The Heavyweight Podcast
Welcome to *The Heavyweight Podcast*, where every week, a dynamic group of four—“this lady and these three guys”—come together to discuss a wide range of topics that both warm the heart and nourish the soul. The Heavyweight Podcast brings together four unique individuals, each with their own perspective, to engage in open and honest conversations about real-life situations. Whether you're in need of a good laugh to release some tension or you're seeking real answers to life’s tough questions, tune in to *The Heavyweight Podcast*. Whatever you're looking for, you’ll find it here.
The Heavyweight Podcast
Missed Assignment
Forgetfulness can be a hidden gift—like turning a mid-performance lyric mishap into a story of resilience and humor. Join Stutta McFly, Broke Mo, and Gap Hill as we explore life's quirks, from birthday fails to the challenges of gift-giving, uncovering lessons in grace and laughter.
We redefine failure, tackling gym goals, quitting smoking, and overcoming self-sabotage. Sharing personal triumphs, even as small as enjoying Oreo Thins in moderation, we focus on resilience and growth. Team dynamics shine as we discuss trust, communication, and psychological safety, with laughs about golf and basketball mishaps along the way.
Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 2:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. What's good? This is episode 181 of the heavyweight podcast.
Speaker 2:I am your anti-social host, studded mcfly, but never your favorite. Back again with these two guys and child, the desert can be here. Uh, go ahead, set your name for the beautiful people out here.
Speaker 3:Call me Broke Mo.
Speaker 1:Dead right. Nobody believe that shit.
Speaker 2:Air White still calls you Mo.
Speaker 3:Button Broke as shit.
Speaker 1:Mo. What happened? You, like broke your toe, or something.
Speaker 3:No, it was my wife's birthday.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:Broke, broke, broke, my toe Broke, broke, broke.
Speaker 1:And I'm Gap Hill, gap Hill, gap Hill drinks Sprite.
Speaker 3:Oh.
Speaker 2:How were your weeks?
Speaker 3:Expensive.
Speaker 2:Hmm.
Speaker 3:Why my baby turned 38. Happy birthday.
Speaker 2:Happy birthday. Happy birthday, she's there.
Speaker 3:She's 38 and fine. I couldn't find a balcony.
Speaker 1:Don't go down that one, okay.
Speaker 3:But we did get out, got her some stuff. You know she didn't ask for much, I just I'd be overdoing shit.
Speaker 1:That's good.
Speaker 3:You can't overdo, though I don't know. I think I kind of find my asshole, because she asked for shit and I gave her the opposite deliberately yeah, then yes she'd be like. She'd be like just give me a gift card to Sephora and I go to Ulta and get a gift card. It's it's still a gift card to Sephora and I go to Ulta and get a gift card. It's still makeup. Yeah, it's still makeup, but it's not where she wanted to be. Yep, it's home deep with the lows yeah, still works Same products.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 3:Happy birthday.
Speaker 1:Happy birthday.
Speaker 3:I got her what she wanted, good.
Speaker 1:She wanted me Anywho. Happy birthday, I got her what she wanted. Good, she wanted me Anywho.
Speaker 3:Happy birthday baby. She don't like you always talking shit. I do I talk shit.
Speaker 2:He said it.
Speaker 3:Yep, Kevin, your week, sir. My week was good man.
Speaker 1:My week was good. You know I'm doing a little trip Left in, a little trip left left in. You know little vacay by yourself.
Speaker 2:I thought you were challenging Jay for a second was that Jay Jay?
Speaker 1:yes, I had to burp, I was trying to hide it. It was good. Went to a little little football, little last game of the season. That was fun that was fun did you win? It was fun and um the uh. You know the tickets could have been cheaper, but that's my fault. That's my fault. But have fun with the family, all you know it's cool.
Speaker 3:I don't know if my mom seen me like that. I'm pretty sure your mom knew you turned up.
Speaker 1:Crash course.
Speaker 2:That was my week that was yours Work Dope show. It was a dope show.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm sorry, man, my nuts.
Speaker 2:I don't know, that's how you start a sentence.
Speaker 1:They cut him. I left it alone my blood pressure finally was good.
Speaker 3:I'm proud of you for that. But I'm not talking about your nuts.
Speaker 2:It's a bit testy.
Speaker 1:But anyhow, sorry, how was it you rocked them?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was chilling. How's it hanging?
Speaker 1:I was trying to get out of there Pause.
Speaker 2:Pause. Yeah, it was a chill. It was a dope show, dope event. I appreciate for Diesel and personal for having me out. I'm sorry I couldn't make it. It's all good. It's all good I get life be lifin you're nuts, I couldn't make it.
Speaker 3:I couldn't make it. I couldn't make the show. My daughter had her competition, so I couldn't make the show.
Speaker 2:He's like fuck you yeah, it was a dope show. You know a dope event. You know what I'm saying how'd the phone go? I think I remembered it. Well, I've been known to freestyle a lot. I think it's my brain's way of telling me you don't want to do that song, you want to do a new version.
Speaker 3:Is that what it is?
Speaker 2:That's what it is.
Speaker 3:I think my brain cause my brain would be like would be like nigga, you know the song, but fuck that song, let's do this that's like when you're doing a what a champagne.
Speaker 2:Part of time I said, nigga, that's not the words. Just, patrick still has the greatest uh, hype man story of all time we were. I was performing in beverly hills for some sort of competition and I had a song was it plush? It was a song that he knew well and midway through the second verse I said, fuck that, my brain just went blank and I just started freestyling. And he's going and he look is over at me, like, and he looked like he's like a deer caught in the headlights. And he look his over at me, like, and he look and like he like a deer caught in the headlights. And he just starts staring at him. He goes and, um, after the show he goes nigga, what, what was, what was? That's not how the song go, bro. I said, yeah, my brain just lapsed.
Speaker 3:I just started freestyling it happens to the best of us hmm, it happens to freestyle. It happens to the best of us.
Speaker 2:Hmm, it happens to the best of us. I mean, there's not too many that can pull it off the freestyling.
Speaker 3:No, I'm talking about the brain lapse.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, but yeah, it's, it was. I said, this happened to me frequently and then I realized, like I said, when we saw the pop-out show, that nigga sometimes shit happens.
Speaker 3:Hey, that's my nigga.
Speaker 2:sometimes shit happens, hey, that's my nigga, because that nigga fucked up like three or four times on, not like us, and now uh, yeah, that was my week and and work, and new year and new goals, and trying to get my tax return back, you know, asap. So shout out to Robert Uh, let's get into the shenanigans the shenanigans Go ahead.
Speaker 3:Are you there, nigga shenan, one time You're going to shenan again.
Speaker 2:Yes, so what specific challenges do you guys want to tackle in 2025?
Speaker 3:And why my obesity? Why?
Speaker 2:Because I'm tired of being fat.
Speaker 3:Do you want to be able to? I want to be able to sit up here on the podcast with my shirt off and a six-pack.
Speaker 2:I don't think I feel comfortable, as you said.
Speaker 3:It don't matter. If you feel comfortable, I'm comfortable. Remember I talked about being selfish. That's going to be a selfish moment for me.
Speaker 2:Well then, me and Des are going to switch seats. She can sit next to you. I'm like, hey, man, he got his shirt out and shit. Then he's going to be like, I mean, like it's borderline, bro, because it's Like you sit out here with your shirt off. You talk about fucking on balconies. Hey, my wife, one bad memory can make a bad day. You know what I'm saying? Like for me.
Speaker 3:Like, I don't. As long as I don't go to the cabin from last week, I'm fine.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, that's Anyway. Yeah, I think I asked the question, right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you asked the question, right? Yeah, you asked the question.
Speaker 1:Kevin didn't answer. Yeah, yeah, you threw me off with the cabin. What were we at? What are you? Oh, the challenge I want to tackle this year I was just like I'm jagging off again, sorry. I told you all like the school shit is pretty big for me. That's what's up. Like I got pretty far before and I didn't finish and I know I could have. So I want to do it. That's what she said. So she got close and didn't finish. At least it got close. At least it got her close. Small victories.
Speaker 3:No, it's not good now, she's just mad.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's cool. So there is knocking down. She's just mad. Yeah, that's cool. There's many that tried to get close. Blue clit, Blue clit Is that what you said?
Speaker 3:That's a thing Bubbles up, oh shit. This is when we need devs to fact check. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think I want to figure out how to balance all that shit. That's the challenge, is the time, and figuring out how to balance and still have a life.
Speaker 3:When you figure that out, let me know.
Speaker 1:Because I know it's going to be a lot, because I hate math and apparently there's a lot, so yeah, because I hate math and apparently there's a lot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 2025,. I want to tackle winning the lottery.
Speaker 1:Shit. Well, I guess there's no why to that. No shit, we know why. Don't we all Shit? Being a millionaire, something Shit. We know what, don't we all shit?
Speaker 2:being a millionaire, something shit, so I can not have to fucking do the day in and day out job, be able to just enjoy and take advantage of life. So so if there's anything that can say, hey, you know what, now you ain't gotta worry about all that shit, you can just go do what you wanna do with your heart desire. So because you know life be life, and it's kind of hard to get to those points- I think the the thing is.
Speaker 3:I realized if I wasn't right now and I had no bills, I'd probably be in the gym three hours a day with that I mean that's your heart's desire, you know they might need.
Speaker 2:You live here better than having your body sculpted like drake, right say, drink get them drake abs yeah, or you could just be like 50 and just put them on the on the album cover. Yeah, just write them in.
Speaker 1:I was like I'm not sure what I would do, but I might, I might go that route.
Speaker 2:I probably would go that route oh, man, that shout out to the Massacre. That was an interesting album that's a good way to put it clickety clank, clickety clank, the money goes into my piggy bank. How can you redefine failure to view it as a stepping stone? Clickety clank, clickety clank, the money goes into my piggy bank. How can you redefine?
Speaker 3:failure to view it as a stepping stone rather than a setback. It's only failure. If you didn't learn, if you could take something away to make the next attempt better or easier, then it's not a failure. It's just a learning process. It's a learning process.
Speaker 2:I can see that. I definitely agree.
Speaker 3:You got to learn to embrace that sometimes the failure there's wins in the failure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, that's the only way you can, because if you just accept defeat, then nothing was accomplished.
Speaker 3:It's a waste of time, the next time you can make her come.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we got close. It's like Neo said closer. That's the only way I can see Taylor failure into it, though you got to learn from it. It man, you can't just accept it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's like when you. It's like when you trying to do a certain lift in the gym.
Speaker 2:You can't do this week, you couldn't do the weight, maybe next week you can like I told you I tried that 90, I'm all shit, it's gonna hit the floor. I'm not killing myself today, not today cause that shit. The only biggest fear is that motherfucker fall flat on your face and everyone's looking at you like ooh, you, like hey, is everything cool? And you're fucking missing your two front teeth and shit, like you can be missing more than that. Yeah, so um, you answer I don't know. Uh, I was gonna ask you because you said that I was like what, if you shit yourself is that? How do you bounce back from that?
Speaker 3:don't eat that shit again.
Speaker 2:Don't eat that shit again, unless you at the house um, but I think for me it's when I felt like I've been a failure. It's like like those times, even doing the shows, when I would fuck up, I would feel like the biggest fucking failure, even though no one noticed and there was oh you're dope, I'm like. In my mind, I'm like, but I fucked up and like you try to tell yourself it won't happen again. But there's always a chance it will, because you can't predict what your brain is going to do in those moments. You just kind of got to adapt and so I guess that's the learning curve is adapting, like saying you know what, yeah, you can't help that you might lapse, but if you're, if you're, if you're, if you stay ready, you ain't got to get ready in a real way.
Speaker 3:I learned that in pomona. Did you know that?
Speaker 2:yeah, he was like hey, man I don't know if you know this and I said word yeah, then I went on stage and killed it. So, um, yeah, what habits or mindsets are you willing to let go of to foster your personal growth?
Speaker 3:What habit. I'm willing to let go of, anything that I can determine to be self-sabotaging, whether it be behavior or thought or a thought. Learn to, because I think for me, especially in 2024, I had to learn how to reprocess my thoughts and how to get the negative out of it and try to be more positive, because I'm not a very I'm not a very positive person. I'm always looking at the, the pessimistic side of the coin. You know what, what, what could happen, probably will happen, type shit.
Speaker 3:most negative way so I think that's one thing I try.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to uh get rid of okay I'm going smoking, work using the patch that's been helping what about the gum?
Speaker 2:you try, try that again.
Speaker 1:I haven't had an urge like that, so that's been good. I think the biggest test will be when I decide to try to go on stage. Oh, I'll smoke a whole pack.
Speaker 3:That's going to be interesting. Just light up the other stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but that ain't the same as cigarettes, man I mean, I wouldn't know, hell nah. If I tried to smoke as many cigarettes or smoke as much weed as I did for cigarettes in that moment, that wouldn't be good. I'd just be on stages.
Speaker 3:Look at the crowd like are y'all telling me a joke, or what?
Speaker 2:It's like 30 minutes later and shit like, oh shit. I'm telling jokes, my bad it's like we have someone tell us first joke. Nigga, you've been up there for 30 minutes that's my biggest man is.
Speaker 1:I have to get rid of that cause I don't smoke enough to like get cancer off of something like I can get cancer from not a lot of smoke, but I'm like it's dumb to get cancer off of the amount that I smoke where it's like no, you didn't smoke enough or you just, your dumb ass, just kept smoking until it happened. So, yeah, it's, the patch is helping. I'm using that.
Speaker 1:So and then hopefully I can just wean off and just be free of the chain of having to go outside. Hey brother, I know it's cold, but I'm going to go step outside real fast. Just a cup, that's my biggest.
Speaker 2:I guess I'll just stop vigorously masturbating, why it does harm to my penis.
Speaker 1:I shouldn't have asked.
Speaker 3:He was the first one to walk out the cabin alive.
Speaker 2:Alright, alright, seriously, I just want to make sure I keep not let the bad, the bad thoughts come through.
Speaker 2:We've talked about it in a previous podcast where it's like you have that one thing that triggers the next thing, so you start thinking of every possible outcome being wrong. Just not let it actually take shape or form. So, as soon as it's happening, like I cut that shit out, I can do this, cut that shit, I can do this. So that's the big thing. Cause I know, when I feel like I've failed, like it only seems to happen when I feel like I felt it, that sad thing, and then I'll just start thinking about what if I feel like this too? Or what if I felt that too? What? Or what if I felt that too? What if this? It's like you can, you can always bounce back, man, like so that's trying to keep that in my mind, like I can always bounce back and, yeah, the the bad things are going to happen, but don't let them take shape and let them control or or or steer the ship, um, and also not vigorously masturbate.
Speaker 1:Cause, again, I and also not vigorously masturbate Because, again I said, it's done some damage to my pickle. It's probably taken away from valuable writing time too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can be writing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I could and I'm over here, just I would have thought that the Getting your arm tired and shit.
Speaker 3:I would have thought that the clarity made the bars more lethal Posting.
Speaker 1:that clarity is different.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you're like why do I need to rap? Yeah, why do I need to?
Speaker 3:rap.
Speaker 2:What is rap? Why does it?
Speaker 3:matter.
Speaker 2:It's almost like, yeah, when you get that post-nut clarity and you're like, why do I put fucking on such a high pedestal? And then you're like, you know what? I don't even need to fuck to survive that horniness.
Speaker 1:I'm going to try to how do you figure this out? I'm going to figure this out for you. Got to get you to be able to make a beat off of your rhythm.
Speaker 3:No, okay, no.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Okay, no, no. And then rap on it Nah, nah, we know that might get you banned. That might get you banned. Nah, I don't want to also think about that every time I make the song. Like man, I remember how I came up with this beat Came exactly. So in what ways can accountability partners enhance your journey towards your goal?
Speaker 1:accountability partners enhance your journey towards your goal. If they're a true accountability partner and not trying to like bring you down and make you feel bad, it'll motivate you like, because some people like take the accountability partner instead of like recognizing the good things they do. They only be like hey, man, you fucking up, why are you doing that? Blah, blah, blah. You're like yo, I get it. Can you say hey?
Speaker 3:today's not the day.
Speaker 1:Don't eat that like yeah, but like having that is is important because we, we, we do, we're human. Yeah, like we fall. So it's like somebody has to be there, be like yo guess what. You see these I fell a lot too, like you know. I'm saying like somebody who's there to pick you up and motivate you and not let you, let you know that it's not all bad when it's bad, like they're still good on the outside. So I think that's, I don't know that's, that's, that's what I think, but you gotta have a good accountability partner, like I. I agree, I think you gotta have somebody, that's what I think, but you gotta have a good accountability partner.
Speaker 3:Like I agree, I think you gotta have somebody that's um, but I feel like with with the accountability partner, you gotta be both ways, you gotta be holding each other.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:It can't be a one way street and it gotta be, um, like, like everything in life, it's not what's said is how it's how it's said. So it's like you got to have a partner that approaches you and vice versa, in the right terminology so that it's not taken as an attack, and you just say, man, like, remember, this is the goal, you're doing good, do you want to enter the goal? You know, doing this, taking this course, will actually enter the goal. So that type of thing damn near necessary, because a lot of times you know, you know, I know, for me personally, I get in my own head and I'm like you know what, like I'll be doing good. You know, one Snickers won't hurt and that one Snickers turned into three Kit Kats. So what happened?
Speaker 3:barbell bro three whole Kit Kats huh or the little fun size ones, huh yeah, three Kit Kats, so size was.
Speaker 2:Yeah, three gigas. So you know, barbells, bro, trick your mind.
Speaker 3:No, I can't. That's one thing I can't do. That's one thing I can't do.
Speaker 1:So we're talking 12 bars.
Speaker 3:It's almost a rap song. Yeah, it's almost one verse.
Speaker 2:It's almost one verse.
Speaker 3:I mean so I mean, yeah, it goes both ways. I think it's necessary, I think it's needed.
Speaker 1:That's true too.
Speaker 3:Because I mean, it starts. Yeah, you don't have to. You don't even have to be about about diet, it could just be holding you accountable for the shit you're doing, that you know. Um, like, like, when you're like quick to anger, or like you quick to respond, or sarcastic response or anything that you're trying to like, improve on, like they, they, they point that out fucking rapper brain but I'm done.
Speaker 2:I just just you were talking, he said the kit kat and then you said the verse and then my head went barbell, don't sweat it, my 12 won't make you diabetic.
Speaker 3:Like see.
Speaker 1:I'm going to sell that.
Speaker 3:Pitch it, you got to give credits, though that might be the new barbell commercial.
Speaker 1:Won't make you die.
Speaker 3:Endorsements.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, we got to write this stuff down because I think they're going to watch it and be like oh you stole it. You beat somebody up.
Speaker 2:Shout out to Papa Smash Brothers. Hell yeah, they got a second location coming off of Calcom.
Speaker 3:Oh, word Closer to me?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I like that yeah, so I was chopping up with him. Real dope cat.
Speaker 3:That's a lot.
Speaker 2:Also shout out to Bodies by Patino, joseph Patino. We see you Appreciate you, sup sexy. Anyway, out the bodies by patino, joseph patino. We see you appreciate you, sup sexy anyway. Um, I'm not saying that one, I'm not going there, um so every time post video.
Speaker 3:Every time he posts videos, I get take the shirt off so I can see what they're buying.
Speaker 1:He can't do that in the grocery store. They're going to be like, hey, my man.
Speaker 2:I realize I didn't answer part in your goals because of the simple fact that if you know for a fact you can trust that person that do you know that they're gonna? Whatever they're saying is done to the with the purpose of making sure you stay, stay the course. So, um, it could play a big part of your goal reaching your goals because, if you know, you know what I might be in my head to uh do whatever, but I know this person is going to tell me whatever I might not like, want head to uh do whatever, but I know this person's gonna tell me whatever I might not like, want to hear. I know I need to hear yeah, so uh, yeah, that's that. That's why the field plays a huge goal. So, um, how do you measure your progresses and celebrate?
Speaker 3:I track everything health-wise. I track everything.
Speaker 2:I track what I eat, track the workouts, track my steps all that, track my weight, all that, and how do you celebrate?
Speaker 3:three kick outs that was 12 no, 12 bars, 12 bars, three kick outs, three whole packs he ain't fun sizing shit.
Speaker 3:I take the small wins, I think, cause I feel like when me purses is what I do, man, it's like I'm not gonna indulge myself in the things I know that are bad for me, but I will. In all seriousness, I will eat something I normally wouldn't eat throughout the week. When I'm proud of myself, I reward myself a little bit Like don't overdo it, like I'm not going to eat three. I might buy one and break it in half and get it out to my wife or my daughter, get a little taste. Or my current vice is I buy the Oreo Thins and so four cookies is like 140 calories, so I'll eat six of them About 200 calories. I'm like okay, well, at least I got to go or I did good. Today I'm going to eat some Oreos, so I eat them six. Now Put the thing up Substitute, I'm going to reward myself on them.
Speaker 2:Trick of the mind, bro barbells okay, my mind's not as powerful as yours me and barbells are like this nigga, I, yeah, I'm the only one that thinks that in the lark cause he a lark, don't know no better no, he just he don't know no better he be robbing me for shit, dude. I said you know how much this shit cost, anyway go no, that don't stop, that don't stop you know, you already know that I just so bad come down with my tupac shirt.
Speaker 1:I was like I've been looking all over for that motherfucking shit. You just pajamas, huh that's diabolical.
Speaker 3:It's my shirt I wore out, but you slept in it.
Speaker 1:I was just like mm. Fuck it.
Speaker 3:The cold part. She probably got it from your wife.
Speaker 1:It probably went in the closet Like mm. Put this shit on for sleep. One way is, like you said, tracking shit when it comes to health and stuff Like weight Try to weigh myself weekly and keep an eye and see where it's at Golf and stuff like that. Doing things like I track results by how many balls I don't lose by the end of the round. I was trying to figure out a way, without pausing that, how many golf balls I end the game with out of the way, without pausing that, how many golf balls I end the game with um, it's like celebrating shit like that is I don't know. That's tough. That's tough because I feel like just doing it and getting better at it is like a hell yeah, I don't know if that's a good enough.
Speaker 1:Celebration is, is that not? It's not rewarding yourself it's a good hell, yeah, attaboy.
Speaker 3:I mean, if it works for you, it's about what works for you.
Speaker 1:I mean, yeah, it's hell yeah attaboy, cause I'm like I got more to do don't attaboy me.
Speaker 3:I'm attaboying myself oh, don't do that. I'm not attaboying you. It sounds racist.
Speaker 1:It's for my nigga yeah, but I don't know, yeah, cause in the celebration that could go awry it could be 12 bars so hell yeah, what's up. You look pensive I was just thinking about the golf balls or the?
Speaker 2:kick ass. I was thinking about the whole phrase. I was like I don't think he could have gotten out of that one. The golf balls when you said the initial balls statement I was like that's, you guys can go back and look at my facial reaction. I was See, there he goes again.
Speaker 3:You said that and then you said he couldn't get out of it. I said damn, was he at a ditty party?
Speaker 2:Oh shit, you stuck in here nigga, I'm going to hell.
Speaker 2:So, um, I try to measure progress and just I don't necessarily like to track things because I feel, and just I don't necessarily like to track things because I feel like when you don't get what you want to see, it kind of discourages me. But I'll do things like, if you notice clothes fit differently and you're like nigga, I remember what these felt like two weeks ago or a month ago. And you're like nigga, I remember what these felt like two weeks ago or a month ago. You're like damn, like these fuck shits is loose. Now, like you, you remember those, you take those victories. Like damn, that shit fits loose because when you hear on, like when you see on a scale, a lot of times it can fluctuate, so like you might be getting progress, but you, because the weight on the scale says that you gain two pounds, you don't realize you lost two off your waist.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying, so it's like I try to look at it in the other victories of what we, like you might notice, the shirt fits differently.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And you're like, damn, this shit's more flowy. That means the nigga gut went down. You know what I'm saying. So those were so the victories. I like to take their celebratory things I like to do is, um, I'm not saying it, uh, celebratory. I might be like I'll go to this protein shop and they and get one of those herbal life shakes.
Speaker 3:Not the crack ones right.
Speaker 2:No, the ones with like. It's like the cookies and cream. They have one called the cookie monster.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:I'll fuck with that. Uh, and they have like imitation Oreos.
Speaker 1:They got one. That's what do you mean?
Speaker 3:The crack one with the, with the or while I'm cracking it.
Speaker 2:And then they have those tees though.
Speaker 3:That's crack. Yeah, that's crack and they have one that's called the Black Panther, because you turn into what?
Speaker 2:No, because it's like a purple, but it looks like the Black Panther.
Speaker 3:And then they have one called Captain America. You're thinking about, like Huey and the Black Panther.
Speaker 1:Huh, no, I was like no.
Speaker 2:You go like this when you're done, no, I was like, what's it?
Speaker 1:got E and J in it.
Speaker 2:Good old Erkenjerk, huh no no, no, no, no, good old Erkenjerk. No, no, no, no, no, good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old good old, good old, a shake or a uh you still do the is that you said smoothie, yeah, yeah, you don't do the protein donuts anymore uh, when I get the chance to, but normally I end up like, like, I think one of the things I like to eat now is like that that reminds me of them.
Speaker 2:It's like the quest they have quest muffins, chocolate chip muffins, the protein, and that muffler tastes just like that I'm gonna tell you what not to get.
Speaker 3:I got got I don't know the brand of it, but it was like a PPNJ protein bar and I said I'm going to just try it. I'm going to just try it. You know, 7 for 20 or whatever. I need it. I'll try something different. Instantly regretted it.
Speaker 1:They fucked up PPNJ. Yeah it was terrible.
Speaker 2:I have go-to's it was terrible.
Speaker 3:They were out of my go-to's so I I ain't been back since trial and error.
Speaker 2:I ain't been back since now, I thought you were gonna say instant regret. Well, I learned the hard way what's that? It was like Atkins gummy bears. Don't do it when I say that my stomach was tore up.
Speaker 3:Is that true? Cause it's the artificial sugar. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I heard a bloop. I said uh, uh, uh, clear my schedule for the next two or three hours. Um, this isn't flying.
Speaker 2:Well, well, well it will be I said ah shit me right here yeah, I know, I know what that means. It's talking to me, um, but yeah, I, I take like the protein, but the protein donuts when I get the opportunity to get them, I get them. But I told you about the guy that worked there that was trying to like get me on his training team or whatever. Like he wanted to do like the workout plans. I think he worked for Herbalife too. That motherfucker. I said I wouldn't got a smoothie there one day Within 30 minutes. He texted me. He's like man, I hope you're enjoying it. I hope you enjoyed your smoothie. Uh, yeah, so let's do that. That workout where I said, nigga, it ain't even been 30 minutes, I'm still, I'm still drinking my fucking protein shake. And like he kept on texting, I was like man, fuck this, you ruined my fucking protein. Uh, spot, because I won't go back because of that, nigga I won't be back.
Speaker 3:Have you been back to that bagel shop?
Speaker 2:Which one?
Speaker 3:Down by the street from the gym.
Speaker 2:Last time I went was that shit fire Months ago. Yeah, their bagels their croissant breakfast sandwiches are fire.
Speaker 2:I think it's called like bagel something, menifee bagel, noifee bake. No, no, it's fire. Um, but yeah, I, I just find things that I, the shit, legendary pastries are fired. Papa smash, count. Papa smash is my, uh, my go-to for a cheap meal. Burger, them, fucking burgers, are fire. And when I, when I get the chance to eat those, and then it's dope, even dope now, because it's like to get the head now from the owner, like because he'll, every time he sees me, he shakes my hand. Now it's not like I'm just a customer, it's like you're my peer. So it's a dope feeling because it's not just it's enjoying a cheat meal, but also saying I see you, just like I see him as far as, like, I respect your hustle and he's like I.
Speaker 2:you know he said that instead of a fly heavyweight podcast here, like it feels good to hear, so, um, so it works two ways. It's celebratory in two aspects of it. You get a cheap meal and you're getting, you're building a rapport with somebody because you respect what they do. So, and vice versa, they do the same. Uh, we're going to switch it up Cause, uh, we went through those questions pretty fucking fast. We're going to switch it up because we went through those questions pretty fucking fast.
Speaker 3:We're going to change it to team dynamics, okay.
Speaker 2:What are your common barriers to effective communication within teams? Barriers, yeah.
Speaker 3:I think sometimes people try to be a little passive because they don't want to rub people the wrong way. But I always try to look at what was said with the intent behind it, like if I knew that you were just stating how you feel or what you see and there's no malice intent. Like it was stated for the betterment of the group. Like I have no ill will against you for the betterment of the group. Like I have no ill will against you. But I think that I think it's very. I think it's very, very hard to grow and be close when there's there's always tension or you're always apprehensive about pointing something out or saying something. I felt like everything needs to be on the table. I felt like so for the group to progress and be great, it needs to have open lines of communication with no judgment. You know what I mean. So I mean, and for me personally, as long as there ain't no rah-rah behind it, I'm not going to receive it that way.
Speaker 2:Will you say with past situations, that that was present?
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I, I kept kept the same injury.
Speaker 2:I'm just curious because it's like those things. Yeah, I do think that those things can cause conflict when you're trying to get to a better place. So I definitely like when it should be an open.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but I also I also think what happened in the past affected another member to not say things when they want to say things, and so you know she does need to know. I'm just saying, like you can say what you feel, like it's about how you say it. Like, as long as you not don't come at me in no type of way and I'm not going to come back at you. Like we can, we can be adults. We can have a civil conversation about things. There's a way to address things. There's a way to handle things. There's a way to keep things professional. Don't talk like you wouldn't be out of pocket with your boss, so don't be out of pocket with me. We can. We can keep that same level of respect.
Speaker 1:I think it's important to understand that conflict and discourse doesn't mean it should be the end of shit, like you know what I mean some people are afraid to have that where it's like uh oh well, sometimes motherfuckers have it. You know what I mean and that sometimes is good to build on.
Speaker 1:Like you said, as long as nobody it's the intent behind it, so it's like that's the openness, is like people are afraid to have that because I think people believe that that can end things. You know what I mean? And if that's the case, then it's like it wasn't built on the proper foundation in the first place. So I think that's a big thing in effective communication in teams is it's alright, sometimes you gotta have that shit, but put it out there, we can have it, it's fine. That's how it goes.
Speaker 3:Just like any relationship, you're not gonna agree all the time. Sorry about that, kevinvin.
Speaker 2:That's fucking dirt you all right, mcoy yeah, yeah, uh, but yeah, um, because I think I was thinking about the what was said to me recently. It's like you have to be able to have those conversations, but um, and if you can't have those conversations, but um, and if you can't have those conversations, then you got a question that's the people you want to be around, if you can't have those honest conversations? Because you got to be able to have those conversations. So it was like you got to be able to say what you feel. You got to be able to say what cause, like, how are you going to? So I do, I definitely think, like get into a place to being comfortable with the uncomfortable is key, because you're gonna always have uncomfortable moments, especially when you're trying to grow, and that's in anything you do except penis enlargement, because I don't think there's a option for that yet.
Speaker 1:but uh, everything's in turkey. I just think this. I thought you're saying you don't get uncomfortable with that. I was like I feel like when I know somebody's about to blade to my shit uh yeah.
Speaker 2:So, um yeah, just understanding those and being comfortable. There is, uh, it's important and understand that when those uncomfortable moments happen, just work through them instead of trying to figure out like to avoid them. So, um handling conflict, I can team members approach uncomfortable conversation without escalating tensions?
Speaker 3:That that speaks more to being able to listen without feeling you're being judged or attacked. It's almost similar to like regular relationship shit, like we can sit here and have a conversation and we can go back and forth. But we need to understand that we're talking about the problem. I'm not talking about you, you're not talking about me, we're talking about the problem. And I think that's the same thing in a team Like we're, there's a, there's an issue with the team and then we're talking about the problem.
Speaker 3:Now, where that kind of gets like sketchy is when someone feels like this motherfucker is saying I'm the problem, right, and it's not that you're the problem. Is your behavior or your lack of is the problem. That's what we're addressing. We're not addressing you, we're addressing the behavior or the lack of the behavior. And I think that's where it kind of gets sketchy, because naturally you know people are defensive of themselves, like you're not going to sit here and tell me what I'm not doing, because again that goes back to what we were saying earlier about the accountability.
Speaker 3:Like a lot of people don't want the accountability, but when you have a group and you're able to be accountable to one another, it makes those conversations easier to have because they understand. Hey, they're just holding me accountable for what I'm not doing, especially when it's something you agreed to do and now you got to be pushed to do it. You know what I mean. Like that's going to cause conflict because you don't want. It's like the same way as like group projects in school. Like no one wants to feel like they're doing more than the next person.
Speaker 2:Like everybody should be chipping in doing their part yeah, cause you don't wanna be like you got an A and then like, well, I worked the rest to get the A and then this motherfucker didn't do shit and they got the A.
Speaker 3:He showed up. He showed up on day to present and he got.
Speaker 1:Um, I think I kind of go into what you were saying, but I I I kind of go a little bit opposite a little, where it's like, when you get into that point of the conflict, sometimes it's uh good to address that feeling of like if you feel like that, if you feel like that, if you feel like that, but like address that, not like use it as a mechanism to to start a fight and be like hey, this is how I feel when we do it this way, or when you say it this way, when you do it that way, so it's like okay, so we can understand how to communicate with each other as we go along. So, if it's something that you have where it's like, hey, I feel this way, when you say this this way, okay, cool, and that's on both people to address that. You know what I mean, yeah, or the whole team, or whatever. However, it goes like this.
Speaker 1:This is all down to relationships, with everything, but I think that's important because sometimes people will let that shit go and be like take things personally and just take it personally, personally, like in a personal sense without putting it out there, and it's like well, I didn't even, I wasn't even saying anything that way, I wasn't trying to say that, but that motherfucker was like, oh my bad.
Speaker 3:I didn't know you felt that way.
Speaker 1:Like so it's open, but it's like say that I feel this way, but not like. Hey bitch, why are you talking about me?
Speaker 3:So it's like learning each other and like it's okay like and that's key too, kevin. The learning each other part, yeah, because I think, like you got to know me for a while to understand that when I'm serious, you got to know I'm serious because there's a there's a whole shift in tone and directness, because I'll sit here and I'll laugh and we'll be funny and we'll joke and play, but when I'm serious, you see the shift in the body language and then the tone of my voice like yeah, that's my two cents it's on you all
Speaker 2:right, uh. So um, for me it's especially because I was with with something recent, uh I I feel like when I try to express myself, it comes off differently, especially in text.
Speaker 2:So text is a motherfucking so it can be rewritten. I'm like that's not what I was going for at all. I was just trying to say this and it's like for me it's important, like when you're saying learning people is like for me, and I think Maurice knows me well, so like he might summarize what I was trying to say. When I'm like, my brain would be like isn't that what I said, though, and I'm like nigga, that's how I came across. You're like my, my bad, like so, um, for me, yeah, it's understanding the situation and intent behind it, because I'm not, I don't believe in having malice. There's no point in malice.
Speaker 2:I do believe in growth and trying to push things further, and I feel like sometimes it gets misconstrued in how I go about it, because my brain will spit it out a certain way in text. It's like I have to reread it and I'm like did I, did I miss the, the, the assignment? Like so, um, so for me it's like yeah, it's the learning and and and trying to get to an understanding. As far as saying, that's not what I meant at all, this is, uh, my, my intention, or my, yeah, my intention behind what I'm trying to say is it's always like, especially when a team sits, uh, in a team setting. It's it's about growth.
Speaker 2:For me, like I want to see success on all fronts and and uh, building towards something so like, for me, that's like usually my main goal is to see success because, like, I analyze a lot of shit, specifically podcasts that I see are successful, and I see what, what they thrive on and what they um, what they fall short of, and I try to like implement that towards whatever I'm a part of. So, yeah, um, but I think that's, yeah, that's what, yeah, that's what I'm gonna go with. Yeah, I was just trying to figure out that.
Speaker 1:If I need to say anything else, well, I do want to say the funny part is when you send something and you read it and you like read it again, you're. I don't understand what the fuck the problem is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I, I said that's why I say Reese is definitely like he'll be like what the nigga meant was this. And you're like, oh, okay, yeah, so that I didn't convey that, got you, got you, I got you, um, yeah, um. So building trust. What strategies can leaders implement to foster psychological safety for open discussion strategies.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you got to practice the, the, the habit of not letting the conversation leave the room yeah I think that's what's most important, because you got to have a. It has to be a level of trust that whatever is said or shared within the room or within the collective stays within the collective and you're not spreading the information outside to get other, outside opinions.
Speaker 1:I like that. You said strategies right, yeah strategies.
Speaker 3:You said strategies right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, strategies. As a leader, I think it's important to, when those things do get uncomfortable, you act accordingly. As to the things like we said earlier, like don't respond in the way of off the handle or take the time to maybe I need to stop and count to five seconds before I respond to this shit. Like, be the example of what you want to see in a conversation is a strategy I could think of, because I don't know how else you do effective communication unless a team building shit I don't fucking know Like I mean team building is also important, like you do you, like I mean team building is also important.
Speaker 3:Like you do you. You should spend time with each other outside of just whatever the creative circle is, because you have to.
Speaker 2:That's how you further relationship, because you have to see um each other as humans and not just teammates type type deal you know, I mean I also think, like when we do like, for example, like when you came out the hoop, you kind of get an idea of a person's uh makeup in that, in those regard, in those settings, because like we're playing for fun but at the same time you're like I'm pretty sure you like this nigga's competitive as fuck, like, so like you do learn things in those team building instances where you're like okay, so I know this motherfucker's got the heart to, to see certain things through us and not just going to give up in certain instances to like it. So it's important to be like when you do a sport. When people go play paintball or or bowling or whatever, you kind of get an idea of what they're cut from, like. Or like king guy said you see if, then if he got the dog in him or not, so like I'm not gonna roll my ankle to win the pickup basketball.
Speaker 2:I was thinking about your layup yeah, when I passed you the ball and you looked at me like this ain't gonna go to.
Speaker 3:You think in my defense I was about 30 pounds heavier, so I'm gonna give you the ball and you looked at me like this ain't going to go the way. You think In my defense I was about 30 pounds heavier.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to give you the pass again. Are you going to?
Speaker 3:Let me get down by another 20 pounds.
Speaker 1:But here's the thing is, he gave you an honest face.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I said, but it was such a clean pass, that's what got me. I was like nigga, this is one of the prettiest passes in my life.
Speaker 1:He said good pass, but nigga.
Speaker 3:Shit. Yeah let me know hey.
Speaker 1:That is true. Have you ever had that happen where you seem to might go a little too hard, where you're like hey, this nigga.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like he a little. You remember were you there for Hustleman.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:I saw that nigga again, I said nah, we're good, they were like you want to go hoop.
Speaker 1:No, I'm good.
Speaker 2:They're like what are you doing? No, I'm good, Because that motherfucker would go out there.
Speaker 3:He wasn't even part of the game. He intrudes on your game, yeah. Are y'all playing 21? What score? I'll start from.
Speaker 1:No, nigga, we're playing like you're not part of the group like who said you can be part of the group you don't want. On the team you're like that's you doing too much?
Speaker 2:there was one time he came I think a different time, pause, uh and he came out in sandals and hooped and he was trying to intrude on the game. I said, nigga, I'm not playing you, let alone in the sandals, I'm not playing. And then there was one time where he just openly gave a story I didn't ask for to let me know. This nigga was crazy because he was like yeah, man, there's one guy said some shit to me in the parking lot. I said let's fight right now. I said why are you telling me this? Like he said he was trying to like, seek this nigga out in the parking lot. And I said I feel like there's a reason why you're telling me this and I need to get the fuck away from you.
Speaker 3:I just I never. I couldn't trust him. I mean, I said it's the reason why the nigga do that. He was playing dirty as shit, yeah, but then he would try to close some Bible verses to you, like nigga, if you don't get out my face with this center nigga like he was. He was there I mean, you just literally just pushed an elbow three guys purposely to get the ball.
Speaker 2:Well, you know, the lord don't like no, we don't like you right now you got here hey, he communicated effectively yeah, that motherfucker there, boy, I'll tell you that he was, uh, he was off man. I haven't seen him since and I'm thankful for that he's at another gym.
Speaker 3:Just shorming people. Somebody called 5150 on that nigga.
Speaker 2:I told you about. There was another old dude there that called me out and that's why I ended up pooping that day, right? Oh no, he called you out. He said you ain't gonna do shit, but eat anyway. And I was like this one, oh, he challenged me.
Speaker 1:Damn, that's disrespectful. Nothing but eat. What's that mean?
Speaker 2:Because it was on the holidays, so because I was like he was like we have to run full, you running.
Speaker 1:I was like man I don't know, and he was right, and you know I'm gonna fuck you.
Speaker 2:I just didn't like the insinuation. Let me get to my own conclusion, okay, so, with that being said, this has been episode 181 of the heavyweight podcast shout out to Des the diva we'll see you. She will be back soon.
Speaker 3:Eventually.
Speaker 2:But, with that being said, we appreciate you. Thank you for rocking with us. Like, subscribe, share and comment. Until next time. We love you, peace, peace.
Speaker 1:Sweating. That's a wrap y'all. That's how she wrote, so make sure you click like subscribe. Tune in we on the Austrian platform. So until next time we'll holla at you.
