The Heavyweight Podcast
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The Heavyweight Podcast
Bye Robot
Aging brings newfound freedoms, tech advancements, and a fresh perspective on life! From senior discounts to imagining a future with helpful robots, there’s so much to embrace. Personal growth thrives on relationships that push us forward—family motivates us to be our best, balancing self-improvement with life’s challenges. Join us for heartfelt stories about change, resilience, and the powerful influence of loved ones on a fulfilling future.
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Speaker 2:The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can weigh in on some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation. What's good? This is episode 175 of the heavyweight podcast. I am your anti-social host, never your favorite.
Speaker 1:Stutter McFly, with these two guys, go ahead, state your name for the beautiful people out here it's uh, your boy, mo to the lethal, mo to the moesha, it's like the when jay did the ad-lib that's all I remember thinking about is yeah uh, I go by the name of sleazy jay, or sleazy jay, is that?
Speaker 3:sleleazy Johnson, is that for your reputation?
Speaker 2:I hope not. I hope you don't go by Sleazy no.
Speaker 1:Who's Sleazy? You know Sleazy J. Did he steal my name?
Speaker 2:No, he said Sleazy Johnson. That'd be horrible the reputation I have.
Speaker 1:Why Some people throw it in buckets. That's the old one. That's the old one, that's the old Kif okay how were your weeks?
Speaker 3:it was cool. I'm fat. I probably gained 20 pounds because I was fucking that food up. How were your weeks? It was cool. It was cool, I'm fat. I probably gained 20 pounds because I was fucking that food up. Thanksgiving. I said I'll lose it again. I knew it was going to be a problem when I was eating dressing and mac and cheese in the same food.
Speaker 2:Did you just look at the spoon and go?
Speaker 1:what did you do?
Speaker 3:I ate the mac and cheese and dressing the same time. I put mac and cheese on the fork and I dipped it in the dressing.
Speaker 2:Did you hear hypertension or what you?
Speaker 1:know, made my blood pressure go higher. Did it I? Did I did I ate? I ate nigga gravy, so I can't say nothing.
Speaker 3:I would. I mean, I did have a little bit of yam juice on the dressing at the same time too you all don't do chitterlings. I don't really do the pork anymore. My wife loves chitterlings we do you do.
Speaker 1:I shouldn't do that. Like it smelled good. It don't smell good. That's a lie.
Speaker 3:Like it's a lie I mean I grew up, you know, you know I grew up. I mean I, I was raised by country folks maybe we should, I don't.
Speaker 1:We hog, is that one thing we shouldn't keep?
Speaker 3:tradition is the slave food should we like cut that off man, look here it's delicious, but it's like it's delicious, it's delicious. Everything else we found's delicious, but it's like it's delicious, it's delicious.
Speaker 1:Everything else we found out was bad, but we was like it's funny.
Speaker 3:You said that, okay, because my mom was talking about the other week. She was a man. I ain't made no pig feet in a long time.
Speaker 2:I said damn, I thought I was thinking when was the last time want some pig feet right now, with my house off, eating on the knuckles? My dad used to do all that shit.
Speaker 1:I just look at him like Look at him. Yeah, you wouldn't like my grandfather, because oh, they didn't like how I ate them, Because my grandpa was like your mama made pig feet.
Speaker 3:This is what we're eating and we're not making anything else. You can eat this and I'll eat.
Speaker 1:And you ain't going to eat the gristle.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, Like either you eating this or you not eating, Like we not like you know how today, like you know, cause I mean I'm guilty of this, oh, I don't want to eat that. So okay, Well, we'll make you something. Very, I guess you say eating.
Speaker 2:Sometimes that works. Your parents ever eat sardine cans in front of you.
Speaker 1:My wife does I do the oysters, the smoked oysters?
Speaker 3:I can't do sardines my wife does my dad used to just peel them open, put some hot sauce on them and start eating. That's what she did.
Speaker 1:A little halibut. Is that what it is?
Speaker 3:The herring. The herring is the one in the can.
Speaker 1:That it's fish.
Speaker 3:Let me tell you something, though. My uncle went to prison Like early 20s. He was a young man, came home, got out. He was Muslim. He didn't eat pork. That's how petty my grandfather was. He cooked nothing but pork for 35 days straight. So it took 35 days to convert my uncle back to christianity that's some mean shit.
Speaker 2:That is some mean shit. He said fuck you and your religion like that's.
Speaker 3:That's cold well, first of all, you're gonna tell my grandfather, who was a christian pastor, that you muslim and you in this house, you in his house, living under his roof, gonna tell him what you're not eating and you eating his food tell you what it was.
Speaker 1:It's's like nigga, you ain't.
Speaker 2:Muslim.
Speaker 3:That's the funniest story, so the weeks were good.
Speaker 2:My week was weekend. I mean, it was almost to the point I looked like the weekend.
Speaker 1:Did you say weekend or weekend?
Speaker 2:I couldn't feel my face.
Speaker 1:I don't know if it's appropriate for the thought I, the thought I had when you said it was weekend, I wasn't thinking him. I was like there's a meeting weekend I'm not.
Speaker 3:I thought the weekend.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna ask you what's first we might do a subdivision where I'm his cousin the weekday shit, what kind of music do you make?
Speaker 3:let's chill, just chill edm, it's a vibe.
Speaker 2:Whatever the vibe is I don't really say much to it, I just let it play and I might you might hear a. That's me. What are the words? I don't know. It's whatever. I feel the day it's a little yeah. So let's, uh, let's, get into the shenanigans shenanigans so how can we shift the societal perceptions of aging to promote a more positive narrative?
Speaker 3:of aging. Yeah, I don't really care, man.
Speaker 2:I feel like everything older is better you know, what's interesting is, I saw um this video on tiktok where they were saying uh, there was this black uh lady that was saying that she noticed the difference between 40 year olds now than 40 year olds back in yesteryear, and it would do a comparison of like a celebrity that was 40 then and then the celebrity was 40 now and like they look different, look completely different. Like there. I think they use like uh they look younger.
Speaker 2:Amari Hardwick and all that, and they're like this guy's this age, but then this guy back in the day was also this age. But they do Like this guy's this age, but then this guy back in the day was also this age.
Speaker 1:But the dude from back in the day looked way older. Now he looked younger. Drugs and alcohol their life expectancy was.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, it's Jonathan Major's excuse.
Speaker 1:He just Listen, listen, I will tell you he is a time traveler Like for real. He's a time traveler that nigga's old. He came in.
Speaker 2:It was a yes, I'm that nigga's old, but yeah, I think, uh, because I feel like, uh, that's somebody. Was it joe button's podcast that I was listening to where they were saying something? And it hit me when they said it because it made me real the realization. It was like sometimes we'll be looking at shit like man, you know, for an older woman she ain't have bad. You like nigga you're, you're right, like you, you got like you don't realize you're in that thinking process is changing.
Speaker 1:The best part, though, is when you go on like tiktok, facebook or any of those things and you're like, oh, you look terrible. And then you those things. And you're like, oh, you look terrible. And then you're like, oh, you're 35. Sweet, I'm doing. Okay, that's awful.
Speaker 3:What do you consider older? Yeah, we're older now, but like you don't realize that I've seen a lot of women in their 40s and early 50s that are banging.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:If I was, single, she could get it.
Speaker 2:We're right at that age though that you get you're. We get so used to being looking at ourselves as young that we don't realize that we're up there too, but we don't look like shit either. Yeah, we don't look like shit, but at the same token, like I don't.
Speaker 3:I don't because when I look at younger people now they irritate me. That's how I know I got old, Because if I see like, if I see a group of like early 20 year olds in the store, I'm like, oh fuck, Let me go over here to these niggas' leaves, because I don't want to interact with these young niggas.
Speaker 1:Nah, I'll be listening.
Speaker 2:I think this they were talking about Angel Reese and Sheck's interview and exchange and it was like he looked like the creepy older guy. And I was like, then you're like are we in that bracket?
Speaker 3:now Are we the creepy older guys now Think about it. Most of these Instagram TikTok famous girls right when they come across your timeline, they're like 25 and younger.
Speaker 1:Go make a comment in there, you'll find out real quick. They're like what you and younger. Go make a comment in there, you find out real quick.
Speaker 2:They're like what you doing with your whole ass family.
Speaker 3:It's your old ass. Like, like right. So I'm like in my mind I'm like dude. I'm like I was like 13 or 18 when you were like get the fuck off my four, you pay. Where's your mom? Let me see your mama next to him.
Speaker 2:I was gonna say something. I was gonna say something OnlyFans related, but we there?
Speaker 1:I think we there and I'm okay with it. I'm cool sometimes.
Speaker 3:I give advice. Do you ever give advice to the young? Is there a mature side of OnlyFans the YNs?
Speaker 1:there is actually there's. There's un-nude Only, only fans. There's a lot of it older fans there are people, people cooking on there oh, and people paper that.
Speaker 3:Yep, okay, that's wild, that's, that's wild, that is very wild.
Speaker 2:So what are some of the common myths about aging that need to be challenged?
Speaker 3:I think just because you're older you can't do certain things. If you take care of yourself properly, you should be able to maintain the lifestyle you want for a long time. Now you may have to do things in moderation or a modified version of them, but you should be able. You can still live a full life.
Speaker 2:I said this shit Yesterday. I said shit. Mike Tyson at 58 is what I want to look at at 35. You know what I'm saying? Like there's a lot of niggas.
Speaker 1:When you look at them you're like shit, sort of to be like yeah shit, like sort of I'm gonna give that caveat, sort of cause I don't wanna be like no, not the walking nigga.
Speaker 2:I'm talking about the shape, the in shape. I was like that motherfucker at 58. Shit, there's some people at 30 that would wish to look like that oh, y'all got a barrel um, I think it's. The misconception there is that you can't still be in shape when you get older.
Speaker 1:Oh no, you can't. Oh yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 2:Look at Dwayne.
Speaker 1:Johnson, how old is he? Yeah, he's not young, no more.
Speaker 3:There's a black guy. Go to the gym. Mikey Jim. He's probably about 60, 65. He's probably the strongest old man there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think, when you get older, that you're weak or that you can't be strong, and it's like, nah, it's just, if you don't use it, you lose it. Yeah, yeah, I feel like fellas. People act like it's. It's uh, like you're just dying. You're getting close, you just well, you're getting closer to dying, but it's like you still, you're gonna live. You might do more living when you start getting older, like I know some people when they, oh, you retire, oh you, you live it. Yeah, where you at. Oh, we're in rome, like, oh, yeah, okay, what's up?
Speaker 2:shout out, yeah, shout out to ed leone, our co-worker. He just, uh, he, it was a couple months ago or a month ago. He had gotten back from vacation. He was gone like two weeks to maybe a month and I saw him. I was like man, man, you were gone for a while. He's like yeah, I was on vacation.
Speaker 2:Man went with the wife and, um, he was like, yeah, yeah, we went to like France and somewhere else. He's like, but we ended up in France and he's like, you know, me and the wife, you know our schedules were so busy, you know, we figured, since the kids are out, out of the house and all that, we just figured. You know, when we take our vacation, we make it big in that moment and I said I fuck with that. It was like, like, we're just going to like he's, I already got money put away for the family, you know, the kids and you know, in the event of our demise, but like he said, right now I'm just going to the money I'm making, now we're trying to enjoy it. I said I fuck with that, like, and he just said we, they went to, they go to random, be off, and they just go, I'll fuck with that.
Speaker 2:Shout out to Ed Leon. I told you Ed Leon was the dude, that he was so smooth and suave. One day I said something telling me this nigga's wife is black and she's black.
Speaker 1:Listen, his name is Ed Leon. He's smooth.
Speaker 2:Chill as shit. You're like man. You're just so smooth. I was like your wife, black huh, and as soon as I saw her I said I fucking knew it. I fucking knew it. He was. What's your name? Leon? Yeah, leon.
Speaker 2:Like you first in there, chill as shit dude, but shout out to him but yeah, that shit was it kind of made you be like man, we just fucking like, we make the most of it, like fuck it, we're going to do it big. So, um, in what ways can older adults continue to grow and thrive?
Speaker 3:You got to keep your ears in the street. Man Like you can't, you can't, you can't do what I feel like I've seen my parents do, or like parents of like people our age do. Like they get so caught up in doing things their way that they have no interest in technology, and then when they need the technology, they come. They come to you to do all the technical stuff for them. Like so you got to keep up with the trends as far as like technology goes.
Speaker 2:Cause that was one of the fucking other questions you got.
Speaker 3:You got to keep up. Like I'm not saying that you got to be all on Tik TOK and all that other shit, right, you gotta keep up. Like I'm not saying that you gotta be all on TikTok and all that other shit, right, you ain't gotta. You ain't gotta participate in the social media aspect of the world, but you need to know how to Google some shit. Bing, you know, you know what I'm saying. Or Bing, right, load up the old Firefox and do something. Honestly, I think a part is don't dismiss.
Speaker 1:Load up the old Firefox and do something. Honestly, I think a part is don't dismiss the youth either. Yeah, because they may say some stupid shit, but there's some shit where you're like things is changing. That's right, you're right.
Speaker 2:I will say this and my answer it goes back to the last episode. Motherfucker, when you get older, it takes longer to heal.
Speaker 3:Yes, you do, oh yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So when you're in the gym and Mr Ego pops up, you remember what I told you. I went to the gym, I tried to play with some young whippersnappers, twisted my ankle severely, was afraid because it wouldn't heal, thought I broke it, went to the ER, only for the ER to say, oh, there ain't nothing wrong with you, you're just old, you're getting older, takes longer to heal. I said, damn like so, yes, just taking that account as you get older in order to thrive.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah you used to spray your ankle on Saturday. You'd be good by Monday and drink. Drinking too. Oh yeah, you got to drink it down.
Speaker 1:You can't. You ain't recovering. No, it ain't going to wake up and drink again.
Speaker 3:You know, four beers on Friday might not affect you in your 20s. Four beers on Friday on the 40s, you might be fucked up to Monday.
Speaker 2:Take into account how important, in order to grow and thrive, stretching eating, right yeah uh, keeping up with cardio, because a lot of shit, like, like you said, if you don't use it, you lose it, and then that shit will affect your overall health to where your life expectancy is lower because you're not staying active, yep, um, so yeah, just take that into account, because I felt older in that instance. When that nurse said, oh, you're no, there's nothing wrong, you're just getting older, I was like damn, like well, when you turn 40, they just start acting opposite yeah like hey, you're too young for this.
Speaker 1:You're like bitch.
Speaker 2:You just told me I was old but um, yeah, so, uh, I'm gonna just ask the question anyway, uh, and I'm gonna ask two questions at once. Fuck it, uh. What role does technology play in enhancing their lives as older adults? And, on top of that, can you share personal stories that illustrate the benefits of aging?
Speaker 3:the one benefit of aging is you get that goddamn senior discount that I mean. At what age are aging the one?
Speaker 2:benefit of aging is you get that goddamn senior discount that I mean. At what age are you talking about, though?
Speaker 3:55. That's a senior discount 55 and a life.
Speaker 2:Then we're just in that middle point where you just shit a lot.
Speaker 3:You look at it like this it's like when we were 18, insurance was high, right. Then you turn 21, it dropped a little bit. When you turn 25, it got great. Now you're not going to get another bump in insurance until you hit 55.
Speaker 1:One thing, too, is people leave you the fuck alone, Right, they go all, right, yeah.
Speaker 3:I'm like I got to fuck alone, unless your name is Jake Paul, he over here messing with senior citizens, but yeah, but technology is going to help you because it's going to help you automate certain things you can't do right. So when I think about technology like for aging people, like things like DoorDash, voice to text, voice to text, voice to text, what's the one that gets you groceries Instacart, instacart, stuff like that, even Uber you can't drive anymore. You know what I'm saying. Stuff like that helps you right. So that technology like that and advancement like that helps you, I think for a lot of older people. I don't think they probably like it, but I do think, like the whole telehealth thing is is is good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, to be able to.
Speaker 3:yeah, I agree To be able to um like you don't have to worry about going to your doctor all the time. You can seriously sit face to face Um you can get your meds delivered to you now you know what I mean. So like Like there's I mean there's some benefits, like you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, solitary when we put your ass in a home. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you can play. You can play checkers with Bob Y'all. Y'all going to be here all day.
Speaker 2:But we'll say, with telehealth though, if you got a lump or you can fall, I'm foggy, broke your hip, go to the go to the.
Speaker 1:Don't be like I think Nah, don't use the telehealth for that. I got a tumor, you don't? You got a mosquito bite.
Speaker 2:So if you guys had an opportunity to get one of those Tesla robots, would you get one?
Speaker 1:How far are?
Speaker 3:we talking? I was just thinking about the memes. How?
Speaker 1:long in.
Speaker 2:Anytime, like when you're older. Would you get one by then probably?
Speaker 1:would you get one by then probably?
Speaker 3:because it worked out by then, man, my greatest fear with them, tesla robots.
Speaker 2:I feel like it might be an iRobot situation that's cool, but if I'm older, then I feel like the biggest fear for the robots is that motherfuckers is perverted and the robots ain't gonna be used for their sole purpose or intention and they're going to be walking in on people. Oh fuck, this is dead and they're like what happened.
Speaker 3:He was fucking the robot, but on the flip side of that, I was like man. If I can get two of those robots to do everything I don't want to do, yeah. Yeah, that's the thing Like laundry yard work.
Speaker 1:Yeah, now if you're like starting to deteriorate, does the robot just off you Like?
Speaker 3:my question is do the? Can the robots take my car to get gas?
Speaker 1:I'm not using gas, I'm riding the robot. Are you kidding me?
Speaker 2:This motherfucker better be a transformer.
Speaker 1:You better run.
Speaker 2:Fuck.
Speaker 1:I think by the time we're older. Yeah yeah, it should be how the kinks worked out.
Speaker 2:We keep getting a distressed call from this address like are you doing something to the robot?
Speaker 1:Well, we got to give it like 15 years to find out if it's racist.
Speaker 2:They put racism in it. Why does a Model TY0571 have a wig on? Oh, that's disgusting.
Speaker 1:You know how many mods there will be, ugh.
Speaker 2:Did you create a hole in?
Speaker 3:You know, people are going to use those robots to babysit their kids. Yeah, didn't they?
Speaker 1:say that you can use this to babysit your kids.
Speaker 3:No, you can't?
Speaker 1:You're going to jail.
Speaker 3:No, Model J51 was supposed to babysit my kids? All I know is that maybe not our kids, but our kids' kids to be teenagers is going to be rough because you can just have the robot stand guard. Ain't no sneaking out because the robot going to spot your ass, because he going to sleep.
Speaker 1:Well, that robot's doing homework. Ask the robot, don't ask me.
Speaker 3:Ask the robot, yeah, explain everything, yeah.
Speaker 1:How do you do this block math? Ask the robot, kevin, you're going to fucking.
Speaker 2:Then that one. God damn it, kevin, don't trigger me that one Tesla robot that somebody can afford in the hood is going to get overwhelmed and just fucking explode.
Speaker 1:Oh no, that's where it's probably going to become racist from that. That's fucked up.
Speaker 2:I shouldn't say that that's our people Nigga out there like, hey, they tried to steal me three times.
Speaker 3:Well, if I could try to jack me for parts and shit. You know how much time I got to put in with my robot to teach him how to properly season shit.
Speaker 1:Well, if I could shit. You know what time I gotta put in with my robot to teach him how to see that properly seasoned shit. Uh well, if we come back hobbling on one leg, god damn it. I hate, I can't hate. I don't like how I think got a robot in the hood. You're walking out late today, I understand. Oh shit, that was rude.
Speaker 2:I fucking look like you coming in the morning smoking a cigarette. Stressed the fuck out what is life?
Speaker 3:hey man, hey hey man. What happened to your robot? He went to get some milk. We saw him on the corner asking for change. He went to get the milk. We saw him on the corner asking for change. He went to get the milk and never came back.
Speaker 2:He said he had to go to the factory for repair. Oh shit Fuck, oh shit, God damn.
Speaker 1:All right, can we name this one Bi-Robot?
Speaker 3:Fuck, oh shit, oh man, okay, my robot gonna hate me. Hey man we found this episode. Go out there and change them brake pads.
Speaker 2:That motherfucking fucking size and shit. Oh my god.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, I don't want to, but on the flip side is, you'll go in the south and you're gonna see a bunch of robots out in the fields picking up like this is the closest we can get it would be wrong.
Speaker 3:If they like, requested them to be in black, like where'd they get these?
Speaker 2:oh fuck, alright, alright that's hilarious transitioning, segue, segue, what prompted your desire for change the robot, ooh, transitioning.
Speaker 3:Segway. Segue what prompted your desire for change.
Speaker 1:The robot.
Speaker 2:Oh, you mean like throughout life, or like more currently yeah, just in life and your career, just your health, the way you live your personal life.
Speaker 3:I think I hit this point being serious. I hit this point around 26 where I just want it better. I just want, wanted better, I just wanted better. And then so I just I try to constantly take steps to achieve that and I think my drive to want better it just kept getting enhanced with every milestone that came along. So like I got married a little better Now I'm a dad, better Now I got a house. But you know what I'm saying, like it just it kind of just kept progressing. That's true.
Speaker 1:I think my biggest shift came when I joined the Navy, because I was oh man, I thought you said the biggest shift.
Speaker 2:I said I don't, I thought it was about change. You're talking about his bowel movement, okay?
Speaker 3:we ain't shit okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:No, it's fine that's they could change some things. But I think, yeah that because where I was doing, where I was living, where I was, it was just like can't be doing this and like I didn't know what the fuck to do. Like people that are close to me like you should have just kept pursuing comedy, and I'm like, yeah, but I need something like for sure at this point, like I'm sleeping in a loft like nah and then ever since creating a family, like everything is just geared around that that's where all the changes come from is with that, to make that as smooth as possible for everybody. I don't know if smooth is the best word, but I think you know what.
Speaker 2:I mean Good, mm-hmm, I'll say my desire for change came I've said it frequently is when Ava arrived I said, oh shit, shit gotta, she got to change. And I think even then too, when I went driving, it was the desire behind driving had everything to do with one to provide a better life for her, and it just made me want to push for better, more, even uh, the ways that we approaching, uh, this podcast is is for the desire to want better and more, because I'm sitting here spacing out and zoning out the fact that I remember us being in this garage three or four years ago in that hot ass sun yeah, and it sounded completely different and using some makeshift mic setup and now like to hear you guys clearly and kind of, have the experience now that we didn't have then is beautiful to see.
Speaker 2:So that is our for change Prompted this growth.
Speaker 1:I think one day we're going to come and film in here just for fun.
Speaker 2:Just to do it.
Speaker 1:Ain't even going to that fucking garage.
Speaker 2:I said, yeah, and the Tesla robots are gonna carry the equipment. Ain't that a no?
Speaker 1:no, we're gonna get five of them and be like, hey, you stand there and record from that angle and make sure you move and shit.
Speaker 2:He ain't even gonna have a camera, he just gonna the gonna be installed and shit and like damn man 16k I'm a piece of shit that's what they call no, I'm talking about that.
Speaker 1:That's the resolution, nigga, by that time, because I was like so you're saying the robot just gonna be puerto rican?
Speaker 2:okay, um, what okay? Can you share a pivotal moment that led you to start over and, more importantly, what fears did you face during the transition and how did you overcome them?
Speaker 3:Uh, for me it was a moment where I had to really begin to tackle, um, my depression and my grief over my grandparents. That sparked me to change and I had to prepare myself mentally and I kind of like flipped the switch to trying to live a life they'd be proud of. Instead of living and mourning and like missing them, I tried to live a life they'd be proud of. And I just remember, I remember my wife, man, she, she really hurt my feelings that night, but she says, but she said I didn't need to be sad. And she, she was like, would your grandparents be proud of you right now? And then that really forced me to take inventory of how I was living and what I was doing and it forced me to change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's a. I'm almost. It feels like what I said, was it this? Yeah, same thing with my job. Like that was a big change for me because, like I said, I was comfy man and that was like I was trying to come in at the same rate and try to strong arm my way in. And they was like nigga, what are you paying you that? So I was like I'm about to take a pay cut, like with a family, yeah, but I kind of knew that was a better option.
Speaker 1:So it was like one of those things where you're like all right, you gotta leave this comfort shit and just eat this shit, work a different schedule, you're going to not see your family for a little bit. It is what it is. But the outcome is a thousand times better because I looked at what we gain out of it. So that's what kind of drove me. It's like all right, fuck it, I don't know what we're going into. This shit might fail, who knows? But at the end of the day, everything about it turns out to be better.
Speaker 1:Because, even if this does fold, my resume is different. The things I've learned here is different. The way I'm going to maneuver and handle myself from now on is different. I'm not going in any place, making them feel as if they have the upper hand on me. It's like that shit's over. It's like I know what the fuck I bring, bring to the table and if you guys want to play that game, that's fine, I'll go to another place. You just lose me not a big deal. So it's like all of that shit changed me and my perspective on who the fuck I am by just making this leap. Because I was like I told you I thought I was retiring at that fucking farm, but some something said nah, nigga, you got to level up, double up, Because I wasn't moving up. There was nothing changing at the funny farm.
Speaker 3:Now they want you back.
Speaker 1:They can't afford me. That's a flex. That's a flex that's a flex.
Speaker 2:That's a flex. I think a pivotal moment besides having a kid and getting ready to to provide I think it was just wanting to do better and want better for myself was, I think, health reasons. Like when you hit, you go to a doctor and the doctor kind of presents some scenarios. Uh, if you continue down a certain trajectory and you go, you know what, that's the time and when I it's time to change how you view what you've been doing and realize that what you've been doing isn't healthy. And a lot of times with me, because I'm such a lover of like shit, like pizza, it can knock you off course, but what keeps you going is just just knowing that. You know you can. You're gonna have days where you stumble, but, um, being able to, to go in and and and push yourself, even when you've you've had days where you didn't, you weren't your greatest.
Speaker 2:Just the fact that you went in and did it at all, uh, it was, was, a was a lot of the, the, the, the kind of like the silver lining of it all. I remember when I fucking got injured, I felt like shit and I and I remember I had to take a break from, from working out and that shit put me in like a downward spiral, because you start realizing that, like you've realized, you've lost everything your momentum or progression, because you got caught up in something else and I was just so down on myself because I allowed myself to get injured is how I looked at it. Like you let yourself get injured because you're over here fucking trying to be Mr Big Bad in the gym and you lose sight of what you were trying to do it for because you were trying to get stronger and buffer. That's why I, like me, shout out to joseph um bonnie popatino uh, he'll tell me certain things.
Speaker 2:He'll like dude, I need you to lift more weight. And I'll tell him like, hey, man, like I get it. But if, like my body's telling me, don't, you, can't push it, I will not push it, because I just know I learned last time not listening and trying to go harder that I ended up hurting myself.
Speaker 1:So I've definitely been there, but nope you know, what's funny is I learned that shit in boot camp and, like my, my, I don't know, the drill sergeants learned that with me in real time because they were beating the shit out of us and I was like I can't do any more push-ups, dog. I'm trying and I'm drenched in sweat and I'm just. I was like Alex, you better hurry up. And I'm like this is all I got.
Speaker 1:He just looked at me and went yeah, that's all he's got and walked up and I was like I guess, if you're honest, I learned that shit Body is only going to do what the fuck the body's going to do.
Speaker 3:At some point it does. That's it.
Speaker 2:How did your relationships influence your decision to reinvent yourself?
Speaker 3:A hundred percent.
Speaker 1:Because family is different.
Speaker 3:A hundred percent Because they were the motivation for the change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's kind of like it's a little depressing to say when I hear it, because it's like I should be able to for the change.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and it's kind of like it's a little depressing to say when I hear it, because it's like I should be able to make this change for myself.
Speaker 1:But you're not in hindsight like that.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then it's also the motivating factor, because I want to see my kids grow up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you want to see them.
Speaker 2:You want to be here to see them get older.
Speaker 3:Because Joseph asked me the other day, yesterday, I said I said, honestly, bro, I want to be around to see my grandkids. That's where I'm at, because my daughter keep talking about kids the way she talks. She about to have 25 of them. So I want to be around to see my grandkids.
Speaker 2:So just to be able to be around to see them grow up. Yeah, just to be able to be around and see them grow up.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I'm saying, yeah, family is to me, is what that? But outside of that, I don't know. I don't know if there's much outside of that besides self. But that's much outside of that besides self. But it's the outside, right, yeah. So I'm not like aiming to be better than nobody or nothing like that. It's just like you said you want to be there and be the best you can be for them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like.
Speaker 1:I was trying to think of like people outside of the way.
Speaker 2:So what would you say, your?
Speaker 1:practical steps did you take to initiate this new chapter? Practical steps well, I'm working on some stuff. Working out is going to be a little more I'm not going to gym because little more and a lot more. I'm not going to the gym that's not my thing but I got workout methods.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I remember those days If I was going to get a contract, maybe. But yeah, I got to do shit like that. So it's like I got a lot to work on, I think. But other than that, it's just getting my ass up and making no excuses.
Speaker 2:I want to let you know now if you drink that beet shit. Don't be alarmed by the piss being pink.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I thought you were going to say doo-doo, because I was like if I got doo, do more of my name, I know, then I already do never no, no, no, I was gonna put too much colors.
Speaker 2:Oh, the color.
Speaker 1:Okay, because you'll be alarmed by how beet juice and anything beet related will make everything else red no, I I'll eat beets, just uh, the pickled ones, I eat beets too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but in a different way. What?
Speaker 3:was the question. I forgot the question.
Speaker 2:Bars. See what I did there. 2025 people Only gets better, oh man.
Speaker 3:I legit, forgot the question.
Speaker 2:What practical steps did you take to initiate this new chapter?
Speaker 3:Oh, I just I took it one day at a time. I just tried to be a little bit better. Initially I tried to be a little bit better, a little bit more financially stable each day.
Speaker 2:What steps did you take in that? What was it? Did you say level four, prestige? What got you there? What was it? Did you say level four?
Speaker 3:prestige. What got you there? What motivated that?
Speaker 2:Zombies Because I was like, God damn, we got to that fast. Zombies.
Speaker 1:Damn. You know what. I know what steps he took, or at least that other nigga took who was Swiss, oh shit.
Speaker 3:But yeah, I just just try to. I try to be better at something each day. So, like now, when I'm really working on is I have to, is trying to be more emotionally available for my child, because I think that's the hardest part about having the girls. Having a daughter like it's not the same interaction as you would, I, I would think, with a son. So I have to be the when she comes for me and she wants the nurturing, caring and all that. That's not natural for me. So I'm working on trying to be a little more comfortable in that area. Like you know, I can play, you know Tickle Monster and all that all day. But like, when she wants to like that, you know, because, like last night she was like, dad, I just want to cuddle with you. I was like, oh well, I kind of want to cuddle with your mama, but okay, but you know?
Speaker 1:Oh, I love the cuddles. Those are fun.
Speaker 2:You hear that Robinson Kid Just to cuddle.
Speaker 1:Are you talking about getting jumped on?
Speaker 2:38, 39 minute mark. You see cuddling no punch to the nuts. Oh, that's yeah. No dead I want.
Speaker 1:Hey, well, there's no cuddling right now.
Speaker 2:Nuggies. You got chicken nuggies, why not Because?
Speaker 1:the nuts. Oh, that's right. And yeah, yeah. That's why the jump on the nuts when you're like, hey, I'm not a stepping stool.
Speaker 2:Get the fuck off. They stomp a mud hole with them. Hard ass shoes.
Speaker 1:I be laughing when Amanda's sitting there and she's like oh, don't get off your dad, get off your dad. Yeah, it's too late.
Speaker 3:It's there.
Speaker 2:I'm already crying. It's already happened.
Speaker 3:There's already tears. I get a lot of uh. I get a lot of uh front tucks and uh handstands to the nuts like check this out.
Speaker 2:Did you know? I have amazon prime yeah you know how I got amazon prime a lark? Oh, he signed up for it, yeah, oh that's funny there the tv and the has the fire shit.
Speaker 2:So one day I got a charge on my but it was supposed to be a deactivated car. Right, I look back it was like no, you got charged for $14.99. You have Prime for the next however many days. I was like motherfucker, thanks, alaric. What do you want to watch? I don't know, but I've been watching Cross, or is it Alex Cross? I said nigga. I said well, I guess I'm here now. I said I guess I'm gonna use Prime in the next few days, like take, take advantage of my Prime membership. I was like motherfucking, like I was like this isn't right. What does it mean? I have Prime? What the fuck.
Speaker 3:I mean, that's why I swear by Apple now like I like, cause I have. We have all Apple TVs. So, like, on her TV is her account and so she can't just go in there and just get random shit On her iPad. It has to be approved, so you're not going to just be swiping cards.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, Swiper, stop swiping Nah.
Speaker 1:Nah, well, the kids know how to use Alexa now, so that's scary. Oh, hey Siri.
Speaker 2:I'm going start. Alexa, and then I'm like I'm gonna start sharing the screenshots to the text messages.
Speaker 3:I get now.
Speaker 1:That's all day don't do that, just let me be surprised. No, hey.
Speaker 3:Kevin, just wait. Hey, siri text my dad that I want something from McDonald's for lunch.
Speaker 2:Now I get gifts and shit Random gifts that make no sense. She thinks it's hilarious, but guess what? Dad's going to have to laugh too. I went through that phase too.
Speaker 3:I got 20 gifts of Maui and Moana in a row and she was like Dad look. I said it's not that funny.
Speaker 2:Stop blowing my damn phone up. That's what I got to do, yep, stop blowing my phone up. It's not funny, yep, thanks.
Speaker 3:We got sidetracked. God damn it, it's okay.
Speaker 2:It's good. This is good energy. What advice would you give someone struggling with the realities of aging and what advice would you give someone who was hesitant to make the change with life and a new chapter?
Speaker 3:What change are we talking about?
Speaker 2:Like career oh.
Speaker 3:Don't be scared. Don't be scared.
Speaker 2:Personal.
Speaker 3:Shit. Every success started with a risk.
Speaker 2:And it doesn't matter how old you are, yeah.
Speaker 1:I say shut up and stop being a bitch. It's a blessing to get old.
Speaker 2:So you took the the Buffalo Wild Wings approach.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they over here talking about aging. Like people act like aging's a bad thing. I'm like that's a blessing. I'm like enjoy that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I didn't think I was supposed to make it to 21.
Speaker 1:Shit nigga. Once it hits, you're like ooh, I probably should make different plans. I should make different plans.
Speaker 3:So my current plan was only to 20. Now that I'm at 21, I have to make a new plan.
Speaker 2:It's like so dear diary. It turns out I made it to 30. What do I do now?
Speaker 1:I'm only playing this far, yeah, I think that's Nine years too much. What the fuck do I do now? I could have been saving. I could have been planning what did Chris Rock say he was like 30 years when you hit 30, it was top five, that movie. Top five he's like that's when you decide if you're going to be homeless or make a career out of it. So, yeah, that's a pivotal moment. But yeah, like you said, with the the changes, it's like you can't change if you don't try yeah, yeah, I try yeah, so the thing is uncertainty is always going to be scary, oh yeah.
Speaker 3:But as my therapist says, you have to learn to be comfortable in the uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 2:I have a song where I say how can you triumph if you never fail? So you got to in order to be fucking celebrated or fucking achieve success. You got to understand what it was to deal with the failure to get to success. How could you know joy if you never had pain?
Speaker 3:What did Jay say? A loss is not a loss, it's a lesson.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's how I feel Like comedy. I hate when motherfuckers are like I've never bombed and I'm like you know you're not good, you're not. You don't even know what it feels like to be bad and how you maneuver out of that.
Speaker 2:I feel like you got to be able to embrace it and enjoy it. You got to know what the other side is like yeah. You can't be like oh well, I've always had good things happen. It's like well then, how do you?
Speaker 1:So when the bad happens, you're going to fold, yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, they're definitely the yin and yang are definitely uh needed, definitely so.
Speaker 2:With that being said, I also wanted to point out that, yes, des is not present with us today. Um again, she will be back soon she'll be back here talking her shit, we're we. She is with us here in spirit, and we are with her in spirit.
Speaker 3:And no, I don't know who asked, but she's not on the arc.
Speaker 2:She'll talk shit when she gets back to that statement, but again we thank you for rocking with us. We appreciate you. Like, subscribe. Share comment.
Speaker 3:All that shit.
Speaker 2:Thank you again, till next time.
Speaker 3:Peace, peace.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm sweating. That's a wrap y'all. That's how she wrote, so make sure you click like subscribe. Tune in we on the Austrian platform. So until next time we'll holla at you.
