and you got to remember that, although I don't have biological children, I have hate. We have hated for a great deal of time, and then I had. I had somebody, oh Lord. So I was married before John and that person I was married to had a child and I raised that child. So I'm familiar with parenting. I just don't have any biological children the story of death unfolds more, you know, because it just I mean because she ain't never mentioned that in this part.
Speaker 2:That's why I just said oh lord but what I'll say is the more you get, the more headcount you have to make, because you realize you're like, wait a minute, there was one, two, because sometimes you'll be like just with two of them and you're like there was a third.
Speaker 3:Oh, that third one's not here, cool that's why I can't have no hope, but your kid, because one of them?
Speaker 5:absolutely no, they won't.
Speaker 3:No, they won't listen, listen.
Speaker 1:When you pay for that ticket, you go.
Speaker 3:Everybody's gonna be on this, goddamn yeah, I can definitely see me losing the kid because, yeah, but uh, two kids max for me. But then, other than that, that's it, just traveling and being at peace. I'll be 50 by then, so I don't plan on on working for nobody. By the time I'm 50, I plan on having all my businesses established so that I can just hire people to run them for me and I can collect the money so that is.
Speaker 3:That is um and oh and my, my other business that I have, my llc. I plan to reinvest in that here soon so that I can start to build that.
Speaker 4:Is that the lingerie one?
Speaker 3:Yeah, the plus size lingerie. I'm hoping that I can.
Speaker 1:Are we going to try to get four other niggas to sit here so we can go some places? We're going to do something. Hey, so we're going to leave.
Speaker 2:So it'll be Devin.
Speaker 1:Joris. Destiny Tess we're gonna have Les, les and Mudder.
Speaker 4:Mudder.
Speaker 3:Mudder stick fly sitting here in 10 years. He sound like he from London in 10 years, and maybe we would have elevated this to something else. And we're, we're now on tv or or something in that nature.
Speaker 1:Um, you never know you. I'm not saying I don't fuck if that's where we go and I'm with it. I just don't want to be on tv the occasional guest of hatattrick.
Speaker 3:Yep, yep, pulling through, pulling through. We might be on TV, who knows, who knows?
Speaker 1:Yeah we'll be, in London. I'll show up. Yes, I'll be like hey guys, I also think I want to act a little bit you think, yeah, I've been thinking about it, you want to do it, you want to be out there it's definitely I.
Speaker 3:I don't mind the people knowing me, I just don't. I want. I think I want to act a little bit and I think I want to dive a little bit deeper into the comedy I don't want to catch who are these niggas?
Speaker 2:yeah, who are these niggas?
Speaker 1:I like that. You want to do the red carpet and all that shit.
Speaker 3:I would love that I would love that, because I'm trying to get as close to motherfucking Chris Brown as humanly possible.
Speaker 1:Never mind.
Speaker 3:So you think that ain't going to be.
Speaker 1:Never mind, I can't wish nothing like that.
Speaker 3:In 10 years, Chris Brown will be alive and well. I didn't mean dead.
Speaker 1:I just meant, if he gonna have, he gonna have some bracelets on each.
Speaker 3:No, don't do, don't do, don't do him like that, don't do him like that, don't Chris.
Speaker 1:I know. That's why I shouldn't say that.
Speaker 3:Don't do Chris.
Speaker 1:He gonna have some Grammys.
Speaker 3:Thank you, Because my man, my man my man.
Speaker 2:You know who really bangs the set out there.
Speaker 1:YG.
Speaker 3:CB. Oh yeah, cb, do huh. Drake said it. What I missed, drake did say yeah, what did I miss? What moment? Because we have to do this all in the morning? What, what moment in life has made you question your identity?
Speaker 1:my identity.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like who you is like who you is, like definitely who you is. I think I can go, I can actually answer this. I think when I realized that I had people please the fuck out of a lot of my friendships, it made me question like who exactly am I and why do I think this shit is necessary?
Speaker 1:yeah, I think maybe recently that's some shit that's happened and I'm like why do niggas think they could do this? And it's because I do do. So, yeah, yeah. I'm not going to say anything specific, but yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I honestly feel like.
Speaker 1:Fuck all this.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I take full accountability for that, because people there's going to be in life, people that are going to do exactly what the fuck you allow them to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I need to just start flying off on niggas.
Speaker 3:You might need to just tee off on the nigga real quick Hold on Hold the fuck up. So you wait until I get positive.
Speaker 4:So the whole time I was a grouch nigga and I was in it, I was with it.
Speaker 1:We could have did that together, nah, nah, I got to do this still, though.
Speaker 4:Being a provider?
Speaker 2:ah, it made you question well, yeah, it could be like a positive way. What the fuck, like you start saying, is that all I am?
Speaker 4:oh jeez, you feel that way.
Speaker 2:Sometimes talk to me you just feel like is that all I am? And then you start questioning is that? Then you have to? And then you start questioning is that? Then you have to start digging deeper and realizing that you are more than that and you have to go. Well, what am I outside of that? And then you start delving deep into shit, then you start taking those paths, down the roads, to keep her sanity.
Speaker 3:You know what I could relate to that? Because I think I felt that way as a wife, like I legitimately felt, like all I am is this nigga's wife and his son's stepmama, and I couldn't really like you had no identity, nothing, and it was driving me nuts because I just missed me. So I think I I relate to what you're saying.
Speaker 5:Hmm.
Speaker 2:Fucking Robitussin. And this shit don't we've talked about it before this shit don't make it worse when, or it makes it any better when you, your kid, says some shit like so, like when you walk in the house. So what did you get me? You're like fuck nigga.
Speaker 4:I told you last week, nigga, she's asking for sushi for lunch but that's not.
Speaker 2:How are you? How was your day?
Speaker 1:no, I don't get none of that shit. Oh yeah, I don't care it's can we get what?
Speaker 2:did you get me? What did you bring? I'm like you know dad's fine. Thanks for asking. Like fuck, like motherfuckers survived motherfuckers with road rage. But you know no, I you repeat the question for me.
Speaker 3:Yes, I can, let me say this real quick. I lucked up in that area with my stepson because he is the most caring child ever, like I I say this a lot on the show like he's been my most favorite experience of my whole being married not to play my husband, because at one point he was cool, but hayden has been the best experience, because he does when you walk through the door. He doesn't want to know how your day was and what did you do and what are you thinking. And I mean I can watch a movie with Hayden and he want to know well, how was this for you? Well, what did you like? What was your favorite part? He's very like, engaged in that way.
Speaker 2:I love that kid. Yeah, what's the time stamp? 11 15? You hear that, ava?
Speaker 4:no he's a good kid um no, I mean, I get the how are you dad and all that shit, but it's it's. It's rushed to get to the question oh let's get to the question. Well, can you repeat?
Speaker 3:the question. Yes, I was asking um. What moments in life has made you question your identity?
Speaker 4:Only I can think of, like last year, when I went through what I went through, and it made me actually step back and realize that I was just running myself rampant trying to be everything I could be for everyone but me. So that put things in, put things, things made a clear picture for me and that's when I really started working on myself it's a deep revelation.
Speaker 3:Something beautiful came out of such a bad experience and so. But I love that for you, and I'm and you. We can see the change in you. Yes, clock it. What about you, pat um?
Speaker 5:the moment that uh made me question my identity was basically becoming a father oh, you got kids yeah how many kids do you have?
Speaker 3:one okay, boy or girl boy okay, how was that? How was being a boy dad for you?
Speaker 4:good, challenging a headache, just square up with him how old is he?
Speaker 3:mine is 18 now no, no, you got an 18 year old yeah it's because you black snatched skin still. Okay, okay, okay, don't square up with your child. Don't listen to this thing. Don't hit your baby. He won't square with me because he know better. Huh, yeah, you know what time it is period. That's a good revelation. Having having your child and your child kind of making you question.
Speaker 3:What about having the baby made you question um, just like the moments we went through, the growing pains because he is, uh, he's not biologically mine, but it was just the growing pains of me and him coming together and making our bond I understand that and that's not spoken about a lot, because there are a lot of stand-up bonus fathers that step in in places where the biological father should have and they create some of the most amazing children. So kudos to you for having a heart to do that, because I think bonus moms get highlighted a lot. A lot of people tell me great job for what I do with Hayden, but I don't think it happens a lot for bonus dads. So kudos to you for that. That's dope Did everyone answer.
Speaker 3:Yes, I think so.
Speaker 2:Hey Patrick, I got a question for you. Did everyone answer yes, I think so. Hey, Patrick, I got a question for you. What's good.
Speaker 3:What was going through your mind when that raccoon was at your driver door.
Speaker 5:On your truck In his car. So yeah, this is when we was getting off work. Ups in the warehouse Riverside Was walking to the car, me and Andy was talking, and then he parked a couple cars down, but then I walked up to the car Me and Andy was talking, and then he parked a couple cars down, but then I walked up to my car.
Speaker 2:I think it was a rat. This has got to be the most annoying day.
Speaker 5:But what was going through my head? How the hell am I going to get home?
Speaker 3:You didn't flash your lights at his car and that doesn't get the raccoon to run.
Speaker 2:I didn't know about that. He told me about the raccoon the next day. How your lights in his car and that doesn't get the raccoon to run. I didn't know about that. He told me about the raccoon the next day. How did you get in the car? Yeah, how'd you get in the car, Patrick?
Speaker 5:How did I get in the?
Speaker 2:car, you got into the passenger seat.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that's what I was about to say. I was like I knew I didn't get into the driver's seat real quick. Hell. No, you gonna hug that raccoon.
Speaker 2:Yeah, man, that motherfucker, that was a big ass raccoon.
Speaker 1:That was the UPS raccoon. They could have got up and like hugged you.
Speaker 4:You should have caught that coon and made some coon soup.
Speaker 3:Oh God, Country ass Soup Ain't no damn coon chowder.
Speaker 1:I was just curious what was going through your mind because me I was like no, I'm not a coon guy.
Speaker 2:No, no, sorry, coons, don't do it for me there's an interesting tip about my dad's nickname was coon oh really because he used to love climbing trees, so they called him coon I was like ace, boom, some racist shit.
Speaker 1:I mean, is it racist when all your siblings are all niggas.
Speaker 2:Yes, we had this discussion earlier. Yeah, we was talking about, but I mean, it's all niggas?
Speaker 1:Yes, we had this discussion earlier. Yeah, we was talking about, I mean, it's all niggas.
Speaker 3:We have time for one last question. Who helped you become this version of you that feels the most real? Jesus, my kids.
Speaker 4:Babies, did you say Jesus?
Speaker 3:Babies, what about you?
Speaker 5:Wifey.
Speaker 1:Your wifey Don't make me say that.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:Oh me.
Speaker 3:You period. I like to thank me, Thank you.
Speaker 4:All of it.
Speaker 3:No, he was asking the question me, oh you, okay, that wasn't the answer All of them.
Speaker 1:It's all of it. It's just a lot of shit. Everything molded me, so I know it's a generic shit, but that's the truth Least honest.
Speaker 3:What about you?
Speaker 4:My wife.
Speaker 3:Your wife. And that ass.
Speaker 1:The ass molded you.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it motivated me to get in that more.
Speaker 3:I think every bad experience that I had Positive, for real, for real.
Speaker 3:Every bad experience, all of them, I think they molded me to who I am and and I think that, um, just being married, I think being married molded me to the who, the wife I will be in if I ever get married again. That's a big if, cause I don't know how I feel about that, but hmm, I think what the fuck was that? Hmm, go ahead, talk your shit. I do. Honestly, I I make it seem like my husband's a bad person, and he's not. It may come off that way with some of the things that I say, but he's not he's not we just we, just, we just two people that don't don't work well as a team.
Speaker 3:we work great in a two people that don't work well as a team. We work great in a friendship, but we don't work well as a team, and I think I learned through that that some things can't be forced.
Speaker 2:Those facts.
Speaker 3:Even if you try, you know something you can definitely try, but something just ain't meant to be so I think that's something that I also, you know, shaped me to understand and it also gave me a better understanding of self, because was not him that was doing the forcing, it was me. So that was something that you know. He he was very transparent and clear in the beginning that marriage wasn't something that he was ready for, but did it because I was ready, or at least I thought.
Speaker 3:I was at least I thought I was so more info you have. I think that don't be fucking with me. I'm just being transparent for those people out there that may be going through what I'm going through and I noticed that there's a lot of women that will like force bug, I want to marry you.
Speaker 3:We need to be together and a man will do it because they love them, they don't want to lose them, but they're just not ready. So I learned that I can't force nothing and things need to just happen organically and I need to be okay with with not having control over everything. So that that was one of the biggest things that shaped me.
Speaker 2:That's what's up.
Speaker 3:Thank you, thank you, thank you anyways this has been another spill the tea eye-opening episode of the heavyweight podcast you don't know what you did it to me. Okay, as always like, subscribe, share, comment, all that shit, all of that shit.
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