The Heavyweight Podcast
Welcome to *The Heavyweight Podcast*, where every week, a dynamic group of four—“this lady and these three guys”—come together to discuss a wide range of topics that both warm the heart and nourish the soul. The Heavyweight Podcast brings together four unique individuals, each with their own perspective, to engage in open and honest conversations about real-life situations. Whether you're in need of a good laugh to release some tension or you're seeking real answers to life’s tough questions, tune in to *The Heavyweight Podcast*. Whatever you're looking for, you’ll find it here.
The Heavyweight Podcast
Cookie Backpack Chronicles
What does it really mean to carry life’s “heavyweight title”? On this introspective episode of The Heavyweight Podcast, we’re peeling back the layers on parenting, self-worth, body acceptance, and freedom—the real kind that comes from knowing yourself and standing in your truth.
🧒🏽 Protect vs. Prepare:
As parents, are we shielding our kids too much—or not enough? We dive into powerful moments where tough conversations had to be had, like explaining homelessness to a child or holding firm boundaries with loved ones. The consensus? Protection has its place, but preparation is the real gift.
🧠💪 Mental vs. Physical Peaks:
We each reflect on when we’ve felt our strongest—some recall physical greatness in the past, others are riding mental highs right now. Either way, we unpack what it means to embrace your body, respect your journey, and stop chasing someone else’s standard. One standout line: “I’m never going to be 120 pounds—and I don’t want to be.”
🕊️ When Have You Felt Most Free?
Freedom isn’t just about time or money—it’s about emotional clarity and energetic peace. From carefree childhood days to living in full alignment with your own values now, we explore the moments that made us feel truly unchained. “Anything that doesn’t match my energy? I’m out.”
🌟 What Makes You Special?
To close things out, we each reveal the qualities that set us apart and how we show up in the world. Whether it’s helping others feel seen, modeling love, or bringing laughter into every space—we’re here to remind you that your uniqueness has purpose.
This one’s part therapy session, part motivation, and 100% real talk. 💬
🎧 Hit play now and ask yourself:
➡️ When have you felt most free?
➡️ What’s your “peak” season?
➡️ And what makes you unforgettable?
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Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 3:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's a girl. It's not a date. It's not a date.
Speaker 4:It's still a date with you, nigga, you got a backpack. It's a date Anytime you out with somebody. This ain't the backpack.
Speaker 2:This is a backpack. This ain't the backpack. The backpack is purple. It say cookies all around it. So you see me with the purple cookies backpack. Because I'm trying to get the cookie when I got the cookies. Okay.
Speaker 3:So many questions.
Speaker 2:Hey, we on the podcast Ask what you got to ask, baby. He said ask what you got to ask. My damn back hurt.
Speaker 3:Play on cookies and cream.
Speaker 4:But who's doing the creaming Both?
Speaker 2:Both Double-sided, because you don't know what to say.
Speaker 4:Double-sided.
Speaker 2:Okay, I mean.
Speaker 4:I don't cross my legs.
Speaker 2:But you know what to say. You don't say that.
Speaker 3:Is there a snicker noodle or?
Speaker 2:Listen, it's whatever flavor she like, except for any white chocolate. I don't like that either. It's pink.
Speaker 4:I just like when you got the leg on the shoulder and you get to kiss the back of the leg. Are you in there Period you?
Speaker 2:know what I mean.
Speaker 3:I do On the period.
Speaker 2:Not on the period. No, I'm not down with that.
Speaker 3:I don't run that, I don't park red seats nigga, that's out the line, do you?
Speaker 4:You park red seats, do you Kevin?
Speaker 2:Kevin, you park red seats.
Speaker 3:Kevin said get the fuck out of here, he said nigga, just stop the episode, let's go ahead and do that.
Speaker 2:Kevin said get the fuck out of here His wife's business period. What's?
Speaker 4:that 195.
Speaker 2:195. What's up, everybody? Everybody, we're back again with another episode of the heavyweight podcast. This is episode 195 yeah, yay I'm des the diva back again with these three gentlemen and this beautiful guest host. Can everybody please um introduce yourself? Sure I'm uh aromius funk the fuck, see what I go with. Go ahead.
Speaker 4:Aromius, aromius Funk alright, I don't wanna do this with you. Is it smell or bed?
Speaker 1:no, if you will it's your boy, molito.
Speaker 3:Molito and. I'm an anti-social guy, mcfly.
Speaker 1:I like it that's cute.
Speaker 5:And then Miss Lady, miss Lady how were y'all weeks?
Speaker 1:I didn't spend too much, you know, thank god, yeah, but little did you know. But nah, it was a good week, real good week.
Speaker 2:I enjoyed it, yeah, yeah, well, cooked a little bit and you know you'll see, you'll see the content you'll see the content alright, alright, alright sound good you don't see the content, right?
Speaker 4:yeah, I feel old nigga.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean the shoe fit, that's it lace the shit up yeah, that's it why you feel old.
Speaker 4:It's my birthday. How old are you?
Speaker 1:Old enough to vote? Oh, now he doing that. Old enough to vote. Well, happy birthday, you old dirty nigga.
Speaker 2:Old ass Happy birthday.
Speaker 3:Are you a cousin of ODB?
Speaker 1:I wish Old dirty nigga.
Speaker 4:Oh shit, I'm 39.
Speaker 5:Oh, okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm still a baby on the podcast.
Speaker 4:You are the baby on the pod. This is diabolical.
Speaker 3:Are you the baby?
Speaker 2:You're the baby on the pod. It is diabolical.
Speaker 1:No, I'm talking to that nigga. She was a wizard.
Speaker 2:Y'all gonna quit hating on DaBaby cause DaBaby fine, this motherfucker okay, well, we ain't gonna comment.
Speaker 1:You got it, koopa Troopa he's probably right below you. I'm gonna go with it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he said nigga standing under the table and if he can stand up and get down to business, that's alright with me, dababy. Well, how was your week?
Speaker 3:big fly uh, last episode we talked about generational curses, right?
Speaker 2:shout out to marcus right we did shout out to marcus so our marquise depending on whatever question I'm gonna go.
Speaker 3:It was because you gotta get more variety, come on, um. So I was walking at my park because I live in the suburbs, you know, trying to break generational curses. But, um, I was walking and I saw a black couple and I know we stress breaking generational curses, but I've had this talk with them all At some point and I applaud them. That was a dope stroller. I appreciate showing that, you know, black people can have money. But at some point they took their son out of the stroller. He's maybe, he's not, I know he wasn't maybe six months old and they let him crawl on the grass. And every black bell in my mind just went what the fuck? Every I heard a black voice of women, men, and so why the fuck the kid on the grass? You know they shit on the dog, shit on the grass.
Speaker 4:Did he have a coat on the grass? You know they shit on the dog shit on the grass?
Speaker 1:that's not. Did he have a coat on?
Speaker 3:no, oh, yeah, so there's certain general additional curses that we cannot break. This is one of them because, I get that we're trying to progress, but don't let your kids crawl on the grass because I'd see the dogs, that shit there but did you say your ancestors?
Speaker 2:hell yeah our ancestors were barefoot in the bush, the baby got no coat on. No, I was referring to the baby not having no coat on.
Speaker 3:No, coat no.
Speaker 2:And an ancestor is anybody that's gone on before you. So my grandma, who was here in my 20s, who wanted a nigga to have a coat on, is technically considered an ancestor as well. So niggas need to put coats on their kids.
Speaker 3:Wakanda, forever for sure. But what I'm trying to say is we gotta break these. That one can't be broken.
Speaker 2:I agree.
Speaker 1:I agree it can.
Speaker 3:I don't. I do it all the time you let them walk in the shit grass.
Speaker 2:I did this shit, I did it.
Speaker 1:The shit grass.
Speaker 2:You know what? You clean the shit. You clean the doodle.
Speaker 1:Cut the grass With the baby. You cut the grass, you do all that With the baby. Yeah, man.
Speaker 3:That's why Not the baby? A baby.
Speaker 1:A six-month-old baby that nigga ain't coming here, okay.
Speaker 3:Okay, I guess I stand corrected, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm breaking curses. I didn't call it. I'm with nature.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I definitely put the code on the baby, for sure.
Speaker 3:Learned something new today about Kevin.
Speaker 2:That can't be that shocking. He have a very hippie-like personality, so it's not even as shocking to me that you was outside with barefoot and you let the kids go outside barefoot because you got a hippie personality like the one with nature type of yeah the earth so you get contacted, you get connected by putting them and I believe you just said earth with an f.
Speaker 2:I believe it like a motherfucker earth bitch. Okay, all right. How was your week? I'm on this earth, okay, I'm good. Earth and earth and earth and shit. Well, I'm still here. Um, probably would have had that same damn face that Gail had had.
Speaker 4:I had to go out of space, but they said Gail didn't go out of space, they was in the basement.
Speaker 2:Baby, yeah, baby, they was, they went somewhere. Baby, cause them? White women went up there they was Gail got up there and was like they said, oprah made her ass go. Oprah Punk time in the going. So, oprah, if you see this league all along, she don't want to do that. Next time you take your ass and go. But other than that I had a pretty good week let's get let's get into this. These questions were cultivated by Kevin over here. Who's Kevin?
Speaker 4:I thought that's Mr Funk.
Speaker 2:Mr Funk, when I hit the fan, harmonious don't smell like chitlin' grits of ham.
Speaker 1:Yeah, bars, did you say chitlin' grits in ham? Yeah, you don't remember that song.
Speaker 3:That sounds like a play on Dr Seuss I forgot whose song it was.
Speaker 1:Who made that song? When the funk hit the fan smell like chitlin' grits of ham.
Speaker 3:That was Steve Harvey. It was a.
Speaker 1:Steve.
Speaker 4:Harvey See.
Speaker 2:Oh, from the Steve.
Speaker 3:Harvey show Steve Harvey show yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he definitely did he had that on the roof.
Speaker 1:He showed our age.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we really did, we really did, we really did. I'm not the same age as y'all. You're the oldest. I'm not the oldest.
Speaker 3:The Steve Harvey and the high tops yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right, let's get into it. First question Are you guys turning in your kids or helping them get away? Let's see, are taking the charge for your kids or significant other, obviously if they do a crime?
Speaker 1:What do they do? That's a good question.
Speaker 2:That's a good question. That's a good question I was thinking I was.
Speaker 1:I was like like if they hit somebody and they was on a dark street like hey dad, look, I fucked up, I was like, well, no one's there, I might get them out of there. They gotta live with that. Now, if it's murder, daddy ain't taking it. I think I'll give him a head start. Though, to be honest, I think I would give him a head start Cause I think I can have him run Hell. Yeah, that's my kid.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, even if they wrong as fuck, like you wrong as fuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not. I'm not turning, nobody in.
Speaker 1:Here's a, here's a couple bucks. Well, maybe not, Because I don't know if my kid's solid like that yet.
Speaker 2:That little one is. She was dead. I got you she was the shit, the little one is.
Speaker 4:I ain't going to tell nobody, she's going to say don't worry about it, the body is gone.
Speaker 2:Paint up the mess and everything. Interesting question what would y'all do paint up the mess and everything. That's an interesting question. What would y'all do? I'm not turning nobody in.
Speaker 4:I ain't doing no time for nobody.
Speaker 2:I'm not, I'm not Drastically different.
Speaker 1:You're like I'm not turning, like I ain't going to jail.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to jail, but I'm not going to turn them in either.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to turn my like heinous, define heinous, some shit, where you're like I can't even believe my kid did that shit I don't, I can't believe it.
Speaker 4:So I'm gonna be in denial and I'll turn her ass up.
Speaker 5:Yeah, you asked the question for me. I'm in denial.
Speaker 4:You know what she said I'm my baby.
Speaker 2:Never I'm not trying like the dead on blow yeah, I'm my baby. Yeah, exactly like the dead on blow I love that movie oh my god, it's my favorite movie.
Speaker 5:Brooklyn would be on a bus to Tijuana yeah and we'd figure out communication. But I'm not turning my kid in and, just like you guys said, I'm not doing time for her.
Speaker 2:No, so I can't do time for nobody, because they got you, got to take your hair lashes and shit out yeah, I ain't gonna be big breath as bitch. Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 3:I'm not being nobody bitch, no I'm gonna be the one in there with the bitches.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna be the one in there with the bitches. I'm not gonna be nobody, that sounds stressful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, we're having bitches. Yeah, bitches, in jail go make my noodles.
Speaker 3:I'm done I say it depends on the crime. Oh me.
Speaker 4:So what's your limit?
Speaker 3:If it's some, like he pointed out, like heinous shit, where you're like it was some real foul, fucked up shit. I don't know if I could just turn a blind eye to that.
Speaker 4:But what if they were defending themselves?
Speaker 3:If they're defending themselves, then it's different. Now, if it's some shit where they literally just going on some Jeffrey Dahmer shit and you're like, what the fuck I raised that, yeah, I'm probably turning my kid in.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we gotta get this motherfucker off the streets. He might eat me next, what the fuck?
Speaker 2:You eat niggas or rape niggas. You gotta go.
Speaker 4:You gotta go. I don't believe my child is capable of that, so I'm not turning her in.
Speaker 2:No, she's not.
Speaker 3:Then all of a sudden, you're you're a twofer. Yeah, okay, you in the suitcase oh yeah, apparently they were capable right.
Speaker 2:You know, if it's something heinous like that murder.
Speaker 1:You eat niggas and you rape niggas, not all murder no murder and you eat niggas.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, and the eating it it's kind of a part. Yeah, it's the eating niggas hungry.
Speaker 1:You ain't that fucking hungry nigga, niggas eat niggas, eat crocodile every day I'm probably more mad that you didn't call me and ask for some money.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you that hungry yeah, you know um, everybody answer that yeah, cool, cool, cool. Uh, next question when and how do you balance tough love and nurturing love? I think all the love need to be nurturing.
Speaker 5:Even the tough stuff.
Speaker 2:I get what you're saying. I only agree with that because even the tough love you're nurturing.
Speaker 4:in a way, I guess I do agree with that part. How do you balance it?
Speaker 2:Circum circumstantial, I don't know I've not had that problem oh yeah, you said, you kids quiet yeah, hayden don't talk at all he speaks. He didn't say kids, he just said in general he speaks that is true I don't tell other people, kids, shit, I ain't even gonna lie to you but he didn't be.
Speaker 1:This is a relationship too.
Speaker 2:This is just in life, this is people. Oh, in relationships, how do you balance tough love oh god, in all relationships, not like, not just romantic.
Speaker 4:Oh, all of them, cause I'ma just tell you Des you fucking up.
Speaker 2:It's different. It's different In friendships. I'ma be direct like that too. I would appreciate you being direct with me as well.
Speaker 4:Okay, you fucking up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not, and in relationship I'm not. Okay, you just want to say something to me. Period. In relationships, I think it really depends on the nigga, because some of these niggas is sensitive. These niggas want to be the bad bitch nowadays and you got to be gentle with these niggas, like you be gentle with the goddamn women, because specific niggas keep this, keep that, not not not all niggas, not all niggas, and I'm not talking about hating daddy. I ain't talking about hating daddy, neither.
Speaker 4:So let me just make that clear for me, for somebody missing me and asking me if I'm talking about my damn husband.
Speaker 2:I ain't talking about that nigga, neither. But a lot of times I you encounter men that are they. They got tissue paper fucking feelings and you have to be gentle with how you say things to them. So it depends on the man.
Speaker 3:Some men I take a bit to that, because if say that motherfucker can hit his limit and he's right here, you don't want to just be like hey, nigga, toughen up and he's like he's about to jump off the fucking bridge.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, I agree. I agree, you're absolutely correct. It does depend on the circumstances. Well, I don't know, because someone's yelling how to read the room. Yeah, you guys gotta know how to read the motherfucking room yeah, situational basis.
Speaker 3:You gotta kind of be able to understand that sometimes you gotta have tough love, sometimes you have to dial it back yeah circumstantial.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it all boils down to empathy. In my opinion, yeah, empathy in my opinion. Yeah, because if you learn like we discussed that before if you learn how to connect with people on that level, then you know when to be tough.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Or when to be soft or whatever you want to call it nurturing or anything. To use the kids as an example. Like Gracelyn, she's a lot, she thinks she's tough, but she's mad sensitive, so the yelling shit actually don't work with her. You would think it does, but it don't. So it's like I try to figure out when she's doing stuff that's like boiling my blood, how to like breathe and try to approach it in different ways, because I've tried to everything yelling, fucking, here's the thumb, here's whatever and like I've learned a lot of times that using the disappointment and stuff yeah, that's big. Or uh, letting her know like I don't like how you're doing that it's like you're not listening to to me and making her understand how it makes me feel, and that seems to be more effective. Kendall's just mad easy. It's cool.
Speaker 4:So I think, like you said, circumstantial. To your point, kevin. With my daughter that works. The yelling will get her attention, but it won't move her.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:The showing her that you're disappointed. That's when she now, if she sees you're disappointed, now she's crying because you're disappointed, and now she hits you with oh my God, I'm a bad daughter, I didn't want to she hits you with all that. And the other thing that I noticed that's really impactful to her is that when I don't say nothing like there was one time she had she had did something that her mother told her not to do and I didn't say nothing. I just got up and I walked away and then when she came out the room, she noticed that I was grabbing all of her stuff out of her room and I was just removing it and she was looking at it, looking at me, like where are you taking my stuff? And I was like, when you learn how to respect your mother in my household, you can earn your stuff back. I think I left her with like two Barbies and one stuffy.
Speaker 1:You're better than me. I look at Grace and I'll say don't trip.
Speaker 4:Just walk up and start.
Speaker 3:You know.
Speaker 4:And so and I took her TV and then I remember I had toast money and I forgot what it was and they're like man, I would have just took the HDMI cord and moved the TV. I said damn, that's right.
Speaker 3:Because then she?
Speaker 4:could have saw the TV every day and know she couldn't use it. It's different once the TV's there. So the next time I did it I just took the HDMI cord. You know you'll get it back when you earn it back. Like going back to what I was saying, like last episode, like we make her earn her stuff, that approach with her it's more impactful. It is more impactful than the yelling, because when she sees that you're not emotional in the moment, she kind of she starts to regulate her emotions because now she knows that energy is not going to be matched. I'm just going to look at you and I'm not going to talk to you until you're done with just whatever you got going on.
Speaker 1:What are these boys doing? Sorry, sorry.
Speaker 2:They live in. They have a time of their life Either a ball or the worst time. All right, everybody answered that one. We good Okay.
Speaker 3:You thought about it, think about it you did, you did, you did.
Speaker 2:Is it important to protect our kids from the world or prepare them for it?
Speaker 4:Prepare.
Speaker 2:Prepare, you can't protect them Prepare.
Speaker 3:Because when you protect them and when you're no longer here, they're not able to stand on their own feet.
Speaker 4:They're expecting you to always be there to protect them, and they're going to be for you too, living in your basement right protection.
Speaker 1:Ain't that a form of preparation?
Speaker 3:in some instances, I mean, I can see protecting them as you prepare them, but I think they would have to go hand in hand.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you protect them from the bullshit, you protect them from the predators when they're young and then you kind of show them yeah the what's out there as it's happening, like so a situation, you might, a situation based, you might see something happening out there and be like see, this is what you just avoided, and kind of give them an idea like I have a question since it's have any of your guys's kids asked you about homeless people and the reason I asked that?
Speaker 5:because we're talking about protection and preparing. I know my daughter's asked me a bunch of times why is that person homeless, or you know, and that's why I'm just like have any of your kids asked about homelessness?
Speaker 5:she's curious and we just, we always just tell her that they're going through a rough time right now or they've made some bad decision, but they're trying to get back have you ever explained to your kids your kids like because I've told my daughter before if you make a lot of bad choices, there's a possibly you could end up on that side yeah, um hayden doesn't ask those questions because, as I've been in his life since he was seven and as long as he's known me, I'm very much like an advocate for the homeless community.
Speaker 2:so he know he's fed them, he's giving them shoes, clothes. He has a good understanding of that. But when I do explain to him, I do tell him that this could be a result of making bad decisions. But everybody out here isn't a result of making bad decisions, so he knows the reality of it.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, Kendall, don't ask you, it's not funny you can't say it's not funny, then laugh. She's like so what's up with these poor people? What are these people for? It's like we don't know what's going on. So we try to help people, we try to give people stuff if we can, but like she, I don't know. It's hard to explain that one because, like you said, not everybody's there from just all bad decisions, like shit happens kids often, uh, they don't like seeing poor or like animals and and, uh, distressed, yeah.
Speaker 3:So they'll ask and they'll be like, they'll try to empathize about what, what's going on and they try to comprehend and ask that why? And or mom, why? And it's just the understanding that we don't try to tell them not to to be like always have concern for your fellow person yeah it's just sometimes you, you don't know the circumstance of why they are where they are, so you try to give them a.
Speaker 3:It could be a multitude of things. They could have went, they could have been a veteran, they could have been this, but you don't know.
Speaker 1:You just try to be polite and well, if you can give, yeah, I think that kind of yeah, because when we do things like give, they notice that and like if we go to eat or something, they see a homeless person. They're like, well, are we gonna get somebody get them this? And like that's a tough one, because you're like we can't, you can't feed everybody, like you can't help everybody.
Speaker 3:I don't know I just sounds insensitive, but I do say something when I'm, when it's honest. It's honest when I was. Like you know, charity starts at home first. You can't help others if you can't yeah, if you're not on in a good space to help you know you gotta help yourself or you can help others, kind of thing. So if you're, they're like why can't we just give? Well, we don't, we still have to eat too. I understand that they're in a tough spot. What we can give, we can give.
Speaker 1:But yeah, when they have money in their piggy banks they were funny because I was was like well, daddy doesn't have it, you got it. Well, I got money in my piggy bank. I'm like shit.
Speaker 2:You do, I'll give, even if it's my last. I can't. Even if it's my last, I'll give because I have just the full faith that God will provide.
Speaker 1:It's not your last. That's why I look at it.
Speaker 2:You got to check. You gotta check if it's my last at that moment. I've been days with you know, without additional funds, because I've given my in my lap and my last. What I don't like is behavior has become so accustomed to me because I've literally taken my shoes off and giving it to somebody and just drove home barefoot. He's so used to it that now he see homeless people will be walking in the store and y'all remember he got autism, so he'll be. Why do you do that?
Speaker 3:you can't make those faces, oh shit what you did the face to her taking her shoes off my mind.
Speaker 4:I was like what's?
Speaker 1:all the slippers.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we'll know if they see a homeless person you can't do that be the baddest bitch homeless person that you'll ever see a separate. I tell you. I tell you all the time.
Speaker 4:Sometimes I don't say it, but my face says yeah, as soon as you said shoes no particular shoes.
Speaker 2:If I got on jordan's and you walking down the street and you barefoot, I'm gonna give you them jordan's off my feet what corner do you often?
Speaker 3:yeah, I'm about to just stand out there, I'll just be barefoot and letitia will vouch for that.
Speaker 2:She'll tell you because one time I was giving somebody I had some Crocs on or something. Letitia was like them is real bitch. You, finna, get this man Bitch, I'll give him my shoes, you give me them Crocs.
Speaker 3:What day did you wear the J's?
Speaker 2:Any day.
Speaker 4:I wear a bunch of Jordans you get from china I didn't, hell, no what.
Speaker 2:I got them from the malaysia, apparently. We all got them from china. According to my fucking china, according to china shit. We all got it from there. But no, I, I, I just really feel like I've been blessed. I've never been to a point where I just didn't have anything. So if I have anything, I'm gonna give it. I just gotten hayden so accustomed to it that now, when he see homeless people, he'd be like you you don't have no money, hold on my bonus.
Speaker 2:Mama got something in her purse. She going to give you something right now. And then they're just standing there looking at me and I'm like Hayden, shut up, bro. Yes, yes, is this?
Speaker 1:everyone.
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:All the homeless.
Speaker 2:Absolutely Figure out if they really doing the right thing.
Speaker 4:Write down your cross.
Speaker 1:I feel you on this. But I only ask this because when I go into work, there's this specific corner and they be rotating and there's one that I was like are you fucking serious? He was the only one didn't have a sign, didn't have nothing. He just stood there and just looked at the cars and I was like nigga, everybody else had a sign, something, you just give me one. I have a good, give me money.
Speaker 2:I have a really good discernment, that I feel like God has blessed me with a good discernment. I know who to give to. I hear God.
Speaker 1:Okay, so you have a little bit. You're used to see the I hear God, the guy from Chicago.
Speaker 3:University that had to sign and says I'm not gonna like need need money for drinks or whatever, for drinks or whatever. You don't remember that guy. They used to be out there on your worst in.
Speaker 2:Chicago.
Speaker 3:I want to say that I'm giving him money because, I'm honest, the honest dude makes me give it to you. Yeah, like he's honest. I'm just trying to get drunk.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm just trying to like in the sign. I'm just honest, you're like I fuck with it. It's a lady in, say, wheels for money. I said I'm getting some money just cut. What's one of that? It's literally when you get off the freeway to go to Target. Alabama, yeah, alabama. And she's right there. She got a sign, I got to go over there for work.
Speaker 3:You remember the one a couple of years ago, a couple of years ago the lady that was homeless in California, but you could tell she was very privileged. She had like her nails were done. Oh wow, she had like implants, so she wasn't homeless for long, like it was one of the things where I don't know if she just fell on hard time, yeah, but I was like somebody they're going to. She was only there for like a day or so.
Speaker 2:They got her right. Did she have teeth? Damn, did she have teeth, damn.
Speaker 3:yeah, she was young and she like it was weird. So when everyone looked at her I was like she's like the prettiest homeless person I've ever seen and she looked like her nails were done everything and I was like I don't think she's gonna be out here for long.
Speaker 1:Yeah by the end of the night she's a better life girl yeah, I definitely.
Speaker 2:Um, I yeah, I definitely help everybody, even if you're pretty and you look like you've just been there for a day or so.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:All right For sure I'm going to just go out there with just this nice suit and be like, hey, today was the day.
Speaker 2:And if you're barefoot, I'm going to give you my shoes I'll leave them in the car.
Speaker 3:I'm going to be out there when I need some more J's Maybe not these particular shoes I got on today, but I would definitely use. I don't want no patrick that man, he's a nick, I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't mess with the next oh my god, his shoes are mom, though they're so comfortable, much more comfortable than my jordans, even though I have quite a few patrick ewan boy I don't know, what team he played, for what he looked. I don't even know what the man looked like he has really big nostrils like a monkey big damn, is he black up.
Speaker 3:Is he black?
Speaker 2:Yes, we are not going to say no, black people, look like no fucking monkey. We're not going to say no, black people, look like no monkeys. We are not going to say what we ain't going to do is say the black people look like monkeys.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was going to say what happened when they?
Speaker 5:when a nigga looked like a monkey, he looks like an aerobatic.
Speaker 1:When a nigga looks like a monkey, you go. He looks like an aerobatic.
Speaker 3:He calls Spade a Spade. That's fine.
Speaker 5:Let's move on, because he looks like the big gorilla in Planet of the Apes.
Speaker 3:He calls Spade a Spade. That's him she added it.
Speaker 5:She added it. That's Patrick Ewing.
Speaker 1:He needs a horse now.
Speaker 2:Patrick, I'm sorry, baby, your shoes is nice.
Speaker 4:I think I'm Michael Clarke.
Speaker 5:Let me see, look at when he played for the Nets, oh my.
Speaker 3:God.
Speaker 2:Well, I'll say this, sir, you looked better in your younger years. It's the recent pictures that are killing me softly.
Speaker 4:Is he still with us?
Speaker 1:Yes, why is, he Is he still with
Speaker 3:us.
Speaker 5:Is he dead.
Speaker 3:He's alive, he's very much alive.
Speaker 5:He's 62.
Speaker 1:Oh. What's the next question man.
Speaker 2:Mr Ewing, I like your shoes and that's about it. Did I already ask about the Shit?
Speaker 1:Patrick spun her up.
Speaker 5:Yeah, Because as soon as she saw it, she was like I saw everything you said.
Speaker 2:I wasn't supposed to suspect that.
Speaker 3:He has bowling ball holes for nose.
Speaker 4:Oh God, he does Like the big, the large.
Speaker 2:You can shoot a cannon out that thing, boy. That thing is, that thing is dang it, boy, that's. Oh shit, he smells the sun come up, it's okay, smell the sun, come up as well.
Speaker 4:That shit is diabolical.
Speaker 5:I'm going to use that shit yeah he's like the sun's up yeah. Oh shit, you can probably hear the sun come up too, with his big-ass ears.
Speaker 4:I ain't never seen a nigga rooster.
Speaker 1:Nigga rooster.
Speaker 2:Fuck.
Speaker 5:You can't get past the picture.
Speaker 2:No, because that's an ugly nigga. That nigga's so ugly. I'm going to show you what he looks like.
Speaker 5:He looks like that big gorilla from Planet of the Apes. Next question, though.
Speaker 2:What era would you consider yourself at your peak, mentally or physically, and do you feel like you're still ascending or are you descending?
Speaker 3:Can we ask Patrick that?
Speaker 2:That nigga hit that shit. 82 was his peak. He done, hit that peak and that shit is good. I was at 88.
Speaker 5:I don't think I hit my peak yet that's my answer you ain't.
Speaker 2:What about you?
Speaker 1:what about a peak that you've reached so far?
Speaker 4:I'm not gonna let nobody who murdered Muppets in her spare time talk shit about me.
Speaker 2:I murdered Muppets, I murdered Coochie, I murdered lots of things in my spare time.
Speaker 3:Now what With the Care Bears?
Speaker 2:there.
Speaker 1:Period Talking about just now? Yeah, she was, I missed it. Yeah, oh man.
Speaker 2:I missed it. Keep up, keep up. I'm going to start looking right over her head, she's only five foot two, my nigga like me short and what's so cold is the. Yeah, I was.
Speaker 3:That's a short nigga. That's a good one.
Speaker 5:I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I'm Physically, I don't know I got I think it was Navy when I was in the Navy, I mean you had used up the just at the lodge, you had your shirt off.
Speaker 4:You look comfortable.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I'm comfortable, like mentally, I'll put titties out. I don't give a fuck. Fuck it Whatever. I'm not in the pool with a t-shirt on. I chose to come here. So mentally I feel like I'm yeah, fuck, yeah, this might be my peak.
Speaker 2:You see it right here. Yeah, like I don't. She said mentally yeah, fuck it.
Speaker 1:And physically. Physically I'm not.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I'm hell. No, look at me. But it's cool. I don't know what that looks like yet. If I work out, if I'm'm gonna go back to, I don't think I'm gonna hit those weights and those uh you got that benchmarks.
Speaker 4:That was that comfortable.
Speaker 1:Love weight on you yeah, yeah, but some of it has to shred, so I'm I'm gonna try to put my uniform back on and see if I can don't hurt your feelings.
Speaker 2:Damn no I can't right now.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's my goal is to lose the weight to get to that no, my feelings won't be hurt, trust me there's a video from like three years ago me, so it's worse. It's worse.
Speaker 4:I tried to put it on I mean I wasn't trying, I wasn't. When I said that, I said I wouldn't be me. I'm just saying I've done that like I'm gonna let me try this on and I'm like that bullshit button no, I wasn't trying to be mean because I've done it. I'm saying I've done it before. I was like let me try this shirt on and I'm like, yeah, fuck this.
Speaker 1:I thought I had progress but I ain't where I thought it was. Yeah, so I think I'm not. I think I'm there now, but I don't know about physically. I want to see what that looks like with more weight. That wasn't as big, if that makes sense. Are you trying to get yoked a little bit, not like like devo in shape toned? Okay, are you trying to look?
Speaker 4:like devo no tone. No, I'm trying to look like swole like who oh, you're trying to look like swole swole. Is that a person?
Speaker 3:what was it? What do you have a picture of them? They don't like Patrick Ewing, do they?
Speaker 2:No, he does not. Patrick Ewing baby.
Speaker 3:As long as you compare to him, anybody at any time, at any shape isn't a better spot than Patrick Ewing.
Speaker 4:No, not Sam Cassell.
Speaker 1:Sam Cassell. That's a rough nigga, that's alien.
Speaker 4:I said if Sam can get married to Hat Kids, it's somebody for him.
Speaker 3:I'm sorry, sam, you're probably like our number one fan and shit, and we were like they got me again. This is the second time.
Speaker 1:If he's whole mentally he'll be okay.
Speaker 3:Fucking spaceship prologue.
Speaker 5:Oh my god, but he was a good basketball player.
Speaker 2:Let me see him.
Speaker 1:She's fine.
Speaker 3:What do you need? Debatable. Let me see I wasn't a fan of some.
Speaker 4:What's your answer? He got Benjamin so far, once I get my diet right. What's your answer, McFarland?
Speaker 3:you with your peak. He like he got Benjamin. Look at his teeth, my uh so far. Once I get my diet right, so far my peak was high school senior year, really as in both like health mental or physically.
Speaker 1:Mentally or physically.
Speaker 3:physically because in I remember that was a time where people treated me completely different was my senior year, because I I played basketball for like a year and a half straight. I was in the best physical shape I was in and I came back to North and it was a different time.
Speaker 2:I got groped by a lot of women. Is your goal to get groped again Against?
Speaker 3:your will Against my will, yeah, did you press charges. No, I didn't.
Speaker 4:Equality they want equality.
Speaker 3:Press charges you trying to get back to the groping stage. The groping stage, but with my consent, goddammit like.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but if they don't, we're going to get lawyers, we're going to fund this, you want to get bigger McFly.
Speaker 2:Because to be fair like.
Speaker 3:I just want to get lean, so at some point I'm shredding or cutting.
Speaker 2:This part of you right here.
Speaker 3:You snapped it thank you, that was the perfect time she's sweating no, I don't.
Speaker 2:I compliment him all the time and I don't mean no harm, no disrespect. I have much respect for your girl.
Speaker 4:I have much respect for John well don't say John, and then say, well, I just this nigga, this nigga, well, I got much respect for your any any.
Speaker 3:Mentally I'll say it depends on the cause. I can say I'm at my strongest mentally, but it's like it's a lot now to bear the responsibility of everything else. So right now I'm at my strongest mentally, but it's just a lot to take on at once. So pause, um, I can be funny, uh, but yeah, physically I'm not. I'm sure I'm gonna get there. But um, yeah, high school was that. Senior year was a trip like fucking crazy how people differently treat you how lean we talking?
Speaker 4:for me then, or now, how lean are you trying to get now?
Speaker 2:I don't think you're big when we say lean, what do we mean? Because you cause.
Speaker 4:You're very like.
Speaker 2:He wants to like come down, shrink her down cause you very like you, manly, talk your shit Des like I don't. And I don't mean I swear to god I'm not hitting on you or no weirdo shit like that. And when I said not John, I mean I do respect who I fuck up, let's.
Speaker 1:She is like she got a ticket.
Speaker 2:You manly, you got like a. It's nice.
Speaker 3:I appreciate that. I will say I was going to wait. I curved by another gay man this week.
Speaker 2:Oh shit, look, here Is your gay nigga, still at your gym.
Speaker 4:He there and when I saw that $10,000 I said you know what I might have to make a business decision?
Speaker 3:It was awkward but it was. I tried to be as polite as I possibly could be, so it gave me confidence because it was like damn.
Speaker 4:I didn't tell you the worst part. There's another gay man now. It's Tua.
Speaker 2:I didn't tell you the worst part there's another gay man.
Speaker 1:Now it's Tua At your gym, yeah.
Speaker 3:He called him. Does he switch just his heart? He called him he works.
Speaker 1:We got one, he switch in the women TikTok shorts. I'm like nigga, why are you in here? That's funny.
Speaker 4:And he makes icons. You know what he doing?
Speaker 3:He trying to he fishing, he trying to get you. I mean it's because there's so many men, it's just it's so interesting because it does give you a perspective of what women go through. Yeah, nah, unhanding you to that degree, because unhanding me, he then I was saying because, like, I try to be as polite as possible, but it's still one of the things where you're like, dude, I'm trying to be polite and you're still not getting that.
Speaker 4:Well, wait see, I learned, just don't communicate don't give them your number. Avoid what.
Speaker 1:Don't ever give them your number.
Speaker 5:I'm not giving them? Why the fuck would you hand out the number? Did you give out your number?
Speaker 1:Nah, he just said like well, women, that's going to be unsolicited dick pics.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, it is.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, where you're like you're trying to be polite and then you're like dude, he's really. I said this is what women go through. Yes.
Speaker 5:Except for when we say no. Then we get to be all type of bitches fat ass bitch you fucking bitch.
Speaker 2:You stupid hoe. What do you mean? Fat ass bitch. You wanted fat mom a minute ago and now, all of a sudden, I'm a fat ass bitch.
Speaker 4:He might like oh, I love it, that's what women go through.
Speaker 1:Oh, word, you flip it to green and, however, got some meat.
Speaker 2:Here's some meat. I'm done. That's a skin. Turn it to red. They still there. You can't, oh my gosh you gonna answer the question y'all, y'all got I did oh, I didn't answer yeah, um, mentally I'm probably at my peak now.
Speaker 5:I feel like I love myself. I am involved with somebody who reciprocates and has honestly put me in a better situation where I understand myself and god more not that I didn't have to like work on myself, but a good person that will match things and sew into you like you sew into them.
Speaker 5:It changes your perspective on a lot. Physically, I think me I can't speak for because I'm not a man but I want to tone and maybe lose a little bit. But honestly, I've come to the realization I'm never going to be 120 pounds and I don't want to be 120 pounds, I think. As long as you know, I am happy with how clothes look on me and, yeah, because the wild thing is, I probably get more attention now than I did when I was younger.
Speaker 4:Because I would say 120 sounds small.
Speaker 1:Look here, you got to be too something to do something. She said 120. I was. 120 sounds small. You got to be too something to do something. She said 120.
Speaker 4:Is that the benchmark. You're like God damn, yes, okay, I don't want nobody when they paying size in single digits. You're it.
Speaker 2:He said what you lack in the bag, you better pack in the cat.
Speaker 1:I heard that I'm glad to be out the game, but the camaraderie.
Speaker 5:to hear that in here is what keeps a person going. I had to come to the realization because that's it. But I honestly, as long as I tone a little bit, I want to get, because I got tree stumps for legs because I'm short. Well, you got to, I'm not hitting on you.
Speaker 4:Hold on.
Speaker 2:Hold on. Have you seen my wife's legs Shit Also very curvy and thick. Have you seen my wife's legs Shit Also very?
Speaker 4:curvy and thick, and when she put them around my neck.
Speaker 2:She's beautiful.
Speaker 4:You always go to the point.
Speaker 3:It gets uncomfortable.
Speaker 2:But her shape.
Speaker 3:It gets uncomfortable.
Speaker 5:Maybe, she's snappy? No, I've seen her.
Speaker 2:It was hard for me to not unsee her because of the balcony stuff. He told me it's hard because all you see, is her.
Speaker 5:All you think about is her being over the damn balcony.
Speaker 2:Let me tell you something.
Speaker 4:My wife really been snapping on these bitches because in all them pictures y'all see she ain't got no shape or all.
Speaker 2:No, that's her. I've seen her in person. She did the work. That's her.
Speaker 4:She holding her and I'll be like let's sit her right here, baby.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've seen her in person. But, the thing about it is yes, she is doing an amazing job at the gym and she's slimming down, but she's always been that girl.
Speaker 1:She always had that shape.
Speaker 2:You lay over there.
Speaker 5:Listen, keep popping her up, because that's what you're supposed to do as her husband?
Speaker 4:She's always been that girl. Hold on, nigga.
Speaker 1:She be. She's always been here, girl. Hold on nigga, and you know she be getting back. She be getting back in her gymnastics bag.
Speaker 4:I don't want this nigga moaning sitting next to me she getting back in her gymnastics bag, cause she didn't came down, so now she got her hand she got her hand standing down and she doing the splits C A. I love that life is great for me, I love that for you, but but I don't want to know. Yeah you feel me, life is great for me.
Speaker 2:I like to hear you talk about your wife. We can live without the balcony scenes but when you?
Speaker 3:really be like put her doing that thing and speaking on your wife.
Speaker 2:I love to hear it, because one you ain't lying. She's true, that lady is snappy, she look good, she always been that girl.
Speaker 3:You don't want a mental image of your friends.
Speaker 1:We ain't talking about that stuff. We talking about when you get to the line and then you're like hey, guess what, you know what we? Was doing about three hours ago.
Speaker 2:Like nigga, I don't want to know. Wipe your drool and keep talking about your wife. It don't matter.
Speaker 5:But yes, I'm right there. That's physically like, and you as you get older you. You either accept it or you don't, and I think the thing for me, no matter if I was involved with a healthy person or not. I'm happy being the weight that I'm at. I just want to tone it up.
Speaker 4:I ain't never miss getting on stomach.
Speaker 5:Well, I think for the first time I experienced what you were talking about which I respect about your marriage is because you know women, when we get our food balls, we like shit, but there's a bring that shit here type shit, shit, don't bother me at all, no. But again I feel like it takes a real man to be like come here, bitch girl.
Speaker 2:I'm simultaneously here more cooking for the bushes and pick that thing up and get to work at the same damn time. No, yeah, no, I definitely agree with you, though it's not men, but I'm gonna tell you this men like big bitches.
Speaker 3:No man's trying to get cut either.
Speaker 2:I've not ever had no man tell me, I don't need your sharp-ass tailbone cutting my't need your sharp ass tailbone what the fuck. No skinny slander, skinny women matter.
Speaker 3:I'm not shaming skinny people.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying I'm not trying to get cut. I hear you, I hear you.
Speaker 5:Is that your?
Speaker 2:pelvis Mentally. I think I'm getting, I think I'm getting there. I think I'm getting there. I'm in a lot better space today.
Speaker 4:You're doing better. I am proud of you, I swear to. God, I appreciate that I'll be trying to help you, but you don't listen to me yeah, not listening to you.
Speaker 2:I actually think you give some of the most solid advice. I'm not even going to lie to you Now. You be throwing advice at me sometime when I don't be fucking expecting it. So I'll be having to prepare when I see your name pop up, that you done said something. But it is solid advice and I can really genuinely tell that it comes from a really good place. So I do appreciate it and respect it. But yeah, I definitely in a lot better place today than I was this time last year, mentally, physically. Listen here Okay, you, okay. I'm just a thick mix baby. I don't know what to tell nobody. I don't know what to tell nobody I don't have diabetes no more so I think I will be.
Speaker 2:I'm not gay, no more your bitch has been delivered okay. I don't like men. Okay, oh shit.
Speaker 4:What's the chick? I ain't had no sex.
Speaker 2:Period. Okay, and had it. So there's that. What was the other one? Mentally and physically, and physically, honestly, I feel like I'll be at my pinnacle of of, um, health when I'm able to have a child period. That's the only thing that I have an actual issue with. Other than that, I am like living proof that big people can be healthy, because for the most part, I eat pretty well. Um, I exercise. When I now listen, I could be better at the damn gym. I'm still trying to figure out how to lift the damn weights and I die.
Speaker 3:I can recommend someone to help you with that. Yeah, his name is Body's Body Patino, body Patino.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, slimy is info, Because definitely I'm intimidated by the weights but, I, want to be able to lift weights, but I want to be able to do, to lift weights but I'm intimidated by it. But other than that, once I'm able to have a child healthy and I'm healthy and the baby's healthy, that's when I know I hit my pinnacle of physical health, mental health. I think that's a forever journey. I've said that on here before, but I'm a lot better. I'm very proud of my progress.
Speaker 3:Joseph, because I gave you that name. I want my percentage yeah, go ahead, joseph.
Speaker 2:I told I was, I was telling my wife.
Speaker 4:I said we need to just start making shirts and just put it there.
Speaker 3:Yeah, just because he's not gonna live that one down.
Speaker 2:That body by Tina, that's, that's in there that's golden, that's in there well, give me his information, somebody, alrighty. And then the next question is what time of life would you consider you were the most free, and what, after, attribute to losing those freedoms, and how can you um retain them?
Speaker 4:I was the most free of seven years old.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was gonna say oh like I'm like before fucking, I had to pay bills when I was seven before are we talking about like feeling free or like yeah, I'll go with me.
Speaker 1:For me, I feel like the most free I was probably was when I lived in washington and the way I was, uh, in exploring a lot about who I was, what made me take uh more into my emotions and things of that nature. So I was free to be able to get to know me and explore a little bit more of like earth if you will okay so freedom in that nature not freedom is like I can get up and go to whatever, like, even though that's part of it, but yeah the shit changes once you you know have kids or even a relationship, because you can't my wife.
Speaker 1:I'm not doing like a lot of that shit. I was doing where I'm like I'm gonna be respectful, call, do things like that and, like you know, just not move like a fucking piece of shit and my answer would be from 6 to 18 take that bet 20 and my answer would be from 6 to 18.
Speaker 4:Yeah, Hell yeah, take that bet 20. 6 to 20. What happened in 20 to change?
Speaker 3:I got a girlfriend. Oh I never had a girlfriend before that. Are you just fucking around, anyway, anyway, hey, how you doing.
Speaker 4:I would say in the context.
Speaker 4:Kevin, the context, kevin, I would say I'd probably say for me now. Yeah, now that I've done the work to understand myself and done my person well, my started my healing process and I can see myself better and I'm being transparent with myself and with those uh near and dear to me the few that that are I feel like I am the best version of myself and I'm the freest now because I operate in a space of what I like to do at all times and anything that I'm not, anything that doesn't match my energy or doesn't align with my soul like if I get any type of negative answers, I'm out Like I just don't deal with it.
Speaker 3:Let me go back to reiterate the reason. Six to 20 was my well before being an adult. My dad literally gave me complete freedom as far as going out. So it wasn't like this you have this curfew or time. So he he trusted me enough to make the right decision, so I had complete freedom. Anyway.
Speaker 2:I didn't bring no kids back, so you were just good at it.
Speaker 3:You were safely fucking around yeah, I was a safe kid, like he knew he could trust me. So it was one of the things where I had that complete freedom and I didn't have for until becoming an adult responsibility of bill, so I could go hang out, university, village etc and not have to think about the consequences.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I can see that because I had something similar, like as soon as I started I didn't have to be home as long as I let them know what I was doing, like they didn't really care because I was, I wasn't getting in trouble.
Speaker 5:So yeah, I just say add to what you were saying. I think right now, probably in the last eight months, I probably feel the most free like I think we because we had that serious conversation months ago about death and accepting our parents not being here. I think this is probably one of the first years where knowing wrong, like I miss my mom, but I'm more accepting of her not being here and just making her proud and that's kind of resonating more with me. But I'm also in a good space as a parent. I'm also in a good space in a healthy relationship. I'm also in a good space in a healthy relationship.
Speaker 5:I'm also in a good space with my job, and not that I haven't always been in a good space with my job, but kind of what like Kevin was saying too, is I don't take nobody's bullshit and I will not settle for less and I will tell the person very quickly like if this is what we're doing, then just stay the fuck away from me. I'll be cordial, but just stay away Like I don't want anybody to dim my light. I don't want anybody to bring their bullshit into my bullshit. If I feel like that's going to happen, I'll cut a person off real quick because I've had to learn. I'd rather have five solid people that I know will defend me in a room than have 20,000 people that will talk shit about me in a room. Friendships are super, super important, but loyalty is too.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Did you answer this? I didn't.
Speaker 1:Damn.
Speaker 2:I was so going to go to that next question. I think I felt the freeze when I lived in Virginia.
Speaker 3:What happened? She had a McFly moment. Yeah, she tried, she tried, she tried.
Speaker 2:She tried. I think, yeah, when I lived in Virginia, because prior to living in Virginia I was very people-pleasing, but to my family, and I think when I lived in Virginia it was nobody there for me to rely on but me. So I was able to really get acclimated with myself. I learned the things that I liked. I learned um what I didn't like and what meant something to me. I was able to set my own tone and values. So I feel like when I lived in virginia for those three years I was my freeze okay, that's good okay, everybody answered okay, let's get like one or two more.
Speaker 2:I think we only have two more. Um, what role do you think you play in healing the worlds around you? And then this is a two-part question. And then what? Um, what are you doing to achieve that, that, uh, that role?
Speaker 4:I think the role I I play is to show up as the best, the best version of myself and to let my light shine on those who it's supposed to be for.
Speaker 2:I think I'm still creating the world around me, especially given this, this new chapter of life. I was in one situation and now I'm breaking. I don't want to say breaking free, because this is not a bad thing. I'm just moving to another chapter so are you creating the world?
Speaker 4:are you allowing the universe to align that, what should be aligned with you?
Speaker 5:oh, we oh, that's a good question that's a good question.
Speaker 2:And this why me and him begin alone? Lady? I like, yeah, I definitely I, you're right. You're right, I am allowing it to align because before I was a fighting, I was fighting the alignment like tooth and nail. I didn't want no parts of the change or anything. But now, yes, I do believe I am aligning with the things that that are supposed to be here for me. So it's still unfolding as before my eyes and I'm. I think the role that I play in this moment is allowing it to happen and just feeling secure that God got me and whatever this looks like in the end, this is what it is.
Speaker 5:I think projection is very important too. You project the energy around you and with the energy that you bring, and even if there's five negative people, you can still have something positive come out of it, depending on how you project. And so I think that how you allow people to affect you is very, very important to how you handle your own self. That's part of what I personally think, because every day there's going to be somebody that could piss you off, hurt your feelings or whatever, but how you handle it and how you deal with it is going to be the biggest part about it. We all know who we are individually. We know our strengths, we know our weaknesses, and I think when you have those strengths, you just have to kind of utilize them to kind of beat down your weaknesses so that your weaknesses become strengths.
Speaker 2:Okay, friend, me fly.
Speaker 3:Um, I normally try to treat people how I would like to be treated, but I usually go into it giving people respect until they lose it. So my energy usually is even like saying, like with the situation with curve and a gay guy, like I try not to be that way. Like if someone approaches me, I'm I'm always going to give them respect first. I'm not going to treat it like, oh how dare you. It's always in a respect thing and I feel like the world lacks that in a lot of senses sideways, because you got enough people doing it anyway. Is is my way of giving back. Like, if you're ever around me, I'm never going to look at you a certain way for being who you are. You are you are and I'm never going to judge you for that. So that's my way of getting back okay, this side of the table, yeah I feel like that's kind of the same approach.
Speaker 1:I think like my role is to uh kind of show what, um, what it looks like to lead with love. Like try not to be judgmental on people. Take people as they are and, um, don't be like, when you think about, like, why people do things, you try it's like empathy, like you try to think of, like, even if it's sliding you or something, I try to think about, well, what made them do that? Like, why did they do that? Why is this this way? And I try not to react in a way that brings more hate or anger to the situation. I try to come at a spot from love, uh, as you were saying, like, be cordial with people and, yeah, just try to make it easy in life because this shit's hard enough.
Speaker 5:So, exactly, well, we don't know what people are going through and that's the unfortunate part, cause I always think every day when I wake up and I pray to God and say thank you for a new day, like somebody's life ended yesterday. Somebody's always going to be more fortunate than I am, but there's also going to be people less fortunate than me.
Speaker 4:I just always say it helped me to react better to my triggers. Yeah, period Fram you snapping, because I can't control people triggering me, but I can control how I react to it.
Speaker 1:For sure, for sure.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's the thing.
Speaker 4:It's not anybody else's responsibility Can we say shout out to Miss Tammy for that pound cake, lord Okay.
Speaker 2:Who's Miss Tammy?
Speaker 5:His mama, oh, okay. Baby, that cake was cakey so when he was eating it earlier, I was like it looks so good.
Speaker 2:It was good. I ain't gonna lie. That cake was cakey, it was perfect.
Speaker 1:I'm thinking about taking the rest of that shit home.
Speaker 2:I was gonna say take some home, it was moist, it was very very good. This is the last question. Guys, Y'all ready? I can't partake you can't eat no cake I ain't supposed to be eating it, I'm not. Are you trying to get buff?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I just like I said, that's one of the things. It's a bad road to go down.
Speaker 1:Do you know you're a?
Speaker 2:big nigga. You know you're a big nigga. Right, You're like a big nigga.
Speaker 3:I don't think I'm tiny, you're a nigga. You know that. What are you or I? I'm called a nigga, you is.
Speaker 2:That's how I describe you. I'd be like I don't know if y'all can tell from the podcast, but that nigga big.
Speaker 4:That nigga strong as shit yeah you a strong ass, nigga.
Speaker 2:Even when you hug me, you're like come here, bitch.
Speaker 4:You ever catch McFly in the bear in the woods. Pray for the bear.
Speaker 2:Please pray for the bear, because I'm going to pick McFly.
Speaker 3:Well, first of all, if I would never be in the woods, and the guy ain't even going in there. I just keep with the buck. I don't explore, not in the woods.
Speaker 2:I don't blame you 't nobody going to the West.
Speaker 3:that's not true we know you're going to be. I was about to say you can ask Kevin, because I'm not we know you're going to the West.
Speaker 2:Last question y'all what do you find special about yourself and what are you doing to showcase that part of yourself to the world? I'm going to last why? Because you don't think about it no, because I got a long ass answer. Go ahead, I like it.
Speaker 1:I like it. Go ahead, kevin, nah you.
Speaker 3:Oh, why you want me to go.
Speaker 5:Go, I'll go. Thank you, I'll make my reader's digest quick. One of the things that I feel like I bring to the world is giving people a definition that, no matter your circumstances, no matter your background, that everybody deserves to be loved, appreciated and respected. Because I feel like so many people think that when a person fucks up, no matter what part of life, whether you've done this or you've done that, everybody deserves to have somebody care about them. And I don't feel like our past should define our present, because if we're going to live in our past, then our present is not going to turn into anything. So I think that's one of the biggest things. And you know, love who you love, love them intently and love without boundaries when you know you can, but still keep your guard up to protect yourself.
Speaker 2:So your favorite thing about you is your ability to give love freely, without unapologetically, without judgment yeah, and tell a motherfucking suck a dick, oh my goodness, you know what, though you be talking shit, but you're the most gentle, sweet, kind, loving person, like just but I know this because we have private conversations. But you you be you be talking shit, oh no, but she's so loving, like it'd be cracking me the fuck up because I'm like this girl's so damn sweet, but she, she's still gonna hit you with her car, but she's sweet I'll run your pinky toe over.
Speaker 5:Okay, who's next? What about you, oh?
Speaker 3:yeah, um, what I learned because I've I I don't know if you guys know this I was on hiatus for a couple of weeks, but perspective is a motherfucker, because what I realize even now, because, like when you look at how this podcast is presented now, what we realize when you're not Necessarily inside of it and you're outside of it and you look inside, you see inside of it and you're outside of it and you look inside, you see my dope personality for me is that I am quirky and awkward, weird, but it's funny, but that's how I've been my entire life.
Speaker 3:So, like now, when I am able to present that and I feel like the podcast is like a little window into seeing that I can be awkwardly fucking funny and awkwardly myself and I'm comfortable with that, but like to be able to format it for the world to see in. Like high quality is the is the hardest part in the transition of it, but that's me Like this is who I am, I'm. I feel like I'm super dope at that and that's what I think I've been trying to define and figure out for fucking 39 years and like it's dope, going towards 40, that I get to see that and try to present that to the world in a dope way.
Speaker 5:I love that.
Speaker 2:I love that. I see that in you, too. That's dope shut your ass up. I love that. Awesome, I like that. I love that. I see that in you, too. That's dope Shut your ass up, you shut your ass up. I can't wait till you say what you got to say about you, because I probably ain't seen none of it.
Speaker 3:None of it.
Speaker 1:I feel like I have this pretty good ability to make any situation feel okay, any situation feel okay, like any anybody. I come across like I don't feel like I have too many issues of having like a situation feel uncomfortable, like even in a bad situation. It's like I have a pretty good knack at just relating to people, I guess, if that makes sense. So it's like I had a friend and I was like damn, it's fucked up. But I know what she meant and she was like whenever I see kevin smiling, I know everything's okay because it's fucking real. Like I'm not smiling just to smile. It's like, oh, he's comfortable if he's cool. Cool. It's like it is what it is. It's like you see me tripping. It's like oh nah, some real shit's going on. We gotta go.
Speaker 1:But I just try to come at every situation the same now, like every person individually. Like I just try to come at them as they are and not as the situation is, if that makes any sense. So I try to just make people feel like people. That's what I do. That's how I give it to the world. The questions will make you feel special, right?
Speaker 4:yes, you want me to read. Question is what makes you feel special, right?
Speaker 2:Yes, you want me to read to you again what makes you special. You ain't got to read it again, and how do you give it to the world.
Speaker 4:My answer is not particularly for the world, but what I can say is what makes me special is what I'm starting to see through my own eyes is the way that I interact and love my wife, how it's affecting my daughter and her expectations of life, and how she views relationship and marriage.
Speaker 4:Now, at her young age, as innocent as she is, ideals that she's creating in her mind of what she perceives to be normal is probably what makes me feel the most special, like the roles that she will like, look for in in a partner, her expectations in life.
Speaker 4:Like that makes me feel special, because my daughter has a mindset of like this girl wants to be married, she wants to have a big, she wants to have a big, he wants to have a big family. But the roles and the type of type of relationship she wants to be in is directly modeled from what she's seeing and I know that that's a healthy place and that's what makes me feel better, because I feel like I've done the work so that I'm secure that when she chooses someone she's choosing someone with the right intentions and also we're preparing her to know how to choose, because she has an idea of what she wants her life to look like even now, at seven years old. So I think I'm doing my part. Going back to the other question, I'm doing my part to break the generational curse, because now she's looking intently at seven. She's already looking forward intently. She's not just going out off of what she feels, because this is, these are things that she's been saying for years. So I think that's what's been special about my life.
Speaker 2:I love that answer. That's a dope answer. I think what makes me special is I utilize a lot of what has gone wrong to help others, like I'm able to turn my pain into like passion, or my pain into something that's going to be useful for someone else. So I think that's a big, huge part of what makes me unique. I'm very empathetic towards people in their situations. I'm very empathetic towards people and their situations, and I think that also makes me unique. I'm undeniably stylish. Okay.
Speaker 5:Un-de-fucking-niably I agree.
Speaker 2:A stylish ass bitch. I agree, thank you. And the Muppets hate that about you Hate to see a bitch coming. Do you hear me? Let me let you know right now it's Piggy running from me. Hate to see a bitch coming.
Speaker 3:Do you hear me?
Speaker 2:let me let you know, right now it's piggy running from me. Hate to see it, won't return.
Speaker 4:Mom won't return, don't even want to sit up here with us. Is it the coked out ammo?
Speaker 2:hate to see a bitch coming. But, um, yeah, I, I I legitimately feel like I got a bunch of unique qualities like for real, for like I'm super loving, super kind, sweet. I am a tough girl and I I can handle a lot but I won't take a lot. But honestly I think that's pause.
Speaker 4:I heard I heard it too that toughness is a facade. We'll talk about that later no, I'm a tough girl we'll talk about it later.
Speaker 2:We we can. We can talk about it later, but I am, I'm a charger, though that's cool. Keep on sending them apple pay things. I keep on ignoring him. I'm a pretty tough girl. You don't think I'm a tough girl?
Speaker 3:The day someone accepts it, huh.
Speaker 5:I think it goes back to your toughness being circumstantial just like mine does yeah you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:You know me on a different level than he did. I mean, I think he has a very good idea. I good idea. I'm not even going to lie to you. Sometimes he'll say shit and I'll say no on the podcast, but in the back of my mind I'll be like this nigga going to hit me with some real shit later, because he does pay, he's observant and he does have a good understanding of me.
Speaker 3:I will not take that from him.
Speaker 2:But you know where that toughness comes in because we have had those interpersonal conversations. So you definitely kind of know me on a different level. Y'all just know me on two different levels. But he does pay good attention and has a good, so I don't deny that he probably I know black women.
Speaker 5:I don't think it's just black women.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's just black women either, but honestly, Especially the ones in the sundress and the fro. Here we go. All right, y'all, this has been another episode of the Heavy. We thank y'all for listening. Make sure that you like, subscribe, share. Come on all that shit comment all that shit interact with us y'all. We love to hear back from y'all. Until next time, peace, peace that's a wrap, y'all.
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