The Heavyweight Podcast
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The Heavyweight Podcast
Obese
What does it feel like to be running on empty? The Heavyweight crew gets real about recognizing when our tanks are low and shares powerful strategies for refilling them.
From physical symptoms like anxiety and exhaustion to emotional signs like irritability and frustration, the hosts open up about how burnout affects them. "When I'm on empty, my responses are short, very sarcastic. Don't ask me no dumb shit," one host admits. That raw honesty sparks a deep conversation about resilience, boundaries, and self-care.
Mindfulness emerges as a crucial tool, but as the crew points out, "Being mindful is one of the hardest things to be." They dive into personal stories of navigating loss, violence, and overwhelming stress—proving that resilience isn’t about avoiding hardship but learning to take it one step at a time.
If you're feeling drained by work, relationships, or life's constant pressures, this episode will give you practical strategies for bouncing back stronger. Join the conversation and find strength in the struggle. 💪
Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 3:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. Who knows if this is the braid side and that's the hat side, or what I guess yeah, what's good?
Speaker 3:this is episode 191 of the heavyweight podcast. I am your anti-social host and never your favorite. Stedder McFly, back again with this lady and these two guys. Go ahead and state your name for the beautiful people out there.
Speaker 1:Kevin W W Like A&W Like. W Like G-dubs Like.
Speaker 4:George. You just remind me of something, Kevin it's your boy, Molito.
Speaker 2:I'm your girl, Des the Diva.
Speaker 4:Well, my daughter couldn't say W when she learned the alphabet, because she always say said, what were you?
Speaker 2:aww, that's cute. I hope you got it on tape, santa that's cute.
Speaker 4:Oh, I do. I listen to it all the time. That's super cute because she a big kid now how were your weeks? Cool, man cool, it was cool, you know yeah it's not funny.
Speaker 1:Oddly, a lot of the same as last, but good, good, I'm good.
Speaker 4:So you good, yeah, you good, yeah.
Speaker 4:You need a drink as Tupac said, the Hennessy don't help see somebody put a Tupac you know what I felt it in my spirit when he did it too, thank you yeah, the week was good. Grind, that's it. Grind, don't stop getting ready for state. In a couple weeks we finna show up and show out, have our matching sweaters on shirts. And you know, be in there yelling, drive out with a trophy, yeah. And if we don't, we still in the motherfucker and the space to nationals. And you know, I'm being there yelling, drive out with a trophy, yeah.
Speaker 4:And if we don't we still in the motherfucker and the space to nationals.
Speaker 2:She's good, you guys are going to nationals.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm hoping that she sticks with this and I get my money back. I bet you will. You will Shoot my dad. I bought you a house. Oh baby, you don't have to do that.
Speaker 2:But, where's that my week was good. Mcfly, how was your week?
Speaker 4:Just a thumbs up.
Speaker 3:For Shizzle it was all sixes and sevens.
Speaker 1:Like.
Speaker 4:Like shoe size.
Speaker 3:Like craps. More like you ever Sixes and Sevens. Like they talk about people going crazy.
Speaker 4:No, do you need to call the hotline?
Speaker 3:Yeah, you, okay, I'm tired, Like I'm tired.
Speaker 1:I get that. What is that?
Speaker 4:That's a new one for me. I ain't never heard of Sixes and Sevens.
Speaker 3:You never like Uh-uh. Tech N9ne had an album called Sixes and Sevens.
Speaker 4:No, it's not Tech.
Speaker 1:N9ne. See, I missed it. I missed it, I didn't know it.
Speaker 2:No, Uh-uh no.
Speaker 4:Don't look over here, because you know I don't know.
Speaker 2:No, I never heard it.
Speaker 1:That's the new one, okay.
Speaker 2:That must be an artist thing.
Speaker 3:It's either an artist thing or a white thing, because it's the same.
Speaker 2:I believe it. I don't know the white stuff.
Speaker 3:I'm shocked that Kevin don't know.
Speaker 1:I know I'm kind of shocked too, I'm kind of shocked too. He was with some real white people, Saw six and sevens buddy.
Speaker 4:I'm the expert on nigga shit.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, nigga, nigga shit. I don't know neither the white shit or the nigga shit.
Speaker 2:I'm just here.
Speaker 4:neither the white shit or the nigga shit, I'm just here lies see that you said that shit, I just said shut up both of y'all there's gonna be an extra on BAPS.
Speaker 2:I could not have been no extra. I hate that damn movie. I could not have been no extra. I cannot stand that movie. I do not like that movie. I don't do ghetto, shit like that. I do not like that movie. But they're cute, but they're not like long long, this is medium, yeah, this is medium.
Speaker 1:When you go like long long, this is medium. Yeah, that's regular, this is medium, yeah this is medium.
Speaker 2:When you go in there, you be like this is medium, I do medium for you, this is medium.
Speaker 1:Damn, damn.
Speaker 3:The thoughts of Des and Des are. Des I'm not nah.
Speaker 2:Listen in my defense. I can't help it, okay, I just. It just comes out okay. It just comes out okay. Racism I'm sure she said something to me in her language. Oh, I'm sure, yeah, so there's that. We even now. Wow, we even.
Speaker 3:She can't help it.
Speaker 2:That's how the lady said who did my nails?
Speaker 1:I know, I know.
Speaker 2:She's from Cambodia. She's cute we black we allowed.
Speaker 1:That's what we get. That's our reparations right Right. Racism, I'm good, what is it? Appropriation, oh shit.
Speaker 3:Guess we'll get to the shenanigans yeah.
Speaker 4:Wait, stop shenanigans. Again Running on empty Shit my car Because goddamn gas again, running on empty shit my car because goddamn gas is almost.
Speaker 3:Oh hi, it's giraffe, coachy, yeah what are common signs that you're running low on energy and hope, and how do you recognize them?
Speaker 2:I feel it physically. I get heart palpitations when I'm running low on energy and stuff like that, so I can feel it physically. I get heart palpitations when I'm running low energy and stuff like that, so I can feel it physically. Um, and I have anxiety.
Speaker 3:So there's that when you're on, when you're low in energy, you have anxiety yeah, if I haven't slept, well, anxiety, I can't. Did you just sing the Dochi song?
Speaker 2:I don't know that lady's songs. I know who she is, but I don't know the words to Not Now song that lady sang Not. Now not a song that woman sang. Now I'm happy for her, but just ain't really listened to her album yet. I'm going to. Yeah, that's one I'm going to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's one plan I can get behind, yeah. Yeah, I will listen to it.
Speaker 2:I will listen to it. I just don't know. Just ain't had the chance to yet.
Speaker 4:I will say for me, when I'm on Empty man, my irritability level was at a thousand. I'm very, very short, I'm short, I'm very, very short, I'm short. My responses are short, very sarcastic. Don't ask me, no, dumb shit. Because you're going to get a dumb ass answer. And then you know, the first sight of a pillow are my wife's titties. I'm asleep. Put my head in them, titties.
Speaker 1:That doesn't work for me. I ain't going to sleep.
Speaker 4:Oh no, no, I'm going to sleep. Oh no, oh boy.
Speaker 2:You just jumping on his bullshit ass, god damn it, that's not bullshit.
Speaker 1:Don't nobody want to hear y'all talk like that. That's not bullshit.
Speaker 2:Y'all nasty no the motherfucker with the backpack is calling us nasty.
Speaker 4:I show up with what God equipped me with. She got a whole backpack of extras.
Speaker 2:I have to make sure that when I'm with these bitches, oh, that's good stuff.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that's just like so, yeah, I'm irritable. That's when I'm running like, when I'm like when I'm running on empty physically, when I'm running on empty emotionally, like Kevin always says, I just gotta cry it out, cry it out, reset, cry it out, then get my. Oh, he said it. You always say cry it out, cry it out, and then you, you know this little bitch ass nigga. I did not say that, sir. I did not say that if you took it that way, I'm sorry, I don't yeah, but you know, I agree, when I'm emotionally exhausted it's been a good cry.
Speaker 4:A good cry because most of the time when I'm emotionally exhausted I think about my grandparents and that just doubles the cry. And then, you know, a good cry makes you see shit different. You're like okay, let me go take care of business now. Feel refreshed.
Speaker 1:I'm getting a lot more irritable with my Physically or mentally. I think both and I'm trying. I gotta not do that. That shit ain't fair nobody, because it's like it ain't your fault, my bad.
Speaker 4:So a lot of sorry's have been said, the reason why you tired. Nah, because I wouldn't be working like this if your ass wouldn't you nah shit.
Speaker 1:If only they knew what I nevermind.
Speaker 4:I don't want to my greatest motivation and my greatest.
Speaker 1:I do want to like rage, though like a rage room me too, I've never done that, I've never like, so I should do that.
Speaker 4:I just thought about you signing up for like an escape room. It's dead room. They're like what are you doing? I'm looking for clothes. Turn this shit up. This ain't a rage room.
Speaker 1:So Isolation, a lot to deal with it and, like I said, I want to try that though we're going to go do a rage room.
Speaker 4:Rage room Yep.
Speaker 1:I'm down.
Speaker 4:I just like breaking shit.
Speaker 1:There's one in uh Temecula, temecula yeah, yeah, let's do it, I'm down. You down, we can record it. You gonna tear some shit up.
Speaker 4:We could record it. You can are, we are, we are we allowed to like put?
Speaker 2:pictures of people on shit? Yes, you can, you can't you can. You go online and you just book the spot and I think they're in 30 minute increments and, yes, you can bring people, you can't bring pictures of people oh, I was like that sounds like a homicide pictures. You can bring the pictures to people. Yes, you can. We've been to Purge. Yes, you can.
Speaker 3:Well bring pictures. I can totally see it going that way. You got this nigga chained up like oh it wasn't my bad, I think I read the description wrong Living back in the car. We'll just.
Speaker 1:Never know, though, with the way this economy is, they'll be like pay a little more and we'll let you do it. Yeah, hit the rager.
Speaker 3:When I hit low energy, I tend to notice I start to feel like I'm getting physically sick and I'm low on energy. And then, uh, I kind of get real, like I kind of tune out. When I'm like spicy, yeah, I just so. Um, and that's usually my identifier is like, oh shit, like I'm, because I know my body will physically just start being like hey man, you got a little scratchy throat right now and you, you're like damn, I wasn't sick.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:But your body will be like but you feel like you're getting sick, physically sick yeah.
Speaker 4:And then when?
Speaker 3:I recharge and you go back to normal that's usually my telltale sign.
Speaker 1:That's not low energy, that's exhaustion. You are exhausted at that point.
Speaker 4:Now what's exhaustion niggas, when you fall asleep at a stoplight. Who the hell did that? I've done that that was a train oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I fell asleep we had a dude do that at work, but that motherfucker just stayed asleep he said I'm here now.
Speaker 4:He just woke up and was like oh shit, nobody want me just went around the neighborhood, mcfly called me to wake me up cause I was I was legit knocked out. He started snoring.
Speaker 3:I was tired we were having a conversation and he was like man, I'm stuck behind this damn train. I was sitting here.
Speaker 2:I was like oh, oh shit, oh, you was getting it.
Speaker 3:Holy shit, yeah. And then I called him back. He said, man, if you hadn't called me back, he's out. I think I was going to roll the fucking tractor. I said, shit, yeah, because you never put the brake on, never put the brake on. Exhausted, yeah, she got fired for that.
Speaker 4:I wouldn't yeah, because you never put the brake on. Never put the brake on exhausted yeah she got fired for that.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't. I wouldn't have. She didn't put her brake on and then got in her car and got on her phone and then ripped a bunch of shit out, like another driver was like I can't even justify this shit, oh my god that's crazy but yeah, that's. Yeah, yeah, physically yeah.
Speaker 3:And then hope. I don't know, I hope, I usually hope. I guess I can see anxiousness with hope, like kind of getting giddy. Start randomly doing shit like that.
Speaker 4:Oh, okay, when you have hope.
Speaker 3:When you're losing low on hope.
Speaker 4:That's what the additional question is oh, my bad.
Speaker 1:I take it a different because I'm like I don't think I get low on hope. That's one thing I can still have somehow.
Speaker 4:I know, sometimes, when I feel like I'm at my limit, I take personal days. I'll take days where I do nothing. If it ain't going to make me smile, I don't do it. So I'll lay in bed. I'll go to my office. I'm not laughing at you. I'll go to my office and maybe watch a video, maybe watch a, play a video game or something that's what I was thinking when I'm irritable or like in that. I'm someone low on hope.
Speaker 3:Or yeah, anytime I feel low on anything. Video games don't do it Like I'll get super like. Nah, fuck that man, I'm supposed to do a video game?
Speaker 4:Hold on, I never said it worked. That's what I was saying, I said I'd make an attempt to.
Speaker 1:I just got a game when I'm over there and I'm like I keep fucking losing.
Speaker 3:That's the last thing I'm trying to do.
Speaker 4:But I'll spend holidays just in bed, just me, and normally an old show that was me last week. Watch some Golden Girls. That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 1:It's a good week. You know, watch some Golden Girls. That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 2:It's a good show, but like that's the go-to. I swear to God, it is I swear to God, she have all type of Golden Girls shit in her house, oh man.
Speaker 1:I watched it last week.
Speaker 3:I learned something about me last week. What was that? Uh-oh, I can't hear or watch dumb shit when I'm physically sick.
Speaker 2:Why what?
Speaker 3:happened.
Speaker 4:It irritates me in my soul. Like you ever watch the Goldbergs. I need the example. What were you watching? I was watching Goldbergs, right, Okay?
Speaker 3:And I couldn't help but notice I kept skipping episodes because that nigga Barry, the older brother, kept doing dumb shit. So somehow I'm laying there and I can hear it and I'm already fucking. I have a fever, I'm fucking hot, sweating, and I'm hearing this shit. I said, oh, that dumb nigga, and I would skip the next song.
Speaker 3:Like fuck, like every. I was like not like 10 episodes skipped after. I'm like I can't watch the Goldbergs. That's funny. Sick Cause this nigga was doing dumb shit every episode. Sick cause this nigga was doing dumb shit every episode like that's like me.
Speaker 4:That's like when I watch my 600 pound life and I'm like they gonna take they fat ass and they gonna lie on them.
Speaker 2:They can't lie to that doctor cause his ass. He not tolerate that shit. I'm a picky eater. You're 600 pounds. You're not a picky eater what?
Speaker 4:I tell my I watch that shit. I'm a picky eater. You're 600 pounds, You're not a picky eater, what I watched that shit so much. My wife, uh Phoenix, come in the room like dad really this again, it's hilarious. I said this is a. It's hilarious, the daddy is motivation, because what the hilarious part was? The part you tomorrow does the, the, the doctor, he that that, that nigga is the king of savages. He don't give a fuck.
Speaker 2:With a straight face.
Speaker 4:He told this one bitch. He said you eating?
Speaker 2:enough for the rest of the year. Yeah, he did. Oh man, that was the same bitch that said she was picky.
Speaker 1:That made me think of Devin the Dude. Devin the Dude's the greatest. He had a song called Leave Em, and it was all about going to a party with some bitches. He had a song called Leave Em, and it was all about going to a party with some bitches. And then, when he gets there, his rap line is what the fuck is this big bitch here? I should have bought a 16 ounce beer.
Speaker 4:What.
Speaker 1:I was like that's rude as fuck, that's only rude.
Speaker 4:It was a tandem, but it was good yeah it was fun, I do that shit too. I don't even watch it, I be listening to it.
Speaker 3:I be like man shit your ass. It gets super irritating. You're like what the fuck, dude?
Speaker 1:I had a friend who was like that when he wasn't sick.
Speaker 4:And he just legit.
Speaker 1:Somebody said something and he just looked at me and was like stupidity should be punished.
Speaker 2:I was like, damn, that was a good shirt. That was a good shirt.
Speaker 1:I was like god damn, like how punished do you mean? That was a good shirt alrighty.
Speaker 3:did everyone answer Simone, alright. What strategies have you found the most effective? And? Did everyone answer Mm-hmm, simone, all right. What strategies have you found the most effective in regaining energy and hope when feeling drained?
Speaker 2:Sleep. Yeah, I want my answer Rest.
Speaker 1:Sleep, are you fucking Shit? That's how you get your energy up.
Speaker 4:Shit, shit, shit shit. I mean. I mean she doing most of the work I'm just laying there oh man, this is fucking ridiculous. After I wake up from that nap, I'll be like what you need, baby, I got it now get your chakras aligned. I got you she just bring it out of me. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:She bring it out sounds like a snake that comes up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, not touching that one rest, uh rest.
Speaker 4:A good cry helps hot tub.
Speaker 1:I like the hot tub time with my baby. Uh, alone time. I do a lot of different things. Haven't done the the weather hasn't permitted, but going out and doing like golf or something a little bit outdoorsy.
Speaker 4:I haven't. I wasn't able to walk outside because of the weather recently and it kind of it's fucking with me.
Speaker 1:I can see that. Yeah, it's definitely part of your routine too. I miss it Cause I going it's definitely part of your routine too.
Speaker 4:I miss it because, like going back to the gym the second time to walk in the treadmill I'm like man, I'd rather be outside well, look at these ugly motherfuckers, I don't think these niggas in here sweating. Oh damn nigga, when they were compression socks there's a nigga at my gym that wears compression pants like the leggings, with nothing over them.
Speaker 1:Oh, he just balls out. I mean, it just balls out. Somebody should tap him like hey my man, that's not how that goes.
Speaker 4:And he'd be around there comfortable. He black, oh he white.
Speaker 1:That ain't no nigga shit.
Speaker 4:I'm like bro, come on.
Speaker 1:You know what? Never mind. I just got to stop watching TikTok. I got to stop thinking in my head it's fucked up.
Speaker 3:It's not right. I was watching TikTok yesterday, right? I don't know why it became like the cereal trend, ice cream, oh. And they became like the cereal.
Speaker 4:Trend ice cream.
Speaker 2:And they have the.
Speaker 3:Rice Krispie, ice cream sandwiches.
Speaker 2:That shit look delicious and.
Speaker 3:I'm looking at those goddamn.
Speaker 2:You ain't seen it, it's like a thick ass Rice.
Speaker 4:Krispie tree. My wife sent that shit to me. I said now, if they make that shit with chocolate ice cream, give me 10 of them. That's what. I said Because I love a goddamn Rice Krispie treat.
Speaker 2:I wanted them to dip it in one half of it in chocolate, or drizzle some chocolate on the top.
Speaker 1:There's a strawberry flavor to it and I looked up, it's a strawberry.
Speaker 2:The ice cream is strawberry.
Speaker 1:This woman in here if she sees that it's over.
Speaker 2:My mom just experimented.
Speaker 1:I looked it up and I just made this Like mom, yeah, I'll eat it.
Speaker 4:I was on board to a boy say you only get three in a box. I said hold on, nigga.
Speaker 1:What it's like 30 bucks too.
Speaker 4:It's like $15. Yeah.
Speaker 3:According to the TikTok, I said it was like that was their limit before they ended up having a bunch of death due to diabetes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Like fuck, like what niggas overdid it, yeah got gout.
Speaker 2:I got gout in my pinky toe, but yeah, they look good, though they're big I could probably eat one a week.
Speaker 4:I just want. I don't know if it's delicious.
Speaker 1:The next question I don't even know if we answered the question.
Speaker 3:We should start talking about food. I just saw that show there cause now I'm hungry, let's answer.
Speaker 1:I don't even know if we answered the question. We should start talking about food. I just saw that show there. Because now I'm hungry, let's ask the question again.
Speaker 3:I'm going to be honest what strategies have you found most effective for?
Speaker 2:regaining energy. We answered that. We answered that. What's the next one?
Speaker 1:Yeah, R&R Time with my baby.
Speaker 3:How important is setting small, achievable goals and recovery process.
Speaker 4:Setting small, achievable goals is is important Period. It's essential, it's period.
Speaker 3:So you're going to go get the rice crispy treats, or you guys fucked up.
Speaker 1:I hope you know that. Yeah, I know, for the next episode you're gonna come in and my mom's just gonna have two pound cakes.
Speaker 4:I'll be here on time let me know, cause I'm gonna bring ice cream just give me all air like but I definitely believe that you need to.
Speaker 4:You need to have a main goal, but you need to have micro goals along the way, yeah, so that way you can feel like you're achieving on your way to the goal. So even like, for instance, me with the weight loss right, I set a goal of what number I want to see by the end of the week, and so if I meet that goal, okay, good, I'm doing good. If I don't meet that goal, I need to go a little harder. Number I want to see every by the end of the week. And so if I meet that goal, okay, good, I'm doing good. If I don't meet that goal, I need to go a little harder. I need to make up, and a lot of times I can look and say, well, this is why I know where I fucked up.
Speaker 4:But things like that, like even like in life, like okay, if I can, if I can make this much money by this much time, okay, ok. So now I know if this is the number, I know how much I got to average, I know what I got to work on. Hey, I want to complete this, I want to have this built by this time. Ok, what am I doing? But I think the small goals help you achieve the big goals and it helps you stay motivated, because the more it's like it's a mental thing, the more. The more you check off, the more you want to check off, so it actually drives you to get to the end.
Speaker 2:I agree get to the end.
Speaker 1:I agree it's pretty essential, like you said, in life, but especially in that time, because you want to have something to be, have a victory. We always stay like so you've got to have some sort of win. As we, like you said, achievable goals. So set something that is almost like a daily something you normally do, but make sure you do it, yeah. So I think it's almost like a daily something you normally do, but make sure you do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I think it's everything yeah because, yeah, it's like goals, like you said, give you the motivation to do more, keep going and try more. Try to get to something. And I think it's important period because sometimes people don't set goals and they just go.
Speaker 2:Go for it. Yeah, it's like what are you going for? The small goals help you pour into your own cup. Yeah.
Speaker 4:My wife is a huge advocate of. Like every January, what are the goals for the year? I love that.
Speaker 4:So now you're not just going. So it kind of gives you a purpose. It gives each month a purpose that we're working towards. Going back to the small goals, I saw this trainer and what he said was on TikTok, I think what he said, what I thought was genius. He said if you want to go to the gym and you want to get in the habit of going to the gym, he said, just go to the gym. He said, the first week go to the gym, Just walk in, Walk out. Now, if you do something, that's great, If you don't, you win.
Speaker 1:I did that with comedy not too long ago, I'm not going to lie. I showed up to the place and I was like, oh man, you guys are doing good and I just left.
Speaker 4:I just left, but I mean, he was basically teaching about just getting the mindset getting the mindset, getting the routine, because eventually, if you go two, three weeks straight, eventually you're gonna start doing a little something. It may be a five minutes here, 10 minutes there, but you, you know, it's just. It's about just the action of getting up and doing something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and giving yourself grace, I think is is important, right, because you're gonna fall sometimes have a little grace for yourself.
Speaker 4:What'd you say nothing?
Speaker 1:oh, this line thing again. Yeah, I thought he said a hundred Oreos. I was like god damn yeah, they in the line mm-mm.
Speaker 2:Dang, I want some Oreos see damn.
Speaker 4:So let me get some Oreos and some Rice Kool.
Speaker 2:I like chimed in here with y'all. I already said, I agree, you know, I already said a few little things.
Speaker 1:I didn't hear a ooh child she said, she said sprinkle, sprinkle go E40 it's McFly time.
Speaker 2:What do you think McFly? Where are do you think McFly?
Speaker 1:no, where are you? Oh, he gonna hit you, like hit you with the drink oh, nah, nah, nah, nigga, he's gonna see this through.
Speaker 2:I said it already. I said I feel like that they're essential. It's like pouring into your own cup. You did say that. I said that I did like that line. That was nice. It I said that I did like that line, that was nice.
Speaker 1:Thank you.
Speaker 2:That's all I got Go Andy.
Speaker 1:Must have done the beat, ho Devo.
Speaker 3:I said in the beginning where is the Rice Krispie Treats? That was my oh they ain't ready yet.
Speaker 1:No, nah, man, she don't even know yet. I'm going to show her this episode and she'll be like, oh y'all really want she gonna make them some scratch. Who Tammy yeah?
Speaker 2:you call your mama, tammy.
Speaker 1:She don't even eat sweets and just be making stuff and I'm like I like it. That's good, thanks, appreciate it what?
Speaker 2:how good is you heard of stuff right now? Cut this damn short episode short we're gonna collectively have diabetes what are you thinking like?
Speaker 3:I don't know he's gonna go down a path cause when you said we're gonna mutually have diabetes, I thought like everybody got got matching chops off feet.
Speaker 2:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:Well anyway, oh my, that's the only nigga I've seen trolling about his foot yeah. He said I grew my foot back and I'm like who the fuck is that? Levar Ball?
Speaker 4:the basketball dad I believe that he kept the foot. He asked for the foot back. He probably got the shit on right to the house.
Speaker 1:That would be insane Mudgee.
Speaker 4:My God, you want to see my foot. No, nick, I do not want to see it.
Speaker 3:Anyway, what role does mindfulness and self-care play in maintaining your resilience?
Speaker 4:Everything, oh my gosh, yeah, everything, everything. Being mindful is one of the hardest things to be absolutely, it almost.
Speaker 2:You have to practice daily while being mindless is common. Yes, yeah, yeah, that's because most people think that they're mindful when they're not or they're just mindful of self, or not even mindful of self.
Speaker 1:I guess just they're only mindful of their emotion emotion itself.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, but it's, it's everything, it's every, it's everything.
Speaker 4:Cause when you're mindful, you're able to dissect what's going on internally and externally and you can see the factors in real time of what's affecting your mood, what's affecting your current reality, what's affecting your decision making. And, like Des was saying, it is something that you have to. It's something that you have to actively work towards to maintain, because even if you're a mindful person, you're going to have gaps in the day and in your life where you're not being mindful, because we're all human, we can all be triggered by something, and when you're triggered, that's one of the hardest times to be mindful, because now you're being fueled by emotion, and when you're in emotion and it's passion, emotion, regardless whether it's anger, fear, love or whatever the case may be when you're in that and it's that strong of a force, it's hard to step outside of that and actually be mindful of the situation. So when you're not mindful, that's when the situations come up that hurt you the most, because you can't protect yourself, because you're not realizing you need to be protected.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, mindfulness also can go into the point of uh, because I was, I agree with you, but it's like uh also, you don't necessarily have to recognize everything, just knowing that something is a miss. Is, I think, uh sometimes enough, like because if you just don't or you just ignore everything, you don't even know that something is amiss? Is, I think, sometimes enough, like because if you just don't or you just ignore everything, you don't even know that something's?
Speaker 4:off, then you won't even know that you got something to correct. You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:So you got to trust your gut feelings. That's like doing the work as far as going to your doctor. You might not know what the fuck's wrong with you, but you know something's wrong.
Speaker 1:Man, I got to be better. I know when I said the whole endoscopy thing.
Speaker 3:oh, what's wrong? I said, well, I don't know, that's what I'm trying to find out.
Speaker 1:I think I need an MRI, but I don't even know how to do that.
Speaker 4:You go to your doctor and request it. Right, I thought they deny some sometimes I mean they have to have a medical reason for it. But if you tell them what's going on, I mean legally they have to check it out.
Speaker 2:It's giving you your symptoms. You can't just walk up in there and be like I just got an MRI, but you'd be like I have X, y and Z and that aligns with an MRI being needed to, you know, investigate.
Speaker 4:I mean you can lie into one. You go to the emergency room and say I got this, but it's really and my pain is at a 10. Then they're going to do all the tests and throw you in the room.
Speaker 1:I'm not good at faking. They'll just look at me and be like, yeah, I mean so? Yeah, that's.
Speaker 3:That would suck you fake it. You go through the MRI Like nigga. I was just playing, I didn't know it was like that.
Speaker 2:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:They're like damn, you fucked up.
Speaker 4:I just, I just thought about Joe Budden's story when he had the MRI and how he was freaking out and he was like when the ball broke and he was freaking out and he was like when the ball broke and he was trying to get out and he couldn't get out Like yo, my man Shout out to Joe.
Speaker 2:I don't like him.
Speaker 1:At least you're mindful of that yeah.
Speaker 2:Very mindful. At least you're mindful of that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, very mindful, I think that's I mean that's important though, so you know what the fuck to stay away from too you're like them niggas over there not for me. No, they just gonna cause me to be angry, but that's a good one. I didn't even think about that aspect like health-wise, yeah yeah. If you don't know.
Speaker 4:I know it irritates her, but now, when my wife complains about anything, I always go. So what do you want to do about it? You want to go in, or are you Because, if you don't want to go in, why are we talking about it? You want to go in? Yeah.
Speaker 1:You sound a lot like me.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to not be yeah, maybe she just wants to talk.
Speaker 1:I'm going to listen to it again, if you're coming to me with a problem, I know where he's coming from, so you're just going to be hurt you're coming to me with a problem.
Speaker 4:Do you want to go in, because I'll take you right now, I'll drop what I'm doing or do you want to make an appointment? How are we doing this?
Speaker 1:but hearing him say it, I feel like that's probably how I say it and I'm like it sounds aggressive yeah, it sounds a little. It sounds a little aggressive so you, but what you're saying makes sense, yeah you just sound aggressive saying it, but what you're saying does make sense.
Speaker 3:Are we calling aggressive? Because I you're saying does make sense. Are we calling?
Speaker 4:aggressive Because I'm black.
Speaker 3:No, I'm just trying to figure out is aggressive a new way of saying. It Sound like an asshole. That's the way.
Speaker 1:I was trying to what? I was trying to ease it.
Speaker 2:He was guiding you there.
Speaker 3:Because I'm like aggressive, it just sounds like an asshole thing to say at the moment.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you're sick, but you don't want to do nothing. What are we doing? You want to put the plate down. I'll stop eating. I'll stop eating.
Speaker 4:If you ain't sick, then just stop talking about it. I'll take you in right now.
Speaker 1:You ain't take no medicine, nothing. But yes, I do sound like that now. Fuck, so you're realizing you sound like an asshole.
Speaker 3:Real time.
Speaker 4:Do you see how mindful you are? Again Real time, right there he's being mindful.
Speaker 3:That's funny, that's good, that's gold. That's gold. You know how many times.
Speaker 1:I've said some shit like that, like well, why don't you just take something? Ah shit, woo shit. Thank you guys. That's healing. Now I have to apply it.
Speaker 3:Are we mindfulness? Yeah, I already said that yeah. So how can listeners leverage their support networks to help them bounce back?
Speaker 1:How can listeners Leverage? What do you mean? Yeah, or just reach out. I guess it would go back to what we were saying before, like, but it's not necessarily in a sense of it's like tell somebody talk, because a lot of us just hold shit in and don't you?
Speaker 3:gotta communicate recognize that there's an issue see shout out on it, you gotta, you gotta communicate shout out to them, shout out to former members and holding shit in my god, oh my god that just popped in my head when he said that whole shit and I was like that happened. Yeah, we learned that that wasn't healthy I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you gotta communicate. Yeah, you gotta communicate because, um, I mean, you can have all the experience. We learned that that wasn't healthy. I know what you're talking about. Yeah, you got to communicate. Yeah, you got to communicate because, um, I mean, you can have all the experience you want from the past, but if you're not communicating that to the proper people, you're going to just keep going in circles in the same situation over and over again.
Speaker 1:And know your, your, your, your, your, your friend group. Know who's done what, been through what. Who's the person you should go talk to. Like some of your friends, you're like, hey, man, that's the wrong advice. And I knew that was going to be the wrong advice, so it's like know that stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you definitely have to be aware of your resources and when to use what resource.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree, Call the party friend when you're like nigga, I won't think about it. I'm like, oh, I got just the place for you. All right, let's go. Midget strip club. I'm still looking for one the fuck oh wait, it's little people, little person strip club. We're still trying that. Yes.
Speaker 4:We're not going to go down that. That happened. It did happen. I just need to know if it's a thing or not. Are you going?
Speaker 3:Is it a rabbit hole?
Speaker 1:I have a healthy fear of small people. In Texas, if you go type in little person but not little person, they say, I'll just say it. They got sites that say midgets for sale or midgets for rent and I'm like what, you can just rent humans like what what is this?
Speaker 3:is it half price?
Speaker 1:I feel like it's probably double. It's a novelty. Okay, I got it, we got it yeah turn it left next question not, is it half price?
Speaker 4:don't repeat it next so what are?
Speaker 3:buy one, get one. What are some inspiring stories of overcoming hopelessness and finding renewed purpose? Anybody of overcoming hopelessness and finding renewed purpose? Anybody got some stories.
Speaker 1:Hopelessness.
Speaker 2:I mean, I always share my story about that, Whereas you know I've gone through the six miscarriages, but I still try to help others as they're going through their situations and I still haven't, even being over 40, I still haven't given up hope on having children. I just know that it's going to be a more difficult journey and there's other options. But most people in my circumstance would be like fuck this, I'm done, I'm not going to try to do this anymore. But me personally, I feel like this is God's way of using me and I literally feel that way. Had I not gone through what I've gone through, I wouldn't know how to help other women and how to be gentle and how to be able to give them that grace and extend myself to them. So I definitely think that that's been my biggest testimony when it comes to that type of a situation.
Speaker 4:Give us hope. Kevin Give us hope. Kevin give us hope.
Speaker 1:I don't know if that's hope I was thinking. When I got that eviction notice on my college apartment I was like, well, what am I gonna do? I kinda figured it out and got my shit together. Well, not right away, it took a while, but it took some recognize. It made me recognize some shit in like fight to be better.
Speaker 1:Like I didn't run home I think that's what I did is I didn't run back home Like I stayed where I was at and I was like, nah, I gotta be a man to figure this shit out. I did this to myself. There was help along the way, a lot of help, and thank you to all those people. But it took me to go through it, to come out on the other side of that as a better person. Cause I feel like if I would have just took the easy route, came back home, lived home and just whatever it was, I wouldn't have been in the same position in my life as I am now, like I've been. I think I would have been like I don't know, maybe a bratty bitch or something, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Bratty, bratty bitch bratty bitch, something I don't know.
Speaker 3:brady, brady bitch, brady bitch, my god, you build character that when you stay, yeah, um, I was thinking. This happened recently. I was in riverside by north and I was driving over there by patterson park because I used to live there when I was four.
Speaker 2:And I was thinking about.
Speaker 3:I was telling the story about how living in these apartments right by the park and how we used to lay it on the ground or the floor during drive-bys, and I was telling the story about my mom Using the bed sheets to climb down the the alleyway.
Speaker 3:And I showed the alleyway behind the apartment and I was thinking, goddamn like the to look at it now the distance yeah, that the fact that me driving over here at this age and having a house and not like, yeah, it was, it was a, it was a hope for me, because I I still see this. You know kids my age or whatever, uh, growing up that still live in that same area and it's like it's still possible, it's still hope, I'm proof positive that you can't get out of a situation like that, because yeah I saw a lot of kids that didn't make it out of that situation.
Speaker 3:So it's like, yeah, it's, if I can be that, hope for people to say, hey, man like that, shit. Look at stutter. Stutter went from living in the same neighborhood as us and now he has a fucking house and now he has benefits or now you know like he could have just as easily said what's the point, but he didn't Still be driving through there. I drove through there that day for Buck's thing. Okay, I stopped by the park and came through and just drove by and was like damn.
Speaker 1:Well, they're laughing, because last time I saw that nigga, he took me in the middle of there. He was like, hey, take me to this liquor store right here. And I was like, nigga, what he's like, I'm going to be quick. Nigga, what he's like I'm going to be quick. And I'm like you better be. We ain't supposed to be here, you can.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but yeah, I use that as hope.
Speaker 2:Because I remember thinking this is some weird shit to live in.
Speaker 1:It's nuts when you look at certain places Like shit. When we went to Texas, I was just like, just like damn you could tell why. This is just the way it is. They didn't have like houses in the area, like everything was apartments, and I'm like you put this many people in one spot like crime's happening. So it's like damn like this is designed. But yeah, that's the way they said motherfuckers gotta learn to look outside and be like I gotta get the fuck out of here, but need examples.
Speaker 4:I'll just say that it's always gonna seem worse than what it is at first, because it's a new experience and you're going to feel like there's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can purchase or buy or no action you can take to get about the situation, and that couldn't be any farther from the truth. The first thing you have to do to start to attain your hope is change your mindset on the situation, control what you can control and there's always going to be setbacks that's life and when you realize that all you can really do is control the decision you made. So if you take the steps to make the right decision and you know you're taking the right decisions, there's always going to be hope that the outcome will be one that's favorable for you, regardless of the situation.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree, that was well said.
Speaker 1:It is what it is. I just feel like hating because he want to be my hater.
Speaker 4:I said I said I would hate on you if you needed me to. I'm trying to get you to support your needs.
Speaker 1:It's drive-by, nigga, that shit sucks.
Speaker 4:If I'm driving by your house daily wasting my gas that's love.
Speaker 1:It's going to be some extra hate too.
Speaker 4:That's more love than hate.
Speaker 1:I drove way out here. I'm going to throw something worse than that.
Speaker 3:What are some practical tips for maintaining a positive outlook during challenging times?
Speaker 1:I'm thinking it almost goes into what you said just there. This ain't the worst, as my mom always said. Said this too shall pass nothing's permanent.
Speaker 4:I incorporate a lot of prayer don't let 60 seconds determine your move, for for six hours or for an hour or a day or a day, allow that, allow what happened to exist in that time and then go for it. Go for it in in your best, in your best mind frame.
Speaker 1:You can yeah, I think I find myself saying a lot like well, that's done, like the deed is done itself. How do I respond? That's what matters. So prayer talk, motivation itself. How do I respond? That's what matters. So prayer talk, motivation or not motivation?
Speaker 3:no, I can't think.
Speaker 2:Meditation? Oh, definitely meditation, I'm sorry, what'd you say?
Speaker 3:Take it all in increments.
Speaker 2:Oh that's good.
Speaker 1:Well, they say best way to eat an elephant, one bite at a time yeah digestible pieces what his brain.
Speaker 2:I'm tired of y'all.
Speaker 1:I swear to god I be just oh lord oh cause he?
Speaker 3:they said that's the best you can. I know it sounds sexual cause the brain goes there, but that's how I've approached a lot of shit. I looked at a situation and was like, fuck, I got a lot of fucking work ahead of me, but if I can just take it in increments- you just approach it like a math problem. Order operation before you know it, you're closer to the finish line than you are to the.
Speaker 4:Don't do PEMDAS.
Speaker 3:That's how I approach that shit.
Speaker 1:Little bits at a time, but don't do PEMDAS If you go on Facebook and you look in the comments you realize that we're divided as a nation on math. Oh, no, Like the answer's 32. You're like no, you got to do this first.
Speaker 4:I'm not arguing with nobody, who don't even write shit down on paper.
Speaker 2:You're not going to argue with anybody. Everybody answers yeah, we did Most people don't write shit down on paper. I'm saying these kids.
Speaker 4:They do everything on fucking computers now.
Speaker 3:How can listeners integrate lessons from their past experiences to build resilience for their future challenges? And that just made me think about what you read the other day at work.
Speaker 4:What I read.
Speaker 3:Yeah, when it said, you were interpreted to say intimate.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, you should.
Speaker 2:You should naturally be taking the challenges and the lessons that you learn and integrating them to what you're doing, because if you're not, you're going to keep doing that same stupid shit and keep learning that same stupid lesson.
Speaker 3:That is true.
Speaker 4:That's right. I agree with what Dan said.
Speaker 1:And you learn your boundaries. Thank you nigga, you learn your boundaries.
Speaker 3:You should have just hit him with the retort.
Speaker 1:What.
Speaker 3:What he always says.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm not saying that. Nah, don't like what he said, I'm not gonna say it. This is a whole day we got through with his ass not saying it.
Speaker 1:Stop trying to get me involved. He keep looking over.
Speaker 4:He thought it Kevin, I look your way, so you don't say nothing. You're my safe place, so every time you look, you got something to say. You're like I'm not going to say it, kevin, if I look this way, she going to give me a look and I'm not going to say it. Look at, kevin, if I look this way, she's going to give me a look and I'm like fuck it.
Speaker 2:I mean we can go to her. I guess that's growth, restraint, restraint.
Speaker 3:See, you said that's growth, and then she said nut, and I was like see.
Speaker 2:She said nut, I didn't know.
Speaker 3:She said nut, if you. But what I my brain interpreted when you said that's growth nut, I was like see, I'm tired of y'all.
Speaker 2:What's the next? Somebody answer this shit.
Speaker 1:I said you yeah, you're learning boundaries and things like that. Like, by doing things like that integrating you also learn what you're not going to do. That's one thing we forget about. Yep, it's like I'm not doing that.
Speaker 3:I noticed I said it a lot at work.
Speaker 4:What I'm not going to do. I'm not doing that. I also think that resilience comes from constantly making the hard decision.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 4:Regardless of the outcome or the effect of the outcome to those around you. Making the hard decision, because every decision is not going to be a great one and a lot of times the choices are just shitty, but you always have to make the best decision for your current situation when I think of work, I think of work.
Speaker 3:I think it's interesting Maybe it's the freedom of when we got FMLA and what it gave us and empowering us with certain things is when you start seeing what your coworkers are willing to get taken advantage of with and what you see management is willing to take advantage of them with, and then you're coming as the kind of like the, the variable that they're not used to. You get to see both sides of that shit, because the energy from management will be like what the fuck? You mean, you're not doing this, like you're, we're telling you to do it and you're like I'm not doing that, and they get kind of so like, oh, the nerve of this uppity, like that's what it starts to feel like the nerve of this uppity mother thinking that he's not gonna do what we told him to do I keep my pinky up I start using certain words and they're like he's not dumb, he's gonna sue us but you definitely see that when you realize what your, what power you have, when you see what your co coworkers are willing to let slide, you're like hmm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm like that's not safe. Though what are you a pussy Like, sure, sure. But I'm not doing it, so call me all the names you want. Might want to call Carl and have him do it, because Kev ain't Winslow.
Speaker 3:I can't hear that name anymore.
Speaker 1:He said he came out and talked about it. I don't know if he denied being at the party.
Speaker 3:I can't who oh.
Speaker 4:Carl Carl at the titty party.
Speaker 1:Oh man Fucking Playing when he got his cheek popped Getting fucked oh, carl Carl at the titty party. Oh man Fucking. Getting fucked, that's still fucking he's not the plow. He's not the plow.
Speaker 2:Carl Winslow, the dad.
Speaker 1:He leaned into the joke.
Speaker 4:Oh my god, he leaned into the joke.
Speaker 2:Ha ha, ba-dum-tsh oh my God, who said he was at the Diddy party? I forgot who it said.
Speaker 1:They said he was there getting blown out. It was one of the by Diddy, wasn't it like a Was it Cat I don't know.
Speaker 3:I just know it was somebody that came for it, yeah.
Speaker 4:No Cat, said Professor Overby he did say it was Professor.
Speaker 2:I did hear him say that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he said that. I feel like somebody was in an interview talking about Carl Winslow getting yeah and he never really. He's like man, I ain't gay and they're like so.
Speaker 2:He didn't deny it, he's still alive. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Carl, he ain't that old, family matters, ain't that old?
Speaker 2:yeah, I know family matters isn't that old, but I didn't know that, carl, you just thought, cause he obese?
Speaker 3:no, no alright, I have to know. With. That being said, this has been episode 191 of the Heavyweight Podcast. Like, subscribe, share comment. We appreciate you guys for rocking with us. Being said, this has been episode 191 of the Heavyweight Podcast. Like, subscribe, share comment. We appreciate you guys for rocking with us. We try to be serious as possible sometimes. We're not that old Again, until next time, peace.
Speaker 4:Peace.
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