The Heavyweight Podcast
Welcome to *The Heavyweight Podcast*, where every week, a dynamic group of four—“this lady and these three guys”—come together to discuss a wide range of topics that both warm the heart and nourish the soul. The Heavyweight Podcast brings together four unique individuals, each with their own perspective, to engage in open and honest conversations about real-life situations. Whether you're in need of a good laugh to release some tension or you're seeking real answers to life’s tough questions, tune in to *The Heavyweight Podcast*. Whatever you're looking for, you’ll find it here.
The Heavyweight Podcast
Fatherhood Unfiltered
Ever come home after a long day only to find your last snack missing and your kid chilling in your spot like they pay bills? Welcome to fatherhood—real, raw, and full of surprises.
In this honest and hilarious episode of The Heavyweight Podcast, three dads pull back the curtain on what it really means to raise children in today’s world. From shelling out $1,200 a month on extracurriculars to wrestling with the emotional weight of protecting and providing, they hold nothing back.
They reflect on powerful memories of their own fathers, sharing heartfelt lessons passed down through swimming trips, early morning BBQs, and quiet moments that now make perfect sense. Fatherhood, they admit, has transformed them in ways they never expected—giving their lives focus, purpose, and sometimes a little chaos too.
You'll laugh, nod your head, and maybe even tear up as they dive into:
- How becoming a dad reshapes your identity
- Dealing with pocket-watching coworkers
- Raising daughters in a complicated world
- And the truth behind: “You don’t understand until you go through it.”
Final takeaway? It’s not about what you can buy—it’s about being there. The memories you build matter most.
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Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 2:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation.
Speaker 3:Statistically, a household with a father in it produces children that are usually more well-balanced. They usually have a bit of self-confidence. This is episode 202, dedicated to the fathers. I'm Des the Diva, sitting here with three of the most amazing fathers that I know. Introduce yourself, gentlemen.
Speaker 1:I'm Kevin Winslow.
Speaker 3:Any relation to Carl.
Speaker 1:None, none at all.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:Are you Winslow?
Speaker 4:None, none at all no Are your wins low.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I want to be related to Carl after them stories came out.
Speaker 3:We and I can, I will talk about that off camera. Go ahead.
Speaker 4:I am Dez, the Diva's favorite guy, molito.
Speaker 3:He's lying.
Speaker 2:I'm that Nick that's the divas favorite guy molito, he's lying. I'm uh that nick, uh mcfly. And then also I am sun kiss mcfly, and I'm aren't you glad that you're on this podcast with fly I like sun kiss mcfly.
Speaker 3:That's cute. I like that. Now you're not gonna use it because you said it's cute. Yeah, don't know, nobody want to hear that.
Speaker 4:Why do you want to hear oh, that's cute it, I like that. Now you're not going to use it because you said it's cute. Don't make me want to hear that.
Speaker 3:It could be cute if I wanted to be cute.
Speaker 1:I like it. It don't sound hard to get this out. I like it. It's no longer a nickname. When you do that, it's over, thanks.
Speaker 2:It's all orange.
Speaker 3:I like it. I like it. How were your weeks Great?
Speaker 5:I live in a fucking trash. Can you do look like Oscar the Grouch today?
Speaker 3:Look at this oh, you didn't wear that.
Speaker 4:You have the green. I didn't wear the Oscar, I thought about wearing it.
Speaker 3:I love Oscar, not on a dead day.
Speaker 5:Yeah, Oscar, you're a grouch.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, you know what my winku's really good. I got a new grill.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, right, you got another grill.
Speaker 4:Yeah, they tried that shit with me. I said send that shit back and give me something I can use for myself. No, I asked for this one.
Speaker 1:Okay, it's like one of them. It's a girly grill, but I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 4:What do you mean? Girly grill?
Speaker 1:Explain it's a Ninja, a Ninja.
Speaker 4:That don't count, nigga. I thought you were got a girl outside. It's outside. It's an outside one.
Speaker 1:It's an outside, ninja, you got an outside grill. It's outside. I got like a pizza oven and a motherfucking smoker.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, I'll be back next week with my pizza dough. Thank you.
Speaker 4:Yeah, so all I heard is that you started making pizzas for the family For no reason.
Speaker 1:Yeah, for so do a breakfast pizza. We're probably gonna make every type of pizza and dessert pizza, mushroom pizza. I'm gonna make some Oreo pizza I might pop up. Yeah, that sounds good. No, I can't do that. Yes, you can. I'm trying to lose weight, right.
Speaker 5:That's what.
Speaker 4:I'm saying Well, how was your week um, john?
Speaker 3:that's it.
Speaker 4:I'm just. I can't even be happy for Father's Day, cause all I'm thinking about is how much shit costs.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, that's all I think about oh, let that be the one day, you don't think?
Speaker 1:about that shit you can't that's sad.
Speaker 4:You know what you know. What was due after Gymnastics Day or after Father's day was gymnastics fees them fees.
Speaker 3:Don't let up shit they on your ass. I for some reason I assumed you paid them like one time a year and then you were done.
Speaker 4:It sound like you paying them multiple damn times. They pay them every month. It costs so much. You have to break this shit up you have to do a payment plan. That's how they expect to get. Look here the team payments is about four grand. That's broken up in six payments, so you do that right. Then you still have to pay the monthly dues that's due the first of every month. So all I'm going to say is that I gave this gym $1,200 this month.
Speaker 2:I got into the wrong profession.
Speaker 1:Hello he said, but it's the first or the sixth?
Speaker 3:What is it? So because now I'm intrigued, and we won't go too too deep in this, but now I'm intrigued. So what are the dudes?
Speaker 1:Hold on, hold on, hold on and that was on top of paying for.
Speaker 4:I had to finish paying for camp because we go to camp in three weeks.
Speaker 3:I remember oh, no, man. If somebody wants to go fund me, this gentleman and sponsor, that's happening.
Speaker 2:So, when people ask me, man, how was your father's day, kids? It's like. It's like preschool too.
Speaker 4:That should be that should be, that should be wild yeah, that's out, and I mean they give us a breakdown on what the fees cover, but I think I'm being overcharged because I feel like I can coach some of these girls. Um, hold on, this is the fucked up part about the contract, oh okay there's a clause in the contract.
Speaker 4:There's a clause in the contract where they you know it's teen sports, y'all got kids. They want their parents to volunteer, right, so they add an extra $150 in the contract if you don't volunteer. But if you volunteer your hours, you get that money, like taking off your final payment. I've heard of this. How are you paid? I'm not volunteering. Fuck you and your mans.
Speaker 5:I don't give a fuck. Does Don King run this or well?
Speaker 1:no, there's some. They like force the parents to do it so my week was fucking expensive. Like they schedule them, they're like this is your week to clean. You're like oh shit, I didn't know that was part of the.
Speaker 4:So they they pretty much expect us to like when they host like, like, the like, the like the yearly Christmas thing and like it's another like and like, like little and Jim Meets. They expect us to like help set up, break down is the song playing throughout every banquet and thing. I'm a hustler baby. They hustling, they definitely fucking hustling they definitely are they is hustling. It's a hustler's ambition, this nigga's? Yeah, they definitely hustle. I'm sorry I stopped going up there because I get pissed off.
Speaker 4:I bet you do, I bet you do when the Remy's in the system every time I pass the tundra I go man. One day, as soon as I got there, as soon as she, every day I wake up like baby. You sure you want to do this. Let me know now because we can. You know, softball is a lot cheaper.
Speaker 3:I'm not.
Speaker 4:It's going to pay off in the end.
Speaker 3:She does very well at it. It's a lot cheaper. It's going to pay off in the end.
Speaker 1:It's a lot cheaper. It depends on if you get into the club. It's still cheaper. Mcfly it's cool, it's still cheaper.
Speaker 3:Once they're done, debating can you tell me how you're doing.
Speaker 5:You're weak you, you did man it's a safe space. She done pissed me off we listen and we don't judge you need more time than we got.
Speaker 3:I judge how was your week, mcfly.
Speaker 4:I'm finna call my therapist when I leave now cause he done upset me, I done triggered you. Now I gotta talk now you have to pay extra for it cause it's a Saturday.
Speaker 3:I'm so sorry, how was your week, mcfly? My week was work and dealing with the nosies it was some nosy folks nosy people at work, the pocket watchers you got pocket watchers at the god damn job.
Speaker 2:That's dope they were pocket watching and I was leaving work this week and one of the co-workers, who I'm cool with, asked the question while I was leaving early and I ignored that. But then it was another guy that I don't really care for, that uh asked me a question. He kept asking, he was pushing. He was like hey man, you leaving this early, uh, you're not gonna work anymore. I said dude, what are you a fucking supervisor? Hey man, I'm just, I'm just trying to have a conversation, buddy, and I gave him energy and, um, he just turned away from me and then one of the on-road supervisors was trying to defuse the situation. So he was like man, you look great, man, you've been in the gym and I said this, nigga's trying to defuse the situation so he was doing the job
Speaker 2:yeah, but he, he, he picked up on what was fucking happening. Though, like the one thing I'll say about our job is they worry so much about amongst the drivers there's always a worry about what the other driver could be doing, what they could be making, why they get this and not that, and it's like I've never understood it. I've had this talk with mo. I always mind my own business, focus on what I'm doing, and I never really have time to worry about what the next man is doing. So it always baffles me when I'm confronted with it, because it's been that way for a long time. But every time I'm confronted with it, just like damn, they're really pocket watching me, because if I'm not worried about you, are you worried about me, and that was how my week ended there.
Speaker 1:You should go buy a beater car and just drive it for like a month straight and be like dang a hoopty nigga, let him be, he just fell on rough time.
Speaker 2:Not get my hair braided, just come to work, do the smoke, handshaking and shit. Hey man, you good. No man, I'm a they didn't get you.
Speaker 1:They didn't get you yet you ain't gonna do that.
Speaker 4:Just show like two Fridays in a row. They be like what's going on? Man, you alright, you good everything good.
Speaker 2:I mean you're never here on Fridays. I mean, nigga, you don't care about me, you just nosy how was your week Des?
Speaker 3:it was cool. It was cool. This is super random, but I can smell your drink. Oh, it smell fire. So you want one, I do, I'm up here like what you drinking. I don't really drink A little bark.
Speaker 1:But Roar, roar, roar.
Speaker 3:It smells good, I can smell it, I'm like what the hell is going on.
Speaker 4:It's your drink. I smell that's some nigga shit over in that cup. You got some nigga shit in that cup no ice that's nigga shit.
Speaker 3:He said no ice but no, I had, I had a cool week. I'm not too eventful this week, I'm just chilling, okay, just chilling All right, let's get into these questions. The first question is what was your first memory of your father or father figure?
Speaker 1:First memory. I don't know my first memory. The first thing I can think of that I remember is always. I don't know how old I was. That I remember is always. I don't know how old I was. I had to be like four, maybe five, trying to get my dad trying to teach me how to swim at the beach. Didn't go too well, oh no, taught me to toughen up.
Speaker 4:That's the craziest place to learn how to swim Right. You realize I could go that way Right easily, Real easy.
Speaker 3:That's right. Yeah, I can go that way, right, easily, real easy, that's right, yeah, I got to slam my little wave or two. Can you now swim?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I can swim.
Speaker 3:I hope so.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he didn't like the. You know me crying and shit about the sand in my eyes.
Speaker 4:Oh, toughen me up.
Speaker 3:Rinse that shit off with that salt water. Toughen me up, that's.
Speaker 1:That's a little fucked up, but okay but it's not a bad memory, it's just funny. I was like that's weird, that that's the one of the first ones pops in my head man, I don't know, it's rough.
Speaker 4:I don't know like damn I'm getting old, I know. I know one of my favorite memories whenever he, my grandfather, would wake up at about 4, 3.30, 4 in the morning to go light that barrel smoker.
Speaker 4:You know old school barrel, barrel yeah, that's gonna be a good day. Yeah, that's gonna be a good day. Yeah, that's going to be a good day. Um, my cause, my grandpa. He was a man of little words. So you, you, he didn't say much. You had to watch what he was doing. He, he told you through his actions. So, um, I will say my, my favorite memory, I will say my favorite memory. I will always say this, my favorite memory.
Speaker 4:I remember I think I was about 13 or 14, and we were out in the garage one Saturday cleaning the garage, organizing stuff, was a man of few words. I had never heard him talk like this, ever. And we're doing something, and my grandma came out there you know typical woman fashion, telling men how to work, and she was like no, no, my grandfather's name was LT. No, lt, don't put it there, I want that over there. And he turned around. He said woman, go in there and make me something to eat and be quiet. And my grandma shut up, turned around, walked in the house and started cooking and I looked like I've never seen this before, but it should. And she was like okay, you're right. She was like all right, I done pushed the wrong button. Let me back up. Well, yeah, I mean they were married 65 years before they passed away, so they did something right, they?
Speaker 2:did something right, they did something right, so absolutely sorry for this next story oh damn uh, the first memory I have of my dad, uh, I have to give the backstory. Uh, my mom had, uh took me to live with her, her parents, in st louis and, um, it wasn't going good and after a couple of uh the the situations that had happened, uh, she sent me back to live with my dad because, uh, at one point, like it got so bad, I broke. I woke up crying in the middle of the night and she didn't like the treatment that was happening to me, so she sent me back to live with my dad. And when my dad picked me up from Greyhound, he picked me and my sister up, he took us to McDonald's on University. He pulled up near the entrance and told, uh, my sister to get us food or whatever. And I hopped out with my sister to go get food.
Speaker 2:And I remember him telling me this, and I remember it um, that I wouldn't let him out of my sight because I had a fear that he wouldn't, he was going to leave.
Speaker 2:So I remember him telling me from his perspective and him saying that it broke his heart because he never wanted me to have to feel that. So, um, yeah, that first memory was essentially just, uh, the one I can remember, because there's there are a lot of different things, but that one was the first memory that sticks out when I think about, um, my dad, and I feel like after that point he kind of just took it on himself not to make me feel that way again, but uh, yeah, that was the first memory is him leaving us at mcdonald's on university. That's why anytime I drive by there, I feel that that it's a weird, uh, it's a weird emotion, but I just feel I don't know like life shifted at that point. But I did feel, like my dad like just said, I'm gonna be the best that I can be in that moment you sound like you had a really really good dad.
Speaker 3:Yeah, real good dad. Just listening to some of the stories you shared over the time podcasting, you had a really good dad. Um, what are some lessons did your dad that? Your dad taught you that stuck with you. And, and just so the fans know, I don't talk about my dad, like them niggas on in contact, I'll talk about bruno, so I won't be really having too much to say about these questions, so I'm gonna ask you but they didn't talk about real, because you don't know the real I ain't talking about.
Speaker 3:My dad might know the real something. He ain't speaking up, so I don't want to talk about that nigga. I don't have nothing to say about him but you're not going to apologize. You don't apologize, only to, only to the knee. I don't say apologize to Ray, just the knee.
Speaker 4:Okay.
Speaker 3:That's because my mom she still think it's okay to whip people when they 40.
Speaker 4:So she, so did my grandfather.
Speaker 3:I don't want to, I don't want to smoke with that lady. Kevin, good answer Lessons learned you cooking up?
Speaker 4:No good answer. Lessons learned you cooking up?
Speaker 1:no, I think like accountability, not really taking nothing, like don't take no shit. I think one of I don't know why he said shit like this don't take no wooden nickels. I know what that means. Now I didn't younger that he said shit like this Don't take no wooden nickels. I know what that means now. I didn't Younger, that didn't make any fucking sense.
Speaker 3:Okay, Smoke what.
Speaker 1:But I don't know A lot of those lessons, it's just it taught me he kind of taught me how to take care of myself, like, and not rely on nobody else, and it was cool once I did that. And then, fortunately, I was starting to do certain things where he could see that. And then him noticing and telling me I see what you're doing, I'm proud of that. I'm like, oh, that's cool, that's a cool feeling. So I think him seeing the lessons that he was teaching me come to fruition, I like that.
Speaker 4:I know that wasn't part of the question, it just it's okay, it's okay um, I would just say that, uh, that responsibility, responsibility, don't care how, about how your life is going. You ain't lying.
Speaker 3:Neither was your father figure. That's a fact check.
Speaker 4:So it don't matter how you feel, you got people you're responsible for. You get up and take care of what you got to take care of.
Speaker 3:Period Point. Damn Blame McFly.
Speaker 2:Main point always be a man of your word. Close mouth don't get. Be a man of your word, uh, close mouth don't get. Fed was usually a a common understanding. Speak the fuck up. And um, you used to always tell me this and I I live by that. Shit is uh, you know what you need to do, so do it. And that that I hear his voice every time when I'm I'm doubting myself or the hard reality hits and it's just like I hear his voice. You know what you need to do, do it so anytime, like that's the one.
Speaker 2:That's the one time I hear his voice like the clearest, like he's standing right next to me, like I'm in the doctor's office and the doctor gives you like a harsh reality. He's like you know what you need to do. Do it like you know what you need to do. Do it Like you know what you need to do. You know shit, lock in, so you know.
Speaker 3:Hmm, what are some things that you did not understand about your fathers and father figures until you became adults and, furthermore, fathers yourselves?
Speaker 4:That you'm broke. I remember my girl all the time I ain't got no money. I just saw all that money you had in your hand. This money is accounted for as a father and as a husband. I understand. Yeah, we got paid today. I'm just holding on to it a little longer before I got to go pay these people. I get that now. You gotta have something reserved, man. You can't spend it as fast as you get it.
Speaker 3:I'm not gonna, because all yours is going to the gymnastics. Don't trigger them here.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna break down a segment of this that's my.
Speaker 4:Tanya, right there, I can get it. She just quit, she really loved me.
Speaker 2:Another tale of gymnastic fees.
Speaker 3:We're going to be watching her on the Olympics and you're going to be like I hope, so we know how much this costs.
Speaker 4:You're sponsored by Toyota. I am keeping an itemized list of everything I spend. Are you Show her look?
Speaker 3:Don't say we didn't love you. She's going to take you there and you guys are going to be proud of the investment.
Speaker 4:Every time you guys are going on vacation, I'll show her them fees. You vacation every month.
Speaker 3:I am Okay.
Speaker 1:Kev please, I don't know Kev Kev please, I don't know, I won't say anything that I mean I didn't understand a lot about my dad until I got older and learned more about his upbringing, more than anything else. So it made more sense to why my dad was the way he was. From his upbringing, um, from things I didn't understand, I guess, I don't know, I didn't seem like that just from watching him. It felt like when I became a dad, I just kind of emulated a lot of those things Like put your head down, you got to go to work, get what you got to get done, like things like that. Some things I didn't implement Cause you know it's a different day and age.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we ain't always going to work, but I don't know. It didn't feel like anything that I didn't understand until I was a dad, because it was like I feel like he just kind of displayed that and we understood that growing up. So I just kind of translated that and we understood that growing up. So I just kind of translated that over to myself. But it was more the upbringing, learning how he was raised, to understand more of why he was, how he was it would be.
Speaker 2:It's funny because I've I've said it a couple times to mo with our job, like when we work certain nights, like when we worked overnight, I would get to a point where I get so tired to the point where I would have to pull over and move around and I it always pops in my head like I remember my dad when he would, we would travel cross-country.
Speaker 2:He would be like I just need to pull over the rest of my eyes.
Speaker 2:I said the fuck like, and I see him doing, like he'll run around like the truck, he'll do jumping jacks, he'll do push-ups, and I'm like and then he just hop in and take off and he have like another two hours and like also like the decompressing from, he'll work 14 hours, whatever many hours, on his feet as a barber and then come home and like you have to see him decompress, like you watch him and you see that he's.
Speaker 2:At the time I didn't understand it, but as a dad now I understand that like he's trying to unload everything that he had to deal with that entire day the anger, the stress, the, the work, the tiredness and be able to come home and then like decompress and then kind of switch into dad mode and like you don't understand it until you go through it, like that's what he was doing. So like when I get home and like I have to process not letting the outside world affect how I feel inside is like I get that why, why he did what he did when I would see him and he just he might come home, he might drink like something or he might just smoke a joint or he might do whatever. It's just anything to get away from not thinking about how the outside world is weighing on him. So I got that.
Speaker 4:And that's why we sit in the car before we come in the house.
Speaker 1:Well, my dad, he stayed decompressing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm sorry when people say, oh, why don't you get high, I was like, honestly, I probably had a contact high, my entire life.
Speaker 3:You don't smoke no weed, I don't smoke I smoke.
Speaker 2:one joint, not a joint. I hit a bong once and it didn't do shit to me.
Speaker 3:Nothing. High tolerance, huh it was bad weed, yeah, some true trash.
Speaker 2:It was good weed. Jc would never let me say he smoked bad weed I mean.
Speaker 1:How old was he?
Speaker 2:Yeah, he's fine, you're talking about JC Cruz, right? Yeah, yeah, the guy from NSYNC.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Was this young? Because as you get older you start to get finer things.
Speaker 2:You're like I was young, I was.
Speaker 1:Hell yeah.
Speaker 2:I think I was 19 and I was shit going beef with my dad and stressing the fuck out, and the homie offered to hit the bong.
Speaker 1:I hit that bong and I know it was somebody white too.
Speaker 3:When you said the bong, I was like this somebody white jerome is not white absolutely, I'm gonna start at this end of the table this time. How has being a father changed your life?
Speaker 2:um, I honestly just you realize that it's not about you and um, when you get, when you're younger, you're thinking about everything you want to do, and when kids come into the picture, it's not about you anymore. It's about, uh, what you can provide for them and um, and sometimes realizing that in later stages, realizing that you have to take care of you for them. So in the beginning you're just thinking, oh, what do I do? What do I do? This shit's all coming in fast pause. And then you eventually hit a point that you realize you have to take care of yourself in order to take care of them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, absolutely. I think that a lot of times men don't get the grace to do that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we don't get that.
Speaker 3:It's very much like women are encouraged to do that. I'm not a parent and y'all know that, but just watching from the outside, looking in, women are encouraged to take care of themselves, to have a moment to themselves, to have their own identity while still being a mom and a wife, and things of that nature, but I never see that being encouraged to men. So I'm glad that you mentioned that, because that's definitely a true fact. Men are not encouraged to have a moment hell, breathe, do something you used to do, something that, once you become a father or a husband, it's always just what can you provide. That's where the glory comes in.
Speaker 3:And I don't think that's fair.
Speaker 2:Like I posted recently, the change for me hit when my dad died, but it was like the whole braiding the hair, rocking the parts in the eyebrow, the fucking hitting the gym. Everything is based on just trying to take care of myself and find myself, because I feel like I lost myself. So in order to be here for them, I got to be a better me.
Speaker 3:So absolutely I agree. I'm glad that you are actively seeking you. I cannot wait to see the outcome of this. I already see the changes and a little bit more smiling, so I love that for you.
Speaker 2:But I'm happy to see that you're actively seeking you, I grin, or it's actually like a. I'm having a slight stroke. So when you see the grin, I see you smile.
Speaker 3:Everybody else might not see it, but we see you smile. Gentlemen on this side, what has being a father changed you?
Speaker 1:I like taking vacations without the kids we know shit.
Speaker 3:I want you to take the shots, hey the shots you had of the Kendrick show.
Speaker 2:I feel like I was there yeah, I made it, it's uh man, it was nice cause you know. I'll be jealous. I get to just come home. I saw someone commented on your video. Oh, he's still. He's still dragging it out. I was like what the fuck are you talking about? I?
Speaker 1:was going to reply to that and I was like, well, wouldn't you? You sold a stadium Right.
Speaker 5:You better enjoy, not Like Us and shut the fuck up.
Speaker 3:He go anywhere right now and don't sing that song. It's going to be a damn problem.
Speaker 1:No problem, come on Shit. I think I feel like it made me a little more focused, not a little more, a lot more, because I was a little nuts. So I got a little more focused and can't do things that I'm going to die from.
Speaker 3:Thank.
Speaker 1:God. So no more swimming with sharks and shit like that.
Speaker 2:You going to do that stratosphere?
Speaker 1:again. Nah, that shit was boring.
Speaker 3:Oh, my God, damn, just hearing some of your stories. I'm glad you have kids and they have slowed you the fuck down, because Nah, yeah, for real, they made me.
Speaker 5:Yeah, who the fuck knows A little more, are you? Okay, over there A lot more focused I just thought about when he fucking passed out midway coming down the stratosphere, when he did the bungee jump, and then when the guy was like, uh, is he okay?
Speaker 1:no, I didn't pass out.
Speaker 5:He had to do he had to do I was bored he had the guy terrified because he thought like he actually passed out midway I was literally upset, like that was me, like shrugging my shoulders because I was mad.
Speaker 1:I was was like damn, this is like there's no free fall now. Like three seconds in, it's like I already feel never mind. Anyway.
Speaker 3:You went bungee jumping.
Speaker 1:It wasn't bungee, it was base jumping. But I think I'm more goal-oriented because I kind of was just running around. I used to say, live like you're retired, but I had no money, so it's like not working out too well.
Speaker 1:Well that was good. I like playing shit out now and, yeah, it's all about building a future for them. Like all this shit I've accumulated is it's not for me, it's for all of us, obviously, but at some point it's gonna be there. So set them up with some cool shit and see how far I can take that. I like your outfit, man with the cookies. Is that what this is? This clubhouse is a weed, aren't you uh? Doing big things. Today, orange is the new black.
Speaker 3:Lolita, what is your answer?
Speaker 1:she's over us?
Speaker 3:nope not doing it, not doing a whole 45 minutes of y'all bullshit. Molita, what's the answer?
Speaker 4:I would just say, being a father, it gave bullshit. I mean, I'll be honest, it gave me, it gave my life purpose. Yeah, it did make me more driven because I was comfortable, like because my wife got pregnant at a time where I had finally got over my, my depressive spell, I had just went full time. So we I mean we were living it up.
Speaker 2:I was like, hey, blow it did you do the jarrow voice to everybody that we live in?
Speaker 4:no, no, no, I didn't no I mean, at one point it was like why don't we go grocery shopping? We eat now. Why are we wasting this money so we can have snacks because we're not nobody's cooking? Um, um. But yeah, I mean when I I just remember when she told me she was pregnant, like I've always wanted children, so when she told me she was pregnant I was excited and nervous and scared at the same time. It was a weird thing. But I do remember that I had this weird lock-in mentality all of a sudden. And so I always say she gave me purpose and now I live for the smiles. That's my validation when she smiles, when she's happy to see me, when she wants to play with me. That's my validation that I'm doing all right. So I mean she gave me purpose and she cost a lot of money.
Speaker 3:I was waiting on it. I was waiting on it. I'll start with you on the next one, mo. What's been your biggest challenge and your greatest reward in being a father? The money, the money. I just wanted to get it out the way because I knew we were going there.
Speaker 4:My big no, I'm kidding. Honestly, my biggest challenge, especially being a girl dad, is being softer.
Speaker 4:Because, you can't, I can't. I have to talk to her a certain way. I have to be gentle with her and it's not as as as men, as boys that's what we're not used to that I'll push you down upstairs, like what you talk about. So it's like it's having a whole different approach, with her being soft or being playful. That that has been like probably my, been probably my biggest challenge. Now, the other biggest challenge is that, because I feel like I'd be the same way with a son, but because she's my only child and she's my daughter, I'm super overprotective. I'm ready to shoot the school right now and they keep fucking with her.
Speaker 5:We're not going to say that I was going to say that we're not going to say that I was going to say that we're not going to say that Shoot, the school is not a good look.
Speaker 4:He's not going to do that.
Speaker 3:He's kidding. I mean not that.
Speaker 4:Just one particular person. See how it sounds.
Speaker 2:You see, when you hear it out loud, it sounds bad. Yeah, it sounded bad. It sounded bad.
Speaker 4:I'll say it like this I'm ready to go to these parent-teacher principal conferences because we're going to have some conversations and if this don't work, then just me and the other father are going to have to handle this ourselves.
Speaker 1:Oh, you're going to be wishbone. Talk with his hands.
Speaker 2:See, I can't even deny that, because it was last week where my daughter may have told me about a problematic classmate and I might have called him a bitch ass. You called somebody child, that I looked over at Edward and I said where's that bitch ass nigga? I said oh he, right there. Okay, motherfucking light.
Speaker 5:But that was just me in that moment, but I can't relate. I can relate.
Speaker 1:We don't condone violence here at the Heavyweight Podcast and we do want you at the children's school calling the other.
Speaker 4:Look here, I don't. Look here. I'm gonna say his name. Look here to the parents of whoever the fuck Liam is oh Liam. Oh right, I'm gonna just say it. If your parents can't afford to get you breakfast from Starbucks every morning, stop fucking hating. My baby. Want to bagel and cream cheese. So guess what the fuck she gonna get a bagel and cream cheese. So guess what the fuck she gonna get a bagel and cream cheese. She is seven. She ain't worried about calories. This girl work out with 27 000 hours a week.
Speaker 1:She ain't gained a pound in two years let me be clear are we talking to a child right now? Yes, to the parents, both, all of them.
Speaker 3:So liam, all of them how do we know that liam doesn't come from like a?
Speaker 4:I don't know the fuck where you come from.
Speaker 1:I'm not going into this.
Speaker 3:I've learned patience.
Speaker 4:Poor Liam. Liam died by the end of these hands.
Speaker 3:Liam, have your parents call me honey. I'll sponsor a gift card for you at Starbucks so you can get a bagel. No, fuck it, I'm triggered now and the same thing go to the parents of Olofine, why?
Speaker 4:And the same thing go to the parents of Olafin? Why the fuck did they name her that Because, just because your mama, is too lazy, hold on, just because your mama's too lazy to actually cook and pack you a lunch and you think you're eating good because you're eating Lunchables and my baby got full meals over here. Fuck you and your family. Happy Father's Day y'all Since we're adding on Olafin.
Speaker 3:I'm really sorry that that's your name, sugarfoot.
Speaker 2:I got smoke for Arturo's parents and Mike's parents. Both of y'all got.
Speaker 3:Ain't nobody messing with your little one because she look like she a fight.
Speaker 1:Hey look.
Speaker 5:I'm not into, she'll hit you.
Speaker 1:We're all good, everyone's good. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh yeah, hi, yeah, we'll come get you in a second. All right, okay, I'll let him in. We can keep, we can keep going here, we got it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay and uh, do you have your favorite dad joke? I do. I thought we did this already. I, yeah, I told you a million oh, and I didn't like none of them okay we're gonna skip that one because I'm gonna let y'all know right now.
Speaker 1:I think I might have chuckled at like one or two, but I can't catch dad't like none of them. Okay, we're going to skip that one because I'm going to let y'all know right now.
Speaker 3:I think I might have chuckled at like one or two, but I can't catch dad jokes, all of them. I had never heard dad jokes until I met your niggas.
Speaker 1:What?
Speaker 3:do you call no?
Speaker 1:No, what do you call a man with a rubber toe?
Speaker 3:Huh, what do you call him? I?
Speaker 1:don't know, roberto Duh.
Speaker 3:Roberto, I do like that stupid ass joke.
Speaker 4:You all right. You okay that stupid ass joke. You asked for a dad joke Before you got a dad joke. Before you got a dad joke. You can get off, but someone who said she don't like dad jokes, it took her out.
Speaker 3:I can't stand y'all like what the fuck.
Speaker 4:It took you out for somebody who said they don't like dad jokes. It took you all the way. The fuck out all the way out.
Speaker 2:I don't think I have a dad joke. I'm afraid to say one. Just go ahead and say it. I don't. I don't know a dad joke, you know, at the moment, at the moment.
Speaker 4:All right, okay, okay okay what's beethoven's?
Speaker 1:favorite, favorite weather no more, what is it? Oh wait, no, no.
Speaker 3:Favorite fruit my bad my bad whatever good like tomorrow what type of legacy would you guys like to leave for your children?
Speaker 1:legacy I just want them to be comfortable as fuck see, that's the thing I struggle with, that not like I don't want them to be too comfortable.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:I want them cool like not what they she already too comfortable.
Speaker 4:Here's my motto why can't she be?
Speaker 1:here's my motto I'ma make a bunch of money for me and you get the life insurance policy in the house like the rest of it.
Speaker 4:I'm spending that shit. I like the way Shaq put it I'm rich. Oh yeah, Little motherfucker, you ain't got shit.
Speaker 3:Well, I'm rich, you guys are all raising girls, though, and there's a lack of black girl luxury, like black girls really don't feel like they need luxury in our society. Give it all to them.
Speaker 1:Look here, look here, look here, look here, look at this as the only child.
Speaker 4:Of course she's inherited everything if we die. If I tell that little girl right now how much she will get if we die, she might kill us because she gonna be living really good now. Granted, she can't have all the money till she get like 25. Her uncle got control of her till she 25, but she gonna be pretty well. She pretty well off cause she got well off because she's getting a house, a tundra. No, she's getting that because she's spending that every month. She's getting a house. She's getting If me and my wife go at the same time. She's getting a house. She's getting four life insurance policies. She's getting two pensions and a 401k.
Speaker 3:She's going to be fine.
Speaker 1:I don't think you should say that on the. Can we edit that?
Speaker 3:out. She's going to be doing well, too well. What type of legacy would you like to leave? Because this nigga finna tell everybody what he got in the bank.
Speaker 4:No, I just told y'all it's negative. They just took the payment yesterday. It's negative, we got shit. You got to wait till my paycheck hit. Oh, I'm sorry You're going to have to wait until my wife's child support hits, because that's what she's calling it. It's not my paycheck, it's her child support. Once her child support payment hits the bank, then maybe you you know, depending on how many hours I worked last week- what type of legacy would you like to leave for?
Speaker 2:your children. I would like to eventually leave whatever success and on the life insurances and the pension. But just like, if I can make this podcast pop off that and what could come from it Just start dancing naked, we probably get some views.
Speaker 3:We believe in manifestation. Here we will not be.
Speaker 5:When do?
Speaker 3:you mean when the podcast?
Speaker 4:goes off, the children will receive a podcast. Yeah, I don't want to be in the room.
Speaker 1:That's just going to be odd, sorry, sorry, I apologize.
Speaker 2:If this nigga keep putting us on the FBI list Wait.
Speaker 1:Well.
Speaker 3:You don't want to be in the room. If he get naked, I'm not going to be here. I don't Put we talking.
Speaker 5:I didn't say shit about that Y'all did.
Speaker 1:I was gonna say To show up at somebody else's house Just Dancing in their garage naked Is a little odd.
Speaker 4:That's not what that's not. That's not. You just said to come in here and dance.
Speaker 3:I'm not even gonna drive here that day, just call me at the house.
Speaker 2:I said I said I'm gonna do it. Well see, I'm not. No, I didn't say shit about it.
Speaker 3:He did I know what's he doing.
Speaker 1:Mcfly is now on OnlyFans this feels like some Jedi shit right now.
Speaker 3:I'm not doing this anyway, legacy, we were speaking he just said he wanted to leave the podcast to his children, my apologies, residuals that he receives from that. Not if, but when. And then what about you?
Speaker 1:ah, legacy. He said he want he comfortable. Oh, ah, legacy you want these.
Speaker 3:Yeah, are you comfortable? Okay, yeah, okay, I don't want him to be like jay-z.
Speaker 1:And what's that song? Uh, seven a week ago. This is my dad we're not gonna. Okay, I don't want to be that. No, legacy, legacy, legacy.
Speaker 3:This is the last question gentlemen, if you could give a message to all the dads out there, what would it be? And I will answer this one go, you go first no, no, I would not go first get your shit off. I don't want to go first because I'm gonna talk my shit.
Speaker 4:So y'all, you, you, gentlemen, go first, my only message to the dads out there is that time spent, time spent is more, way more important than you can buy yeah, be there, try your best, like they're the, the, the, the gifts, the toys, the ipads, all that shit is going to fade away.
Speaker 3:The memories you make. That's what's going to hold them over and you're no longer here. I agree, be there.
Speaker 4:Yeah, get in Be there, be there, be there. That's it. Be there or be square Show up.
Speaker 3:And that's the perfect message Show up, do the best you can.
Speaker 4:Show up and show out. I be trying to show out. That's why I'm broke.
Speaker 3:Gotta stop trying to show out. You have a talented child. That's why you're broke.
Speaker 2:Go ahead. I'm sorry.
Speaker 5:She cut you off three times. I heard her. Yeah, she asked the question to cut me off.
Speaker 3:Because this nigga how the fuck Now hold on. Because this nigga is over here talking. I am responding, are responding to him, and then you're gonna tell me I'm cutting you off.
Speaker 2:Run it back, he's talking.
Speaker 4:I'm responding to him.
Speaker 5:Run it back.
Speaker 3:Wes, he's talking.
Speaker 5:You at least said you McFly, and then and then he's still talking. So he cut you off.
Speaker 3:You're supposed to ignore that, no they be punking me because that's his friend.
Speaker 5:This nigga cut him off. This nigga cut him off. This nigga cut him off what's your answer?
Speaker 3:everybody quiet on the set, I just fly. What's your answer?
Speaker 2:I said, be the best you for them, because if you can't be happy, you don't want them having a memory of their father being miserable. So be the best you for them, because it matters what do you?
Speaker 4:miserable because of them? What?
Speaker 3:What the?
Speaker 4:fuck, because they keep eating your snacks.
Speaker 3:I'm glad you touched on that, because that's and they keep drinking your goddamn zero sugar.
Speaker 4:We're not listening to you and you go buy something just for you and all of a sudden they love it. And you can't have shit to yourself and you walk in your house after working all day and you tired and they cut up with your pillow.
Speaker 3:Nigga, do you need to Like? Call your therapist, nigga, Immediately.
Speaker 5:Like shit. Like you got a lot to unpack today.
Speaker 4:I'm just saying what if your greatest source of happiness is also your biggest op? Sometimes she my op, but I love her. Oh my God.
Speaker 3:I have two different words for the fathers. Hey, this is.
Speaker 5:Mental Health Month. Right, it is Mental health month.
Speaker 2:Nigga see your therapist. Oh my God, you cut me off. I'm sorry. It's not nice though, is it?
Speaker 3:It's not done purposely. He said see, it's not done purposely, I'm not done till I say I'm done, it's not over till the fat lady sing. I ain't sang a goddamn tune yet nigga nigga bump you cuz I didn't say bump bump, bump nigga, whatever nigga bum on the east side. Nigga, leave me the fuck alone.
Speaker 4:I'm not dead, are you done?
Speaker 3:this has been episode 202 of the heavyweight Podcast. I guess you did. I don't got nothing else to say. I ain't asked for his shit. This has been episode 202 of the Heavyweight Podcast. Make sure you like subscribe, share all that shit, Comment, Comment, whatever. Until next time.
Speaker 4:Peace.
Speaker 3:Make sure you go, follow Des the Diva they already follow me because they know who the fuck they came to see most setting up a go find me for himself. Yeah please set this nigga up. A go find me anyways, please tell me please, we're done, all right that's a wrap, y'all.
Speaker 1:That's that's how she wrote, so make sure you click like subscribe. Tune in we on the off stream platform. So until next time we'll holla at you.
