The Heavyweight Podcast
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The Heavyweight Podcast
What Makes a Man?
This episode is about the influence we have just by showing up as ourselves. From quiet leadership to how we bounce back from setbacks, we unpack how our actions speak louder than anything we could say.
We talk about showing up consistently, being watched when you don’t even know it, and how that lowkey inspires others. We also dive into communication between men and women, with some personal takes and real laughs along the way.
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Speaker 2:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation mind. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. What's good? This is episode two or seven of the heavyweight podcast. I'm your anti-social host, stutter McFly, back again with these two guys.
Speaker 3:Go ahead and state your name for the beautiful people out. It's your boy, positive Mo. I don't know how long it's gonna last, but that felt like positive about that. I felt like a struggle to get it out trying to be positive I like it.
Speaker 1:It's just tough, I like it way more easy to be negative.
Speaker 3:So is beef jerky would be negative.
Speaker 1:So is beef jerky.
Speaker 3:Depends on where you buy it from. Depends on where you get it from.
Speaker 2:Never get the alien jerky from a random 7-Eleven.
Speaker 1:That's not alien jerky.
Speaker 3:It's been sitting there a while.
Speaker 1:It's a different kind of alien.
Speaker 3:It's the liquidated version. They're trying to get rid of that shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they got that shit. They said we'll go ahead and ship this out to you. It's close to Vegas.
Speaker 1:No, that's Sergio and them.
Speaker 3:That's Sergio and them that's funny.
Speaker 1:I'm just old Kev, good old Kevvy Kev, kevvy Kev. Yeah, hey, what's up y' all?
Speaker 2:okay how were your?
Speaker 3:weeks it's good man, good week, nothing bad to report, got through it that was Papa Smash that shit was fire. Yeah, I gained. I gained two pounds overnight was it worth it. I probably ate about 7,000 calories left, and I didn't track it. So, Pat, I probably ate about 7,000 calories less and I didn't track it. So Patino couldn't see Because I know he go what the fuck was this? I?
Speaker 2:didn't track shit yesterday.
Speaker 3:I literally lounged, so I get it. Sorry, patino, were you at the fly lounge.
Speaker 2:I was just laying out. My body was sore as fuck, so I was laying out. I fucking did. I was huffing it all day.
Speaker 3:I don't know, I don't know why I did. I did the Stairmaster three days this week and I'm regretting it, don't.
Speaker 2:It works.
Speaker 3:My legs hurt like a motherfucker. It works they hurt the shit hurt. One day they'll stop.
Speaker 1:They'll stop hurting my week. I think my week was really good, I believe, so. I don't think I spent a lot of money, which is lovely.
Speaker 3:No, you did, you just did.
Speaker 1:Nah, tomorrow, where are we going, disney? That's going to hurt.
Speaker 3:Overhead.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's going to hurt. Going to be fun.
Speaker 3:Remind me of that, that damn joke. She was like mom, you look just like Cinderella.
Speaker 2:Before the bibbidi-bobbidi-boo I said damn, that's fucked up how you getting clowned by your own daughter every time I hear the lightsabers go off in the house, I think of the money I paid you know what?
Speaker 3:you know, you're a good father. Because I walked by them, lifesavers, I said, and I saw the price, I said, yeah, I ain't doing it.
Speaker 2:I got three of them.
Speaker 3:I ain't doing it. I said I can't do it, but I did buy a goddamn lounge fly bag, that shit. That was for. The wife Asked me how many times she used it like a, just like a bag.
Speaker 1:yeah, like you know like a little backpack bag shit they oh like that's a lot.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I wasn't cheap. Yeah, I asked me how many times she used it once no, it's still in the bag so none.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's still in the bag.
Speaker 2:You get triggered by the dream song no, just no no no no figured out acts the crazy part is that back still smells like beignet.
Speaker 3:I don't know how they do it, just put it in the. But it's been over a year, it still smells like beignet.
Speaker 1:They got the finest of oils. No, no, you ain't.
Speaker 2:How was your week. It was chill. I went to work.
Speaker 3:Did a broke, nigga say something.
Speaker 2:Some broke niggas did say something and then I proceeded to. You know I was like, oh my God, that's why I wore this shirt today. Then I took an early hiatus for the week and I had to take care of my car and get tire rotation oil change and I saw some weird activity at a roundabout, which posted me to ask the question because I really don't think people know how to work at a roundabout which baffles me because it's like, well, they don't about, which baffles me, because it's like, well, they don't.
Speaker 3:Do you not remember when I had the bike and I was approaching a roundabout and the lady was driving towards me on my side of the street? Oh wow roundabouts I said ma'am, you didn't go the right way at all.
Speaker 2:What you made a left at a roundabout when you access their hope in the world approach around abroad it's all yield like I don't know how people don't get it. They don't comprehend it. It's weird.
Speaker 3:It's the weirdest shit ever is well no, they people don't yield, they, they, they go yeah, and then they and they don't look.
Speaker 2:They refuse to look down or at the sign that says yield in front of them. It's like like they think it's a suggestion. Um, too many it is, but then I took care of that and then, um, I proceeded to almost get killed by my kids at the park.
Speaker 3:This is a story I want to hear.
Speaker 2:So I had, you know, being the dad I want to be, I went and got a couple of like a football and one of the Wolf of Wall bats and I'm like you know what, I'll take them to the park, let them get used to some sports that I grew up playing and you know they're both naturals at the sport. They just didn't have the stance down, so Ava adjusted quicker than Andreas did. But once you give Andreas instruction, he adjusted. But Ava, she's got a lot of rage, you know, just a lot of rage. And anytime she doesn't, which is why I posted that video. Anytime she doesn't get it, immediately she gets angry, and that's what the fuck happened. That's why I said that shit was intentional. She might have not meant to directly aim at my head, but when she threw the ball trying to throw it back and she was like fuck this. And she threw the ball trying to throw it back and she was like fuck this. And she threw it up and hit the ball back, that shit, that was real time. Uh, she was mad, okay.
Speaker 3:So. So when I saw the video, I had two, three things happened the, the, the friend of me laughed. The dad of me said she probably should be a switch hitter because she did she.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was pretty good at it, especially with one arm, like that shit. I said god damn it. And then she did it again and I posted that one too. But I was like shit, she got aiming when she gets angry. There was some other shit she was doing that I didn't post where she was just angry. I was like, yeah, at least she had a way to get it out. She was vent that I didn't post where she was just angry.
Speaker 3:I was like, yeah, at least she had a way to get it out. She was venting.
Speaker 2:Swards me.
Speaker 3:Don't piss her off.
Speaker 2:It was fun doing that with them at the park and seeing that they had this, because she got really excited about baseball.
Speaker 3:Go back and watch the video. What was most the funny part about it is when you said, oh shit, her facial expression didn't change yeah, it wasn't like oh, my bad dad.
Speaker 2:She was like it was, it was all smoke, she wanted smoke. So, uh, before we get into the questions that were culminated from a week that I have, I'm going to give you some rapid fire questions.
Speaker 3:Oh no, rapid fire yeah.
Speaker 2:Rapid fire. Rapid fire, y'all ready.
Speaker 1:Absolutely Hold on.
Speaker 3:You said are you ready? And Kevin was delayed already.
Speaker 1:Oh, I mean, you know it's the end of my work day. I'm a little high.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, ready, ready. Describe yourself in three words Boom, that nigga Mo.
Speaker 1:Okay, you the coolest ever.
Speaker 2:Call me Neo.
Speaker 1:The one, the one, the one.
Speaker 2:The way I dodge that fucking move ball. Anyway, what's the stereotype about men? You wish that would disappear.
Speaker 1:Damn, they got rapid fire on that one Shit.
Speaker 3:I'll have to think about that. That's a long list.
Speaker 1:We got to have guap to have worth.
Speaker 3:That's a good one. Gotta have guap to have worth. That's a good one. I got nothing nothing. I got nothing, nothing. Oh that we don't care, we care that's a good one.
Speaker 1:We care, we do care, we do got emotions that we have to be super.
Speaker 2:What would be the word talented with our hands in the bedroom? No, I'm talking about like as far as like mechanics like the handyman skills, like that shit, that every man that just defines men. I was like I think that's just an add on, but I don't think it should be like the definition of what a man should be. I could change a tire, but I got triple a yeah, I could change the tire if I needed to, but I got not only do I got true, I got seven.
Speaker 3:I got uh. I got 21 visits.
Speaker 2:I'm using them all so when do you, when do you feel the most like yourself?
Speaker 1:post, not clarity. When do you feel the?
Speaker 3:most like yourself. Post-nut clarity. Do you feel Never mind, oh man.
Speaker 2:Are there some realizations that happen in that moment? Sometimes, yeah, always.
Speaker 3:Hey, it's everybody's beat up.
Speaker 1:I was in some shit where they went. What?
Speaker 3:What am I doing?
Speaker 1:Why.
Speaker 2:Have you ever had a moment in that post and that clarity said do I even like myself?
Speaker 1:I don't know about that.
Speaker 3:I have. How am I doing this? You are fucking disgusting.
Speaker 1:I guess that's the same lines. That's the same lines like delete that.
Speaker 3:I forgot the question after this shit.
Speaker 2:I said when do you feel the most like yourself?
Speaker 3:um, when I accomplish something whenever I could, I get in my happy pocket when I make a, whenever I get in my happy pocket.
Speaker 2:When I make a dope song, I like that. Who's a man you admire and why?
Speaker 3:My grandfather. He was silent and strong.
Speaker 1:He said a whole lot, without saying too much. I don't think I have. I think it's you gotta pick one nigga. I can't be like my niggas.
Speaker 3:He said A yeah yeah.
Speaker 1:I ain't like my niggas. I'm gonna go outside to a famous guy. I like Barack Obama. I really like how that guy moves.
Speaker 3:I really do you know who does an excellent Barack Obama impression? This guy.
Speaker 2:No, I don't. I admire my dad and the fact that he was able to do everything by himself and make it work. That's all I can say about that. What does masculinity mean to you?
Speaker 3:protecting the ones you love being yourself, being yourself to you.
Speaker 1:Protecting the ones you love. Being yourself, being yourself.
Speaker 2:Not being afraid to be yourself. Restraint, Because you could just crash out. But the fact that you're a man doesn't mean you have to.
Speaker 3:You don't have to show the strength.
Speaker 2:to show that you're a man doesn't mean you have to Sometimes you should, so that, masculine, you don't have to show the strength to show that you that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, sometimes you need to just crash out.
Speaker 2:Sometimes you need to, but I'm saying that in the moments that you don't necessarily need to, but you still show that it's also masculine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a good 90% of the times you don't need to yeah.
Speaker 3:Because most times we see niggas crash out. You're like yo. This could be a simple phone call. When was the last time you cried eight?
Speaker 1:days ago, damn, I don't know. I almost cried or something, but I don't remember what it was so were you high? I don't know, I was watching something.
Speaker 2:I was like, oh, that's sweet last thursday going into friday y'all some healthy niggas no, that was not that, that was built up.
Speaker 1:That was not healthy.
Speaker 2:That was just the moment that was just the moment, nigga I was. I was overwhelmed like a motherfucker. Yeah, um, what's the misconception people have about you? I was overwhelmed like a motherfucker. What's the misconception people have about you?
Speaker 3:That I'm mean all the time. I'm not mean all the time. 85%, it's not all the time.
Speaker 2:But you saw some majority of the time.
Speaker 3:It's not all the time.
Speaker 2:Majority.
Speaker 1:What is it? What's the word? I'm a floor rug. A what? I'm a floor rug. You're a floor rug.
Speaker 3:People step on you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they think people are walking on you. So this is going back to the other episode where you said you felt like niggas thought you were sweet.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I shouldn't have said it that way, because I hadn't thought about it. I was like I don't want to be like that. So yeah, so what you're saying?
Speaker 3:you're not sweet. You do the bending, the pushover, that's what it is.
Speaker 1:You do the bending you don't get bent over. I mean, I don't be trying to bend nothing either, just one person. Bad analogy.
Speaker 2:I don't know how you get there.
Speaker 3:Wait, never mind. Because he said one person. I was like well, you're like five feet taller. What is bending?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you got it. I mean, I'm not going to get into that no, I'm a visual person got I mean.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to get into that. No, I'm a visual person. Let's not. We don't got to get into that. The misconception is that I'm quiet.
Speaker 3:You're not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's the misconception that people have about me that. I'm quiet and I'm not. I'm really not. Once I start talking, I won't shut the fuck up, but it's only if I know you Finish the sentence A strong man is.
Speaker 1:Need it Me, it's me, it's Kevin. You're going to glaze yourself all day. Why not? Why not?
Speaker 3:Calm. Anybody got some baby oil for kevin? You're gonna need it, that nope when he's alone in his room.
Speaker 2:Sometimes he stares at the wall and then the back of his mind hears conscience call all right, um sorry what was that oh, that was never mind, sorry, that made it how would you feel?
Speaker 1:if no. Nigga's wife said she don't want him watching porn, but she don't care if he like beats off and shit. So I'm like so you want him to like? Just she was bank. Like ain't that worse.
Speaker 3:Like ain't that worse to go in the bank. She wants him to beat off the pictures of her.
Speaker 1:Oh, Really that's what you know.
Speaker 3:that's what I took Of her, a video of her. That's what I took.
Speaker 1:She got some videos, but Sorry, I was just thinking, that's kind of fucked up.
Speaker 3:Is this personal Kevin? No, no, no, absolutely not. But you said she got us in video, we just discussed.
Speaker 1:We just discussed what we got to delete, sorry.
Speaker 3:I see you putting the men as last of the org.
Speaker 1:Huh, I just thought that was fucking well, it's not as cool as you think.
Speaker 2:What role does vulnerability play in your life?
Speaker 1:I think it's important to to be vulnerable around the right people, so uh like today. Yeah, I mean I guess what, yeah, he's vulnerable right now.
Speaker 3:He's very vulnerable right now. I would just say that it, uh, it's necessary for proper emotional health.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think you build real connections off of it, through it.
Speaker 3:Remind me never to look at that meta footage.
Speaker 1:The meta footage, you said, yeah, I don't want to see it. Oh no, I'm wise, I'm not like, yeah, no I don't do that, yeah growth hey, pause I'll say it's, it's, it's.
Speaker 2:It plays a life. Vulnerability is one of the ways it helps you grow um. What do you want your legacy to be?
Speaker 1:good man. Yeah, he's a good man, did it the right way, yeah.
Speaker 3:I want it to be that he, uh, he loved his family to his last breath uh that I did it the best I could what did you do it first? Do it first.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like right there oh, he made it sexual. So that rapid fire, that wasn't that rapid fire just finished. Let's go ahead and get into these shenanigans, do we have.
Speaker 3:Do we have rapid fire clarity?
Speaker 2:I guess I have some clarity on some shit. So, as I approached this week, and and mo was there, we were at work and, um, we had a co-worker say some uh, off the wall shit that let me know, um, oh shit like where they stood, or something never mind, we're gonna take that different.
Speaker 2:That's, that's. Uh, yeah, I guess it falls in line, but it's just from a different perspective. It's gonna work two ways anyway. This one is when you realize that, as things are happening and people are noticing you that, at what point do you realize that you may or may not be inspiring people? So when was the last time someone told you that? At what point do you realize that you may or may not be inspiring people? So when was the last time someone told you that you inspired them and were you surprised?
Speaker 2:I'm always surprised when someone says I inspired now, because that's never my goal really I just, I'm just living so you've never tried to inspire I, uh, I've never tried to inspire.
Speaker 1:I've only tried to inspire my wife to do certain things. Tell this nigga tell him to stop. We all see his TikTok, like we see your.
Speaker 2:TikTok nigga. This nigga has lethal thoughts and he's saying he doesn't try to inspire people. I'm like so really Not once my lethal thoughts is just giving people shit to think about. It's meant to be inspiring.
Speaker 1:As a inspiration nigga like.
Speaker 3:I'm just talking. I get what you're saying but I'm talking my shit. If you're inspired, you're welcome, okay. I mean, I wasn't, I wasn't trying to, but if it helps you that day, I appreciate it. I've actually had some people who say hey, man, I need this damn. I said thank you, I need your support.
Speaker 1:I appreciate you. That was the question but I'm not trying with that part of the answer instead.
Speaker 2:Of this nigga been doing this for the past.
Speaker 1:How many I know I'm acting surprised I'm consistent uh, last time someone's told me they were inspired is, I couldn't tell you. That's's probably been a while, I don't know.
Speaker 3:You lying, sack of shit.
Speaker 1:Somebody told me I inspired him. Yeah, I did. You told me that. Yeah, what did I inspire you with On July 4th?
Speaker 3:I inspired you. Yeah, I said nigga, I'm about to go, I'm about to crack open a smoker. You got me out here about to put my new balances on.
Speaker 1:I didn't know I did that I just thought you were just talking yourself to go cook.
Speaker 3:Nigga, I have not used my smoker in many, many months. I guess July 4th to answer your question.
Speaker 2:July 4th Happy. Juneteenth, niggas Happy. Juneteenth, I think it was my nephew a couple weeks ago. He called me and told me I inspired him.
Speaker 3:That was up.
Speaker 2:And that meant a lot to me because at that time I really needed to hear it. That's good yeah.
Speaker 1:Can I tell you my favorite time that's happened though Of course it was in San Diego just some random chick. We was out there drinking like a motherfucker and going going to denny's at like three in the morning, so we were just talking to people, drunk as shit, and then somehow we just got talking about entertainment and comedy, that I was doing comedy and shit, and then she was like oh, I used to write, and then we were just talking and she just started crying and she and I was like hey, what's up like why are you crying?
Speaker 1:she's like you just, you're just so passionate about this and I just I need to writing again and I was just like, oh, that's cool, I'm glad that I could display that. So that was my favorite. I was like this lady just what race was she?
Speaker 2:Let me cry.
Speaker 1:She was like what do you call them? That sounded racist, it's about to sound racist. It's the same as she's mulatto, she's mixed.
Speaker 2:She was ambiguous it's the same as she's mulatto, she's, she's mixed. She was at least, because if she was white and she cried, I would have ran no, I would have shit I would have known I've been watching too much.
Speaker 1:I'd have been like I'm in that, sorry, those are the old days, those are the old days I'll be.
Speaker 2:I'll be stacking centers me.
Speaker 1:Me too.
Speaker 2:Doing this shit.
Speaker 1:I told you I'd be the other twin. All right, so do you remember a moment in where you were being yourself and it ended up impacting someone deeply. I guess that's my use.
Speaker 3:Is that?
Speaker 1:arrogant to say Not. If it's your truth, I think I'll give you another one. It's from comedy and ever since that day, I feel like Homie's been killing it Because we were doing the show and I don't know why the fuck he was so nervous I think it was his first time hosting or some shit and I was like, hey, nigga, are you nervous? He's like yeah, like I don't know if I can handle this. I was like you do this every day. Like just do what you normally do. Like that's all I can do. Like we're the comedians, this is what we do, this is who I am. That kind of like clicked in me and it was just like. From there on, it was just like, oh, he's killing. So that was like one of those that made me. It makes you feel good inside. I don't know. I don't know how to explain it. That's what she said. You can't help it, huh I really can't.
Speaker 3:I forgot the question god damn I guess I'm dead.
Speaker 2:There's this hearing spirit shit. Do you remember a moment when you were just being yourself and it ended up impacting someone deeply?
Speaker 3:no, not really. I don't no, no, not really, I don't no, no.
Speaker 1:Nothing really recalls, never, no, nothing. You know dad stories. I mean you just be yourself. I'm sure you impact her deeply every day. That's too cliche.
Speaker 3:She was my ass every day. She beat me up yesterday, yeah, but that's With a who, my ass everything she beat me up yesterday, yeah, with a woofer ball hey with a. Hey, it wasn't a woofer ball, it was, it was a mini golf. A a fuck a putter did it?
Speaker 2:did it hit you somewhere? No, it hit where?
Speaker 1:yeah, in my leg where'd you where you think she got that from her mom inspired? Where do you think she got that from Inspired Her mama?
Speaker 3:You just told us you're trying to be nice I am, I didn't beat her ass like I wanted to. I had to beat her ass. Yeah, I mean, I guess my closest. I guess if I go the fatherhood route I did I've had. There's been a couple of times where I've had like a random lady see me like out with my daughter. She's like, oh, you're such a good dad. I was like, why? Because I'm with my kids, my kids with me, when their mom's not here.
Speaker 1:That makes me a good dad because it's like it lets you know how many niggas out here aren't.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I was like I'm just, yeah, I'm just taking my daughter to Five Below, like just me and her, like we, just we gonna run the store real quick, like this is just normal, normal, you know, friday activities for her, which is good, or, when I picked her up, no, no, what was the question?
Speaker 1:because I was thinking, maybe when Amanda had surgery and I felt like that was just a normal question because she's going through this shit, and then I was like, well, can she, when, can she have Motrin? And then she was like wow, most husbands don't ask that and I'm like, oh, they just don't give a fuck about their wife, just go Like oh, they just don't give a fuck about their wife Just go.
Speaker 3:Let her my problem. My wife don't listen, you shouldn't, you should. You're depressed today?
Speaker 1:Nah, I can't be. No little bitch. Get up and walk around.
Speaker 3:How about you Sit your ass down?
Speaker 2:Honestly, it's been a lot in the last six months. Every time I wear those goddamn shoes to work.
Speaker 2:Okay months, every time I wear those goddamn shoes to work, okay, and um, just kind of like when I I guess and and me trying to find myself it inspires other people and they'll literally walk up to me and just be like the fact that you just do that and I said what they're like, the shoes, and like you, just kind of like you. You kind of have your own thing going on and and it's unique to you, and I said I appreciate it and it keeps continually happening. But it's just me being honestly saying I'm going to do what I like and what feels dope to me or comfortable to me and it gets attention, but it's not meant to get attention.
Speaker 2:It's just meant to say. This is who I am and these are the things I like. I like these colors. That's why I wear the shoes, it's because I like the colors and I don't feel like we should ever just put ourselves in a box. But yeah, that to wearing the shoes to the cornrows, like it, um, it inspires people because you're doing you unapologetically and people kind of gravitate towards it and then, to you know, tell you that you're inspiring them to want to do them themselves.
Speaker 2:So pause and no, don't pause that, do yourself I just know it's just, it's important to be you and with me, finding me. I do know that it helps other people feel like they can do the same thing, yeah.
Speaker 1:You know sometimes I take that halfway backwards when motherfuckers say stuff. I had one guy was telling me he was like man, I like how Kevin, he don't give a fuck and I was like hey, my man.
Speaker 2:I know what you're talking about. I had a girl tell me that once and I was like it's not the compliment, you think?
Speaker 1:it is.
Speaker 2:I was like don't say that, he just don't give a fuck what he wears. I said, hey, back up, back up, back up. I know you think this is a column, but it's really not Because you're literally talking yeah, it's like hold up, bitch, stop Like. Hey, like all right. So how do you stay true to your values, even when you know, even when no one else is watching?
Speaker 1:for me that's easy.
Speaker 3:I am who I am, no matter who's in front of me even after that post nut clarity. Even after I was disgusted after, but it felt good yeah, I'll probably do it again the fact that it got me there.
Speaker 1:I mean, it was good for something that algorithm is gonna bring me back to this same genre yeah, I think that's what it is.
Speaker 3:I mean, when you, when, when you like you were just saying like when you tutor yourself and you and you do what's for you and what makes you happy, it doesn't matter, you're gonna do that, matter who's in the room yeah, I can't keep thinking, can't stop thinking pimp shit.
Speaker 1:Like I ain't new to this, I'm true to this bitch. Like you ain't gotta fake it when the lights is off, I don't know. It's like you said.
Speaker 2:It's like if it's you, it's you, so you ain't gotta like really think about it and when I think of the, the journey to get to that point, I remember and you were there for some of it you know the looks niggas used to give me when I have that nappy ass afro, oh yeah. So like that growth that there's people looking at you like damn, this ain't got that afro, like they're not saying anything, but they're looking at you like this, look wild.
Speaker 3:And then eventually you hit a point to where it's like that's why you did it, yeah but the thing is like I'm saying like, like you're saying, if they would have known why you didn't cut your hair, they would, they would, they would have had a whole different outlook on it but no one ever asked.
Speaker 2:That's the issue that I tend to run into.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a tough one. That's a tough one sometimes because some niggas are scared to be like uh, rude I guess.
Speaker 2:But in a way, they're also being rude by assumption, you know. There's like oh, this nigga's just some bummy ass looking like whatever. Instead, instead of realizing, that look at this.
Speaker 1:There might be a reason why yeah yeah, yeah, that's that bullshit there, some niggas. Yeah, I'm learning a lot too, just talking to people. It's cool.
Speaker 3:You talk to people.
Speaker 1:I feel like I like that I can talk to people without judging them and shit, because then they just start talking and then I'll just be talking and it's like do you not hear yourself? Just listen to this and just think from a different perspective. I'm not going to judge you by how you feel, but I'm like, oh yeah, you know what it's like. Yeah, you got to think out your box. I'm sorry, I'm just on a tangent. I might be a little-.
Speaker 2:Hey, kevin, I go on TikTok every fucking day. No one listens to themselves. Shit, I just keep with the book. I was like so you listened to this over and over and said upload, still Proof positive.
Speaker 1:Let me this is true. Okay, all right, this is true. Proof positive.
Speaker 3:Can't argue with that point.
Speaker 2:Have you ever looked back and realized your actions affected someone in a way you hadn't even intended?
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:You got an example, yeah.
Speaker 3:Well for one, with the help. My daughter now says Dad, I got to make sure I get my protein today. I can't eat that. That's too many calories. I said you don't have to worry about calories, you're eight.
Speaker 2:You got metabolism. You're eight. It's on your side. Youth is on your side.
Speaker 3:You're eight, I said if you ate what I ate, you would be the way you move and merge it all. So, yeah, so, to sum it up, it's like having Chinese food.
Speaker 2:It's going to go right through you. You're hungry 30 minutes later, no matter when you eat it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, man, yes, especially sushi.
Speaker 1:I think anytime I'm in like a shitty scenario not necessarily, let's think like work, like if we got to do some overtime shit that nobody wants to do and it's shitty. Like I always try to think to myself some sort of positive shit and try to make it like some how fun or whatever, and like I feel like it's not my intention to make everybody else feel that way. It's just for me, like I'm not. If I feel this way, cool. Y'all can feel how you want to be miserable, but it generally seems to be like a different feel when it's like one person like that and then it seems to infect. So I think that in a sense kind of is my. That would be my example to that. But yeah, I think just trying to be positive rubs off a lot pause uh posting that clarity um, you forgot the question, didn't you?
Speaker 2:I just think about what you said. And he said the rub that, and then my brain just took it somewhere else. God damn it, I'm a latin, I'm horrible genie. Um, again, I said the, the, even with the shoes, especially the shoes. It seems like even I've had the random lady that walk up oh, I love the. The shoes are so loud and they speak this and they'll, it's, it really does change. Uh, you're, you're not intending to, but then you'll see, like the reactions I said, especially amongst women at their job, they'll go damn, he's just wearing this and you don't give a fuck, and it's almost. They want us to like fierce or some shit and do the snap or something you like okay I'm not opposed to that, but it is, it is dope.
Speaker 2:It is dope. It is dope to see when you see like it affects somebody because I'll see like they'll give like a grin and it's more like they kind of feel like I see you, they're living it. Yeah, I see you, but like they like it because they like the colors, choice or whatever, and you're like I'm just doing this because I like the colors, but they'll look at it and be like you're making a statement and you're like, oh, I am like I wasn't, that wasn't my intention, I just didn't give a fuck.
Speaker 3:I just really like this color.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like, but it's dope to see so.
Speaker 3:I think it'd throw people off. When I tell them my favorite color is purple, I get it, because I guess it's not masculine enough Purple. I think purple is masculine, I mean, that's whatever.
Speaker 2:I say say what you will, but Barney has fucked somebody up. Anyway, what small acts in your daily life might be inspiring others without your knowledge?
Speaker 1:Smiling, smiling, yeah, yeah I told you it would get random, weird shit and it just doesn't stop. But that's fine, I'm not going to stop smiling and shit.
Speaker 3:I think it's dope, I think when you just speak to random people, to pass by a stranger and say how you doing oh yeah, I think sometimes that will.
Speaker 1:I'm the worst in the grocery store and when I'm in a good mood, nigga, I'll just be like oh yeah, that's what you're going to get today. Yeah, that shit look good. Maybe I'll try and then just like I guess I'm talking to this guy in aisle five.
Speaker 3:I look at you like man, I'm trying to get back to the house. But yeah, I think people underestimate how far a simple high will go.
Speaker 1:How you doing yeah.
Speaker 3:You know, just acknowledging someone else's existence, it ain't got to go far behind the high, it can just be high and keep going. But just the fact that you acknowledge them that day, yeah.
Speaker 2:I think that could take a lot of people a long way At the gym. There's like a network of black men that go to my gym. I guess, since there's not a lot of us, the ones that do, they kind of intermingle. So you have these instances where, like for example last week week, there's this guy that always runs on the treadmill and he'd be running like 30, 40 minutes, damn, and he, he's a occupational therapist and he was telling me that he saw me, he was like man, he's like, he's like the gains are showing, brother, I said, huh, he's like dude, like I remember when you first came in here. So you lost a lot of weight, man, you lost a lot of weight. You're inspiring and he's like, you know my, my, my profession.
Speaker 2:I see a lot of people, you know a lot of us people of color that suffer from high blood pressure and heart disease and stuff like that. He's like that's why I'm in here running a treadmill every day. But you, just you just making the act and seeing you every day inspires me to keep doing what I'm doing and I said that meant a lot. Um, but I didn't even know he was. He observed me like that. We're just always the either the solidary fist or like what's up. And then, like all of a sudden, he just came up to me to tell me that and it meant a lot, and we had like a good two or three minute conversation and I finally learned his name, that that's California.
Speaker 1:So shout out to Harry, shout out to Harry. Hey, what's up?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I would say they watching the gym players one place. They watching Like, especially when you become a regular.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And they expect like, because when we took that week off it was in Phoenix.
Speaker 2:It was like man what happened section of the brotherhood. I don't want to do that shit.
Speaker 1:People think I'm outgoing and shit, but I don't want to talk to niggas. Sometimes I'll be like I'm just at the gym.
Speaker 3:I mean, you know, I guess it's. I don't know. I haven't been to the gym so I don't know. I might be slightly biased.
Speaker 2:I do talk longer to the niggas I'll talk I try to be polite, but I'm usually welcoming anyone who talks. Yeah, that's usually like. I'm usually zoned out to myself, but if you say something to me, I'm going to acknowledge you in a friendly way like yeah, I'm not I will say this on on, uh, on, on on.
Speaker 3:I think it was thursday and, uh, I walked in. I was like, damn, it was one of them days, it was a leg day and I was like the machine I had. I saw it, I walked in, I needed it. I said it's a woman, it's going to be a wait, you know how it is. So I'm sitting there waiting and she walked over. I said yeah. I said yeah, I'm waiting. She's like okay, I think she's like I gotta go. I said okay, no, don't worry, take your time. Make no woman feel uncomfortable like that, so I like I'll let her know.
Speaker 3:Hey, I'm waiting, let me know when you're done. I'm gonna be over here, type I do. But I saw how much she was moving. She I was like take your time, she's like you need me. I said no, I'm gonna take all that off. Don't worry about me, I'm gonna take all that.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna take all that off I guess, I should take my black ass in there yeah, just do it because'm not putting nothing in here. I ain't got that kind of money.
Speaker 3:I keep signing up for those. Uh, I keep falling for those. Uh, do this on the post, you might win. Win this. I ain't won nothing yet. I give it a week down and follow at at the gym no, on Instagram, I want to be gym equipment. Oh no, yeah, no yeah, I'm trying to get. I'm trying everything I'm trying to get for free.
Speaker 2:I ain't trying to pay for nothing else I will say that there's uh, those, those like the women you say you're trying not to make them comfortable. I go out of my way to avoid anything but like when they they're polite to me, I'll be polite to them. And then I try, like I said, I try not to make them feel uncomfortable because they could change your whole allowance at the gym.
Speaker 3:You fuck around the wrong way. Suddenly, you're not allowed at that gym anymore. Your membership's canceled. What happened? I paid extra.
Speaker 2:You made somebody feel uncomfortable and now you can't be here no more.
Speaker 3:That's why, when I do record my workouts, I make sure to always. If there's a woman next to me, I make sure I show her. I won't record at all. I'll make sure to always. If there's a woman next to me, I make sure I show her. I won't record at all. I'll make sure I get an angle where she's not in it, just so she don't feel like, yeah, I do. If it's a guy, I don't give a fuck, you're going to be in there, I don't care.
Speaker 1:But if it's a woman, I do try to make a phone call and if I accidentally get them, I crop you want me to sing.
Speaker 2:Are you on LL today? You on your LL shit with the tango you?
Speaker 1:want me to get some likes. I'm not doing that. I'm lying. You're not doing what Getting likes? Asking for ass to be in my photo or my videos?
Speaker 2:Can I leave it in girl LL Cool Kaz, whoa, whoa pause yeah, I don't think you gotta pause.
Speaker 3:That was very, that was very. Now that was rapey, that'll get you kicked out that was rapey. What did you ask me, sir?
Speaker 2:all right. Who in life? Inspired, you, without even trying, and why?
Speaker 3:there's it's it's gonna be generally. There's the there's it's it's going to be general editing. There's the there's a young lady. She's in a wheelchair and I see her at the gym at least three. She gets, you know, she gets dropped off in the medical, all that. I see her at least three, four times a week and she'd be in there getting it and I would like, and she ain't here getting it. What fucking excuse do I have to complain today? Is she being there happy talking to people Putting in work? I don't know her name, I don't talk to her. You know she inspires me.
Speaker 1:I'm going to say this this one young nigga I work with, he's a young black guy, but he's on his shit and it cool like to watch him and I'm like, damn, this thing's gonna, I think he's gonna do everything he sets out to do and you're like that's cool to like watch.
Speaker 1:And it makes me like because he always talks like yeah, you're like, you're like I'm not gonna tell you nothing because he's like my lead or whatever, and I'm like, okay, but you're my lead, nigga, like that's your job, like don't jeopardize your job. For like looking at me as like your elder or whatever. But I'm like I respect that and that's just cool. So I'm like it makes me want to do shit the right way too. So it's like if you're looking at me like that and I don't want to be a piece of shit, like you know what I'm saying, so it's just he don't know that, but that's cool, like just to watch that and be like yeah, it just in turn, makes me want to do better to watching this little nigga do what he do.
Speaker 2:Y'all.
Speaker 3:Y'all, y'all.
Speaker 1:Oh, thank you, Y'all, y'all y'all y'all.
Speaker 3:I thought the nigga was riding a horse. Y'all, y'all.
Speaker 2:The harder they fall. Watch it Netflix.
Speaker 3:Shout out to the Rangers. Yeah, the harder they fall, watch it netflix um.
Speaker 2:Shout out, jonathan mayor, rangers, yeah, shout out that old looking nigga that's younger than us. I was like john mayor. Why? We shout out john mayor, but jonathan major um, yeah, you guys, you guys inspired me to want to do better and um I appreciate.
Speaker 2:Thanks, man I appreciate that, and the reason is for one you guys are black men. But on top of that you guys are my friends and when you guys talk I tend to pay attention and the moves you guys try to make make me be like you know what. If they can do that, I can try to follow suit to be better.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I think we got a little ecosystem going, which is dope. I like that.
Speaker 3:That's fun, yeah, if we can just get that tat pulling on it.
Speaker 2:The real nigga constellation.
Speaker 1:That's how I feel, like y'all are at the gym.
Speaker 2:Y'all are at the gym like we, the niggas. But our rotation is in a rhythm.
Speaker 3:We on the twos and the threes.
Speaker 2:The twos and the fours.
Speaker 3:Y'all's on the twos and the threes, the twos and the fours, y'all's on the one and the two, from ghetto to ghetto to backyard. Okay, um, I will close your hell for the hell.
Speaker 2:I will close your heaven for the hell of it, damn how do you deal with the pressure of being considered a role model?
Speaker 3:um, I don't. I don't feel no pressure. I keep doing me because I think I'm. I try to make a conscious choice every day to do what's right by me and by those I care for.
Speaker 1:So as long as I keep making the right choices, I'm I'll be the same guy I am every day I think I I fuck up at it sometimes because I think some of that might be hindering to me to not take chances on shit for fear of fucking up and looking bad. But when you grand scheme, it's like you get more credit for trying. I think it depends on what the chance is. That's true, that's true. I don't mean like jumping out, like planes and shit. Ain't nobody going to be like, well, at least you did it, nigga. Why you jump out of a plane.
Speaker 3:No, I get it, because sometimes it's hard to take a chance. When you think about because I don't know about you guys, my first thought is okay, if I take this and it goes wrong, how is it going to impact the day to day? Yeah, and if that's, if that's something I don't want to experience or don't want to put my family through, then it's like it's most likely going to be a no.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm not trying to be on the curb, yeah.
Speaker 2:The biggest pressure I have that I feel, is like falling behind, like even with like how I pretty much respond to setbacks, so like when certain things happen that are out of your control, how do I respond to that? And that that's the biggest pressure, like because for me it's like you can, you have only so many ways you can respond to a situation, and it's like you can crash out and just fuck up the whole thing or you can try to figure out the best way to bounce back. And that's like the hardest um thing for me, because I'll look and I'm like fuck, like right now, I just like last week I just wanted to fucking. I I went to myself in a corner and cried, but like I had to figure out the best way of going about it, to not just fucking crash out crash out.
Speaker 1:I was thinking about like, uh, it's easier to crash out. There's a, there's a bunch of jails full of niggas there yeah, yeah, that's very true, I think like, like referring to your situation last week you talked about.
Speaker 3:When I get like that, I try to quickly shift my mindset to just okay, let me get over the defeat, because when something happens, you instantly feel defeated. Yeah, okay, let me. Okay. All right, I felt sorry long enough, let me find a solution. Let me start being proactive, because at least that way I'm not worried, I'm not thinking too heavily about what happened. I'm thinking more so on how to fix or make better what happened. So like, don't, don't dwell too much in the defeat and I eventually got there.
Speaker 2:It was just oof, because, especially when you, when you feel like you're doing a lot of that shit by yourself, you're just like, oh, but um, got back on track as far as trying to figure out the situation. Stop feeling sorry for myself in the moment. Um shit, what advice would you give someone who doesn't feel like they're making a difference, but might be?
Speaker 3:I would tell them that they're making a difference just by existing every day, because there's somebody in their life that loves them and that if you weren't here, you would impact them. So just by you being here, you're making a difference. So start there and now make your existence matter to you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think in general you do it more than you know. Most people don't know what they're doing. Uh don't think about uh good shit. Usually when things are like going bad, like it's harder to think about that, so more people like dwell on that. But um, I guess when I see that, I usually just remind people that you do it more than you think you are for sure.
Speaker 2:For sure someone's always watching I say do you to the best of your ability and pay attention to the signs around you, because you'll you'll see things that you don't even realize is happening as you're doing. You on, like genuinely when you look, then, like, pay attention to moves you make and then look around and see who notices, because when you look around, you're like you're gonna see that the face is either affected in a positive or negative manner. They're gonna look at you and be like I see you nigga. Or they're gonna look at you and say I like like they're gonna have some sort and it could be taken as them not understanding or them hating, but that hate also lets you know you're doing something right too.
Speaker 3:Um wake up every day and give your haters something else to hate on.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So do you think quiet leadership or leading by example can be more powerful than the outspoken action?
Speaker 3:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Oh, at a hundred percent, absolutely. Words don't mean nothing if they don't be followed with action. Like you can have somebody who says all this shit like, oh, he's a boring leader, and you're like, well, and they don't do nothing. Like, after a while somebody is going to notice and be like, oh, while somebody's gonna notice and be like, oh, you just know how to talk. Like I don't hear shit. Like because you know if shit hits the fan, that motherfucker ain't gonna be there with you. So that's how people look, that's how I look at it. I'm like that's, that's the the, the rah-rah and the hoorah is I think you just answered it opposite.
Speaker 2:What? Because the question is do you think leadership, or leading by example, can be more powerful than no?
Speaker 1:that's what I'm saying. I think it's way more powerful, like, to speak more than that. No to, not to to do the action, like because people talk a lot and it's like that don't mean nothing if there's no action behind it so you don't think it's more powerful than the outspoken action what the?
Speaker 2:out. It's pretty much someone talking and and being able to or be quiet by it, like the outspoken yeah, the actions are the.
Speaker 1:It's the same thing. I think we're saying okay, yeah, the actions are the part that matter, like if you're saying stuff. It's like the saying stuff don't matter, but yeah, pretty much, let your actions be your words for shizzle, because even if you use the words, if there's no action behind the words, the words are now no longer respected so Kobe Bryant or Tim Duncan? Both because Kobe put the action, tim Duncan put the action well, who's who would you rather be led by?
Speaker 3:I don't know, they're both they're both. I heard that Tim was actually really, really vocal just not just not in the press, but he would say some shit to you at practice to piss you off yeah, I can see that like it's he, cause Kobe is not just.
Speaker 1:He wasn't just talking either. You know what I mean. So it's like all the shit he said. He's like I did this, like I did the work.
Speaker 3:It's hard to tell the nigga to shut the hell up when he's at practice two hours before you and two hours after you he's putting the work in. If he's telling you not putting enough work in, you can't complain if he's putting the work in.
Speaker 2:Remember that, trace McGrady, see, I set that up, anyway. So this is a new segment. We're going to end this off with a new segment.
Speaker 3:It's like is she feeling you, fam? Is that the name of it?
Speaker 2:that's that's um. It's a working title okay, all right. So what might be the first sign that a woman is feeling you? This is for the men out there I can't answer this nigga.
Speaker 3:I've been with one woman so long I forgot, I guess. I guess, if she laughed at your jokes, apparently, that's, that's a, that's a oh, and it's too much of a laugh, though, when you're like that bitch.
Speaker 1:That wasn't funny.
Speaker 2:You're like where they do the little hair flip I couldn't honestly tell you other than just generally being weirdly interested in things that you know aren't interesting about you.
Speaker 3:Oh my God, you find your beard that way.
Speaker 2:You're so smart Like I'm not that smart. I'm not All right. How does her body language change when she's feeling you?
Speaker 1:Oh, that you can definitely tell. Yeah, a lot more touching, playful punches change when she's feeling you. Oh, that you can definitely tell yeah, a lot more touching.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's you know playful punches, more relaxed, relaxed overall that is she.
Speaker 2:More, I guess, like sitting down, what should be more. I can say that is kind of like she's her body language without and she's more angled towards you in conversation instead of sitting away from you oh no, she, she's.
Speaker 3:She's directly facing, you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's she's trying to make eye contact pointing that energies towards you she might look for a attention, uh, the occasional graze of the hand to try to get or touch your, your leg or grab that meat and that's actually happening so I can't say no, that's not leg or grab that meat. That's actually happening, so I can't say no, that's not the case.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that can't no, yeah, that's the test as they call it.
Speaker 2:Gotta see what they got that shit in this day and age. It's a come up for me, cause I'm gonna sue. Unhand me, you wench what are subtle for me. Oh shit, because I'm going to sue. Unhand me, you wench what are subtle, low-key signs that we often miss that mean she's feeling you or us as men.
Speaker 3:I don't know. I miss them all the time Because I'm always like did she the way that bitch was? No, I was just talking.
Speaker 1:I was really good at just missing. I would have hit a lot more targets if I didn't.
Speaker 2:I've said it before here right, the one where the girl just kept saying fuck, over and over.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And she said it fuck so often. I completely missed the whole time we were walking home. She was trying to give me a hint. I'm pretty sure, I don't take hints. I don't take hints, well at all.
Speaker 1:I'm bad at that shit. I'm pretty sure bad as that shit, pretty sure. Some girl said some shit that was like I probably shouldn't have taken that as a joke. But yeah, I think there was a bunch of us and they was talking about trying to hit and she was like I'll probably fuck that guy and I was just like me, moi.
Speaker 3:Moi Do tell Hmm.
Speaker 1:That's not a sign.
Speaker 2:That was an open invitation, that's alley-oop that's alley-oop.
Speaker 3:That's a lob right there.
Speaker 2:You gotta finish that oh yeah, you're not a shooter, huh um, if she texts back quickly but keeps it short, is it that she's into you or just polite?
Speaker 3:oh well, nigga she could just be responsible. I don't know. Again, I'm going to say you know?
Speaker 2:On the flip side. If she doesn't text back quickly, does that mean the opposite?
Speaker 3:She could just be busy.
Speaker 2:If she never texts back.
Speaker 1:She ain't for you. I think she don't want to talk to you, all right.
Speaker 2:Does she initiate conversations or hangouts?
Speaker 3:If she initiated she like she she coming yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I can agree to that. That's for sure.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Cause that would be mad. Odd, if you're like, so you want to hang out. You didn't like me, but you kept trying to hang out. I ain't rich.
Speaker 3:So out. I ain't rich, so you suck too, Especially if she's inviting you to non-group activities. She's for you, yeah she's for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2:Or in the beginning they'll be. What if she's playfully roasting or teasing you? Is that a green flag or a friend zone alert?
Speaker 3:I think that's a green flag.
Speaker 2:Huh.
Speaker 3:I think that's a green flag.
Speaker 2:What if you roast her back?
Speaker 3:She might not like what I say. She might not like what I say.
Speaker 2:It goes from you're being in the green flag to the friend zone, like fuck this nigga. You're like, oh, so it was too much. That joke was too much. Okay. How do you tell the difference between flirtation and friendliness? I think, men have a hard time with that one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, I think sometimes it gets played all weird shit too.
Speaker 3:Some dudes think, just because she polite, she flirting, she just being polite.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you should be able to do that. Niggas have a hard time with this.
Speaker 1:That part, you should be able to tell.
Speaker 2:I've had a few friends that tell me hey, man, you know, I said nigga, I think she's just friendly.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh. She said thank you twice.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm going to send her a dick pic.
Speaker 3:Don't, don't, don't.
Speaker 1:She brought some extra breadsticks. Bro, you're like that's her job she said thanks, hun.
Speaker 2:Nah, she said it differently, though it was like directed directly at me. Nah, nigga, it wasn't.
Speaker 1:I guess you would have to try to know that person, to know those things, cause some people talk a certain way and they're not flirting at all. Some people take that as a certain way, but it's like, well, she says that to everyone, brother, like hello love, and you're like she calls everyone love don't.
Speaker 3:I will say I am guilty that I, if you are attractive, I will speak to you differently. I'm guilty of that If I find you attractive, if I find you attractive.
Speaker 2:I stay the fuck away from you. That's what you do. Huh what, I stay clear, Just talk differently.
Speaker 3:I have a lot more patience with you. That's not right.
Speaker 2:I know I just stay clear because. I don't want, no problems.
Speaker 1:But it is what it is. That's why they get away with all that shit Pretty privilege.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if she brings you around her friends, is that a sign that she's serious or just flexing?
Speaker 3:She could just bring you around so they can see who the fuck she's been talking about.
Speaker 1:That's the test that might be a test. Hey, tell me if you see, am I missing something? Am I missing something? Because he might be crazy, just let me know. But that's the. It's probably the. I think I like him, but I'm not sure.
Speaker 2:Or it could be the nigga. She was roasting in that group chat and they just wanted to see if it was in person.
Speaker 1:I guess you find out if you meet him again.
Speaker 3:It's like they take that and say fellas, whatever you do, do not go into your girl's group chat, because they flaming your ass or somebody you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's probably a bad idea.
Speaker 3:Yeah, keep that. Yeah, don't go into my sibling group chat, it'll be flaming y'all.
Speaker 2:What does it mean when she remembers the small details about you?
Speaker 3:She's into you If she's remembering small things. Yeah, yeah, hopefully, If she's like yeah, I remember that your favorite point was .51 on Kobe's 81-point game. Damn bitch, You're crazy. I'm gonna have to exit the stage.
Speaker 2:I say I agree with all that only if the small detail isn't just the size of your penis I don't know how you should.
Speaker 1:You should phrase that different.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like small detail, then now yeah, that's what I'm saying, like if she was just like the only thing she remembers that she had a small dick. I don't think that's because she likes you, bro yeah, yeah, I'm giving all I got, yeah but if ever, if it's everything else, then yes, I agree. If it's small details, like about the way you laugh or weird things about you, quirky things that no one else noticed, and she notices it, yeah she's into you. But yeah, if it's just that.
Speaker 1:Unless you got money, then you got to do a little more research.
Speaker 2:None of this matters.
Speaker 1:That's true If there's money's money involved. Yes, you might just be setting you up for something you might have a sniper on your hands, drea she laughs at all my jokes, like yeah, yeah, of course you got a porsche so as we continue.
Speaker 2:If she makes time for you when she's busy, is that a confirmation that she's feeling you?
Speaker 3:That's a confirmation that she sees a future with you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, people don't make time for people, that they don't give a fuck about.
Speaker 3:She sees a possible future with you.
Speaker 1:How they gonna do that, like what girl does, that Does what?
Speaker 2:Makes time for her.
Speaker 3:I was asking questions your wife don't make time for you never.
Speaker 1:No, you know, I'm saying if they don't give a fuck about you.
Speaker 2:Oh, did your wife give a fuck about you.
Speaker 1:I was getting I was getting my nails done. You're like ah, bitch you could've.
Speaker 3:You could've invited me bitch no, for real, though, invite me. I like getting my nails done too. That shit's comfortable. That shit's my nose done too, that's just gonna be closing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's cute, give me a pedicure real quick, some cute. I do think there's uh some sort of credit to saying, like, if she's willing to make the time, yes, then yeah if she's really trying to go out of her way to to move some things around if she sacrificed sleep for you.
Speaker 1:She love you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, tell you that right now how does her level of physical touch factor if into knowing if she's down?
Speaker 1:don't touch me too much oh yeah, she grabs the meat. You know it's time, it's, she's dtf.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we in, unless you grab your mingos yeah, that's a bad time damn well that is a bad time, you wanna go raising canes or something her whole energy and shifts some chicken strips like oh, little buddy, let's get you a happy meal. I'll even buy it, I'll buy it do you need a ride? You have a handicap. No, I, no, I don't. What are you talking about? What is this? All right, uh, uh, all right. How does her level of physical touch factor into knowing? All right, just start that, uh, what do you know? When she starts using the we language?
Speaker 3:Does she tell you nigga Like you make this shit official?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it depends, on what the we is.
Speaker 3:She ain't French, nigga.
Speaker 2:Alright, when should you back off versus lean in more?
Speaker 3:First sign of crazy back off. See first sign of crazy back off see second sign what's the?
Speaker 2:so glad I'm out the game like that what's the clear sign that she's not into you, even if she's being nice?
Speaker 3:she's everything short you. Even if she's being nice, everything's short and cordial. Sometimes people can confuse cordial with being into you.
Speaker 1:You were talking to somebody, man. It just sounds fucked up out there.
Speaker 3:It really does In the dating world.
Speaker 1:I'm just like what'd you say? Oh, wow, that's awful.
Speaker 2:This is what you guys got to deal with now, like hey, man, that's why I'll park in the same rv spot so last question have you ever thought she was feeling you and you were so wrong, and what were the signs that you misread? The damn dog bit me excuse me, oh, I don't woman.
Speaker 3:Oh, it's not a woman.
Speaker 1:All of the signs we said before, misread them all Every single one.
Speaker 2:You don't have a story.
Speaker 1:Nah, I'm not telling none of those that was the whole point of the last one. It was a story I ain't telling the misses. Brother Just swung and missed. It's a long miss too.
Speaker 2:I'm going to see if I have.
Speaker 1:You think I spent money.
Speaker 2:Have a story? Let's see. Oh, I spent money to miss. You can answer while I think of a story.
Speaker 3:I don't have a story. Yeah, this motherfucker been locked up for a minute.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like he ain't, you don't have one story 24 years.
Speaker 2:There's a story in there somewhere, even if it's with the woman, because you could have misread a situation when you're recording.
Speaker 3:Oh, I take everything that's sexual, so I misread a lot of them.
Speaker 1:I think I'll say it doesn't look good with me having this cup. I remember going on a date with this girl about to be a doctor and like each day we went and had some drinks. And then she's like, yeah, nah, like I don't like you, like you drink a little too much for me and I was like bitch, you were the one like ordering shots of tequila and shit, like I don't know what I misread, but maybe she was recovering and like I didn't.
Speaker 3:Maybe she wanted you to refuse the drinks.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it was. I was like a glass of wine, I think, on the first date and then the next one. It was like at some club and then she was like, yeah, let's get tequila shots. And I was like, oh, I'm down, but you did this, so I missed something somewhere. You did this, so I missed something.
Speaker 2:Somewhere. Two stories of being on the opposite end, where they misread it completely and thought it meant something, when I was just being friendly.
Speaker 3:I got a couple of those.
Speaker 2:Like I had the one where I was asking if she was going to I think it was one of buck's parties and I asked the question and the question was tucking as like oh well, I'm not into you, I just look at you as a friend. I said, bitch, I wasn't. I don't look at you that way, I was just asking the question. Glad we're on the same page like but I could tell she's like oh, you're just like, you're just trying to save face. No bitch, I'm serious.
Speaker 1:I wasn't looking at you in that way, I was just asking if you were going to the same function and you just happen to take that as oh he's yeah, sorry no, I know that I've never known that feeling, that one's funny, that one is hilarious, and it feels weird, because it was one of the things where you're like, okay, no, you're just trying to save that.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not, I'm not. I'm not really trying to save face and, being honest with you, you was just wrong. Yeah, yeah, it was more like a flattering to your ego than it was to actually get in the situation right. Um, and then another one was uh, it was a, a girl I went to high school with.
Speaker 2:We were chatting on aim, this is how long ago that was aim and I asked her a question because I was trying to catch up because I hadn't seen her in years, and then it turned into some shit where she was like, oh my god, you're, you're trying to get with me and I'm not interested. I don't look at you that way and I said, bitch, I was just trying to get to know how you've been. I'm not interested in a chick, and no offense to a woman with kids out there, but she had like four kids and we were only 18.
Speaker 3:God, damn what the hell.
Speaker 1:She was getting paid.
Speaker 2:So at that time I was like trust me, I'm not interested in you in that way. It's literally just catching up, because I haven't seen you since freshman year high school. So oh yeah oh okay, and it's always that all you're trying to say face up, really not you gotta pick a struggle.
Speaker 2:You can't have four kids and be mean and be mean, especially like I said I'm 18 at the time. I have no kids. What the fuck do you think? No, no, like I said, no offense to women with kids. I'm just saying at that time, you have four kids, I'm 18 and you're like, oh, that's a stone dick at me you know I got nothing wrong with women.
Speaker 1:I'll tell you what one with the kid every day I just feel like I might be prejudging, but I have a feeling there was four kids and no daddy's around.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and she was bitter yeah, yeah yeah, you're correct.
Speaker 2:You're correcting that assumption're correct in that assumption.
Speaker 1:Sucks Can't be bitter at 18.
Speaker 3:That sucks, imagine what she's like now at 40.
Speaker 2:Liberated her kids is her age, bitter sayon. Folly free. Those are the homies, bitter sayon.
Speaker 3:But, with that being said, this has been episode 207 of the heavyweight podcast.
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